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It appears that the lengthy and expensive custody battle between Kathryn Dennis and Thomas Ravenel has come to a close.

Kathryn wanted full custody and Thomas demanded the same. Both accused the other of being an unfit druggie.

Now the court has issued its ruling. Who won?

Kathryn Dennis and Thomas Ravenel, Kensie Preschool Graduation
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In 2016, Kathryn Dennis temporarily lost custody of her children, Kensie and Saint, to Thomas Ravenel.

At the time, she had tested positive for marijuana. South Carolina is one of the states where the plant remains illegal.

In 2018, she regained partial custody.

Then, in light of his arrest for the alleged sexual battery of the children’s nanny, the two exes went to family court.

This time, Kathryn wanted full custody, but Thomas hit back hard, accusing Kathryn of being some sort of drug fiend and a danger to her kids.

Now, the judge has issued temporary custody ruling — but we can almost guarantee that neither parent is happy about it.

Kathryn Dennis and Kensie Ravenel at Preschool Graduation
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According to court documents obtained by The Blast, the judge has ordered that both parents will share joint custody.

Though Thomas will be the primary legal guardian, that is a far cry from what he had sought, which was Kathryn being stripped of custody.

The bitter exes are expected to work as a team — you know, as coparents — on issues regarding 5-year-old Kensie and 3-year-old Saint.

That means collaborating on concerns over their health, education, and other important decisions.

To smooth out this process, they have been ordered to attend at least three coparenting with a counselor.

Thomas Ravenel Mug Shot
Photo via Charleston County Sheriff office

Kathryn has also agreed to undergo Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (please, please do not abbreviate it as CBT).

Despite Thomas’ status as primary legal guardian, Kathryn’s visits with her children do not have to be supervised.

There are, however, some severe restrictions regarding both parents now imposed by the court.

Some of these seem designed to make sure that Kathryn and Thomas work together to be the best parents that they can be.

Other aspects of the judge’s ruling look like they’ll allow either party to make the other’s life a living hell.

Kathryn Dennis on Bravo
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RadarOnline reports on the details of the conditions that the court imposed.

One ruling, no doubt inspired by each parent accusing the other of drug use and alcoholism, is that they must remain sober around their children.

That means no drinking and no illegal drugs while they are with the kids.

Kathryn and Thomas may both have the other tested more or less whenever they like.

"Either parent may request ETG testing of the other," the court documents read.

Kensie Ravenel and Saint Ravenel on Instagram
Photo via Instagram

The judge’s ruling continues: "At any time when the parent has the children (for example – at the end of their parenting time)."

They need to issue this demand of each other in writing, at which point the other must take the test "within 24 hours of the request with Dr. DeHaven."

Kathryn and Thomas won’t be the only ones calling the shots, however.

"The Court shall retain the right to mandate alcohol and/or drug testing at any time," the judge affirms.

And when they have each other tested, both exes “will be required to provide the results to the Court."

Kathryn Dennis and Kids on Christmas
Photo via Instagram

Kathryn and Thomas are not allowed to trash-talk each other.

For all intents and purposes, that means that Kathryn can no longer mention her baby daddy on Southern Charm

They cannot get around this rule by having surrogates insult each other, either.

Speaking of third parties, neither are allowed to have sleepovers with significant others while they have the kids.

Also neither parent is allowed to have the child refer to a significant other as if they were a parent.

(Our guess? That last one may have been Thomas’ concern that, if he goes to prison for rape, his kids may call someone else "daddy")

Kensie and Saint Ravenel
Photo via Instagram

The court instructed them both that they’re not allowed to harass, harm, intimidate, etc. the other’s friends or family.

Both parents are also barred "From exposing the children to any violent or profane language, materials, conduct."

Okay, sure. Most parents don’t need a court order for that.

They are similarly ordered to refrain "From exposing the children to any age inappropriate movies, video/computer games, and websites."

It’s unclear if this was a specific problem or just something ordered to cover all of the parenting bases.

Kathryn Dennis with Kensie and Saint
Photo via Instagram

Kathryn will have physical custody every other Thursday-to-Monday, and just for Thursday-to-Friday during the off weeks.

She and Thomas will continue to use a coparenting app in order to coordinate.

Exchanging the children — always a tricky matter in heated custody cases — is ordered to take place at the children’s school.

Naturally, Kathryn and Thomas are both barred from badmouthing each other to their children.

We’re sure that both parents, terrible though Thomas may be, don’t want their children dragged into adult issues.