Danielle Mullins and Mohamed Jbali are one of 90 Day Fiance's most controversial couples -- even though they're now bitter exes.
Back when they were together, one of Danielle's friends made a joke about Mohamed having lost his virginity to "his family goat."
Because many viwers pointed out that her jab appeared to have bigoted undertones, she is finally explaining herself to Danielle's fans.
Danielle's friend Beth Mahar took to Danielle's Facebook page to set the record straight.
"Ok folks," Beth writes. "Since my comment to Mohamed about his family goat is still such a hot topic for some people I am taking this opportunity to explain it"
"I am not racist in any way, shape or form," Beth insists.
"I am married to a Muslim immigrant from Pakistan," she shares, adding that she has been married "for the past 7 years now."
She even notes that "My husband is a much more devout practicing Muslim than Mohamed Jbali."
Obviously, friendship or even marriage does not preclude someone from being a bigot. But that doesn't mean that Beth is a bigot, either.
"This TV show, 90 Day Fiancé, etc, etc, is strictly for entertainment purposes only," Beth points out.
Beth says: "My comment to him about the family goat insinuating basically that the family goat was his first sexual experience was for entertainment value only"
"Was it inappropriate or in bad taste?" Beth asks. "Yes, probably so, and I sincerely apologize to anyone who it may have offended."
After that very reasonable apology, she writes: "(except Mohamed...LOL)"
"But seriously," Beth continues. "I truly am not racist and no TV show whether reality or not should be taken so damn seriously."
"By the way just for everyone's information," Beth explains. "That comment and filming of this particular scene was filmed over a year ago."
"Again," Beth continues. "I didn't mean to offend anyone other than 's--t head' and I certainly do not have anything against Muslims."
That is very reassuring to hear!
Beth concludes: "I hope this helps to clarify my comment for those who got the impression that I am a racist, Muslim hater."
This is a complicated topic!
On the one hand, it's absolutely a reality television show. No one should seek to emulate the behavior that they see from random reality stars.
On the other hand, the words that we say have impact, especially when those words are broadcast to millions of TV screens.
Inside jokes or personal jabs don't translate well through television.
Some people may be offended, while others may parrot those insults to others who are not Mohamed Jbali but merely share his skin tone.
It is great that Beth Mahar came forward to clear the air about this, even though it is admittedly pretty weird that she did it on Danielle's Facebook page.
(She could have made it on her own page and then let Danielle share it)
But it's important to remember that making fun of a bad person for something like weight, accent, or cultural differences doesn't just impact them -- it impacts entire communities.
You can poek fun at Mohamed's misdeeds if you like, but leave his culture out of it.