The Bachelor Recap: Serious and Somber in Singapore

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The Bachelor aired a few light-hearted moments on January 28, but a bulk of this unique episode was dedicated to a very serious subject matter.

During her one-on-one date with Colton, Caelynn Miller-Keyes opened up about having been sexually assaulted in college.

It was a raw and honest and upsetting conversation, though one that certainly captured the attention of all viewers.

We admire Caelynn for telling her story in this manner.

How did Colton react? What else transpired this week? And who was sent home?

Scroll down for a recap of this special episode (and visit our section of The Bachelor spoilers if you wish to see what happens next)...

1. What Had We Seen Thus Far from Caelynn?

What Had We Seen Thus Far from Caelynn?
Viewers had previously seen Caelynn feud with Hannah B., a fellow beauty pageant contestant who the 2018 Miss North Carolina actually knew prior to The Bachelor.

2. But That Feud Was Not an Issue This Week

But That Feud Was Not an Issue This Week
Instead, Caelynn told Colton about what happened to her when she was a sophomore in college and attended a fraternity party in 2014 with three friends.

3. "Something Really Bad Happened"

"Something Really Bad Happened"
"They drugged our wine," she told Underwood. "I woke up the next morning completely naked in my bed and had no memory of the night before. I had a small vision of a guy in my bed and I just had this pit in my stomach that something really bad happened last night. My girlfriend called and said three of us were all sexually assaulted."

4. This is What Happened:

This is What Happened:
Caelynn said her friend told her that after her two friends passed out in a bed at the party, two men allegedly had sex with them, in the same bed, while they were incapacitated. "The girlfriend who didn't drink the wine called me and told me that not only did a guy come home and have sex with me, another guy — I was passed out on the couch from the drugs and he said, 'Watch what I'm about to do' with all his fraternity brothers around me and he lifted up my dress. They watched and laughed and took photos" and shared the photos on Snapchat."

5. The Trauma Continued...

The Trauma Continued...
"It was horrible It was absolutely horrible," Miller-Keyes told Underwood. The next day, Caelynn reported the assault to the police -- but when she first went to get a rape kit, she was turned away by the hospital — "which is illegal," she added of being told she had to file the report first. By the time she arrived at the second hospital and spoke with police, the results ended up being inconclusive because too much time had passed.

6. One Student Was Expelled. The Others Got Away with It.

One Student Was Expelled. The Others Got Away with It.
"I was determined to get justice and seek justice," said Caelynn on air. "It's something that will always be a part of me. I struggled with the shame and guilt that I had felt. It's the most difficult thing in the world. It's so painful and it screws up every ounce of you."

7. Colton Responds:

Colton Responds:
"I want you to know that with me, you're safe," he told Caelynn. "I can't even imagine going through something like that. I know talking about it is not easy. The fact that that happened to you is devastating."

8. He Sort of Understands

He Sort of Understands
Colton dated Aly Raisman, an Olympic gymnast who was molested by Dr. Larry Nassar. "I have had a situation in my past where I was in a relationship in which she was sexually abused," he explained. "For me, that was the hardest thing I ever had to watch, going through something with someone. Looking into her eyes and just knowing the pain associated with it. Who am I to feel the pain when I wasn't the victim?

9. Back to His Virginity

Back to His Virginity
"I think that's one thing people never understand is the intimacy that goes along with what you've experienced, and I've been on the other side of it," Underwood explained to Miller-Keyes. "And for me, for that to be my first love and the first person I found for me and it didn't happen — and opening up last year about my virginity wasn't the easiest thing to do.... But I think the thing I realized is that everyone who asks me why I'm not a virgin, they expect this simple answer. They want a reason. And my reason is complicated."

10. One-on-One with Tayshia

One-on-One with Tayshia
There's no easy segue here, but Colton also had an individual date with Tayshia. They went bungee jumping, with Colton very hesitant to do so at first -- but then they both took the plunge and bonded over it.

11. A Major Confession

A Major Confession
And then Tayshia admitted to Colton: “I actually married my first boyfriend and I was with him for about six years. You can’t make somebody want to be married. It’s the toughest thing I’ve gone through.”

12. With This Rose, I Thee Like

With This Rose, I Thee Like
Impressed with Tayshia’s openness and ability to recognize what makes her happy, Colton gave her the rose.

13. The Group Date

The Group Date
The 13 women (Hannah G., Elyse, Kirpa, Syndey, Heather, Onyeka, Tracy, Nicole, Demi, Courtney, Katie, Cassie and Hannah B.) chosen for this experience met Colton to explore Singapore.

14. Hannah Felt Like She Was Being Ignored

Hannah Felt Like She Was Being Ignored
“It’s hard to know how to act,” she said. “I tried to make conversation with him, and I feel like he doesn’t say anything back. I feel like his attention is on all the girls except me.”

15. Courtney Also Felt Ignored

Courtney Also Felt Ignored
“It’s really frustrating because I have been waiting patiently and being respectful to all the other girls,” she said. “I’m just trying to keep it together so that I can be in a place to talk to him.”

16. Demi Intervenes

Demi Intervenes
Demi encouraged Courtney to take the initiative and approach Colton, but she didn't listen and continues to vent instead. “At the end of the day, you can’t make excuses and you have to act,” Demi said.

17. A New Rivalry Emerges

A New Rivalry Emerges
Demi got sick of hearing Courtney complain and went to find Colton, leading to some animosity. “I was open about being upset about not having time with Colton and you acted like you were genuinely concerned,” Courtney told her later. “I feel like sometimes your actions and behaviors just kind of like solidify a maturity level.”

18. It Turned Ugly at the Cocktail Party

It Turned Ugly at the Cocktail Party
“Courtney, she is the cancer of the house,” Demi told Colton. “Out of all of the women here, the one person that I think that is definitely not deserving of your heart is her and I don’t want you to waste any more time on her.”

19. Who Was Sent Home?

Who Was Sent Home?
Sorry, Tracy. It was back to America for you.

20. And Courtney!

And Courtney!
Demi was this round, huh? By a wide margin.

21. I Win!

I Win!
“Dr. Demi cut out the cancer,” she joked after the rose ceremony.

22. On a Serious Note, Though

On a Serious Note, Though
After Miller-Keyes and Underwood's conversation ended and before The Bachelor cut to commercial, the ABC series ran a PSA for RAINN, asking anyone who has experienced sexual assault to call 800-656-HOPE or visit On Monday, before the episode aired, Underwood took to Twitter to ask viewers to "please to be kind, respectful, and understanding to everyone involved."

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