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The priest officiating Nicole Kidman‘s wedding to country crooner Keith Urban says the key to their lasting happiness could be as simple as keeping things spontaneous and fresh.

Father Paul Coleman, a friend to the Kidman family for nearly 30 years, told the Sydney Morning Herald that he has been advocating these methods for the couple to keep love and romance blossoming during their marriage.

“You’ve got to use little strategies, strategies [such as] surprises, keeping some form of romance in the relationship, even after 20 years,” he said. “To me, it’s wonderful that Keith’s mother and father have been married for 42 years and Nicole’s mother and father have been nearly the [same]. That’s an outstanding achievement and something that fills you with hope.”

Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban at 2017 AMAs
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Kidman and Urban will reportedly wed on Sunday afternoon, although the exact time and place have been closely guarded by the Australian couple. It will be Nicole’s second marriage, after her 10-year union with possibly insane actor Tom Cruise broke down in 2001.

While Coleman refused to confirm where or when the service would be held, he did say the ceremony would take under an hour, and mentioned the homily he plans to deliver. He will urge Kidman and Urban to find time for one another despite their hectic schedules.

“It will be after one of the scripture readings just to put what the marriage means in the context of the lives of Nicole and Keith,” he said. “You need to find time. Everyone’s so busy today, with their work and paying off mortgages and looking after children; somehow we just have to find [the] time for each other.”

However, Coleman said he did not want to concentrate during his homily on the unique difficulties of a celebrity marriage.

“I wouldn’t want to do that. I’ll tell them the top priority for them will be their life together as husband and wife, and that is more important than their career, their car, anything. Every marriage has problems … money or not, that’s not the issue. The issue is two people and their relationship. And that’s got to be kept beneficial and fruitful,” he said.

He also discussed his meeting with the happy couple earlier this week.

“I had to meet with them because they’d been in the United States and I’m here and I didn’t want to just go out cold … and try to officiate at the most significant moment in their life. It was a wonderful meeting, very impressive couple and I have high hopes for both of them.”

The issue of Keith’s faith — he is not a Catholic — will not be a problem at all, the priest said. Coleman described Urban as an ‘anonymous Christian’ with spirit of God in him, albeit no official affiliation.

In related news, Kidman’s two children have arrived in Sydney in advance of the wedding. Isabella, 13, and Connor, 11, are believed to have flown to Australia in a private jet from Tokyo, where their father, Cruise, is promoting his new film, Mission Impossible: III.

Isabella and Connor, both of whom are adopted, were picked up at Sydney Airport by Kidman’s security staff in a black Mercedes and sat in the back seat hidden behind tinted windows. They arrived shortly thereafter at the Darling Point home that Kidman bought with Cruise.