Even the most sympathetic Mel Gibson fan knows it has to happen.
No, he hasn't been charged with a crime (yet). No, Oksana isn't some sweet, innocent victim. No, his firing from The Hangover 2 probably wasn't totally fair.
Still, the Mel Gibson rants are what they are. Repulsive, scary and unbecoming of any human being, let alone an all-time movie star. So where's the apology?
Mel Gibson will finally testify next week in his child custody case. But in the court of public opinion, the actor has more than a little explaining to do as well.
According to reports, the actor is starting to realize that remaining silent may be a smart legal strategy, but it's doing him no favors in the eyes of the public.
It's only a matter of time before the fallen star tells his side of the story, at least in part, if for no other reason than to begin resurrecting a tarnished image.
Since the second the tapes were released, every media outlet has been contacting Mel's people asking for an interview. No response. But that might change."Mel has finally realized if he doesn't say something, it might be too late," says a source. "The days of just hoping this whole ugly mess goes away are over."
Mel could pretty much hand-pick any media outlet, and everyone from Oprah to Letterman and The View, but insiders say he'll likely sit down with a male.
"Mel did an interview with Diane Sawyer after his anti-Semitic remarks several years ago, and that didn't go so well for him," a friend of the actor says.
"Now, with the stakes even higher, everyone thinks it would be better for a man to sit opposite another man to discuss everything that has been going on."
"I suppose the first choice would probably be Matt Lauer. It's certainly not going to be Oprah Winfrey after she almost got [Oksana Grigorieva] to tell all."
Matt's skill and integrity cannot be denied, but no matter what, unless Mel Gibson is willing to accept responsibility, this isn't going to end well for him.
There are details he can't or won't go into given the police investigation, but "Mel must be aware of what he needs to do. And that is to say, 'I'm sorry.'"
Should Mel sit down with Matt? Do you want to hear what he has to say? Should he stay silent and let Oksana ruin him - or self-destruct?