Oussama Says Debbie Has a "Mental Sickness" on 90 Day Fiance The Other Way (Recap) By Author Simon Delott at Apr 24, 2023 • Category Daniele Gates You might think that, by Season 4, Episode 12 of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way, the cast would be done clowning around.Unfortunately, you would be mistaken.Trust issues and unpleasant surprises continue. And there are new twists and turns for these couples to navigate. And a lot of them are arguably their own faults.Take a look at our recap, below! 1Debbie Aguero and OussamaStill at his family home, Oussama plays with an adorable little cat. His love of cats is what first endeared him to many viewers. After this episode, it doesn’t look like that’s going to be enough anymore. 2Debbie is ready to goYou know how you sometimes stay somewhere and the house is maybe a bit warmer than you like? Maybe it’s quieter, or louder, than you want. Maybe the bathroom’s weird? Well, Debbie is dealing with that, magnified. Because she’s not in a slightly different home in Georgia — she’s in Oussama’s family’s home in a rural area of Morocco. And she says that it’s basically a miracle that she was able to get ready that morning. 3OHDebbie explains that the shower involves a hose, and that the toilet — there seems to be just one — has upholstery. This isn’t one of those weird shag rugs that people put over a toilet lid to match the bathroom rug. This is upholstery directly on the seat of the toilet. Debbie doesn’t mention any of his to Oussama when he comes by, of course. Instead, her focus is on showing gratitude to her hosts. 4Debbie brought gifts for Oussama’s familyWe don’t see everything, but she brought his dad art supplies. He expresses surprise, and that he is very touched. 5And then he says thisOussama’s father excitedly talks about how he is happy that Debbie will be taking Oussama to the United States. Um, what? Oussama translates for Debbie, who doesn’t choose to argue with him then and there. But it’s clear to her that he has misled his family about their plans. What she doesn’t know is why. 6Debbie tries to non-confrontationally clear the airIn the name of there being no confusion, she explains that she and Oussama will live in Morocco. Not there, not near the family, but in Rabat. Which is what she and Oussama had already discussed … but she doesn’t mention the fact that she has no idea why Oussama would tell them that he’s going to America. She’s a little too polite for that. 7This is clearly a shock to Oussama’s familyAnd Debbie can tell this from their faces. Oussama tells them that it’s fine with him, but … it’s a deeply weird situation. And everyone in the room is uncomfortable about it, even though no one is talking about it. 8What is going on?Debbie has noticed that this is not Oussama’s first lie, and now she has caught him in another. These aren’t even “good” lies — they’re huge things that she’d inevitably find out about, that everyone would. What is his game? 9Later, Debbie and Oussama go on a walkSure, the conversation with his family was awkward. But, for now, they’re just enjoying some time together. And it looks like they’ve kept so busy that they either haven’t had a chance to discuss the future, or one of them has just avoided any serious planning. 10Debbie’s donkey ride!After serenading a donkey in a way that reminds us of some sort of 1980s fantasy story, the kind that was slow paced but really spent time savoring the wonders of a world, it’s time to ride. Debbie warns Oussama to go slower. 11Whoops!Despite her tumble, Debbie is okay. She laughs, though she laments such an undignified fall. 12The two begin to paint while enjoying the beautiful viewHowever, Debbie likes to talk, hum, and sing while she works. Oussama clearly prefers absolute silence, and he’s not getting it. 13His mood gets even worse when Debbie wants to talk about the futureShe wants to lay the groundwork for their life together. That means looking for an apartment and much more. Oussama wants to paint in silence and discuss this “later.” 14Debbie has heard that beforeDespite a lot of doubts and insecurities, Debbie wants to live with him. So, she keeps it simple — tonight, can they look at apartments in Rabat together? Just looking online to figure out where they want to live? 15Oussama does not want to talk, period“Are you crazy?” he demands of Debbie, insisting that they cannot do “everything” in one single day. 16“You have like mental sickness or something”At this point, Oussama is just insulting Debbie, lashing out in anger. Why? Ostensibly, it’s because she’s somehow rushing to make plans. But it sounds like he probably feels embarrassed that she and his family now both know that he has lied to them both about his intentions. 17Debbie feels hurt and indignant“What?” she asks. This is an emotional betrayal that arguably hurts worse than any of the previous lies. And then it takes a weird, dark turn. 18“Bring me to the USA”Oussama tells her that “their” plan is that she will take him to the United States, where he will work. If she doesn’t like that, he threatens, then they can break up. That is a total change of plans, it is an ultimatum, and it’s not clear to Debbie or to viewers where all of this is coming from. Not the anger, not the change of plans, and not any of it. It’s hard to watch. 19Daniele Gates and Yohan GeronimoAfter Yohan humiliated her at his birthday party, Daniele expected — or, at least, hoped to receive — an apology. Instead, she has gotten more passive aggressive weirdness from her husband. Yes, he’s still obsessing over her desire to meet up with a friend. Why? Because they were an item for a few months, years ago. 20Part of this is a cultural differenceBut part of this is definitely a case of Yohan being a jerk. And part of it is the ongoing clash and mutual disrespect that we’ve seen before in this marriage. They have communication issues and more. Yohan refuses to meet this man, which makes it so much weirder. 21Just for the record, Daniele and Taylan meet in a public placeThey go on a casual boat tour. In addition to the production crew, there are also just other random people there. This has the exact vibe of any two friends meeting up to catch up, which makes sense, because that’s what they are. Their story is simple — they met in Florida and ended up living together for 5 months early in the COVID-19 pandemic. Though they were intimate during that time, he sees her more as a friend and mentor. (Just a quick note — we have seen his name as “Taylan” and “Taylen.” When we streamed the episode, the subtitles said “Taylan,” so we’re going with that) 22Daniele admits that her marriage has issuesHer friend expresses his surprise. He never really imagined that Daniele, who is so assertive, would end up in this kind of relationship. Meanwhile, Daniele is wondering if this isn’t where she should be in her life. She wonders if she should be mentoring and nurturing growth in Yohan or if she should find someone who can teach her something. That’s … one way of looking at things. 23Gabriel Paboga and Isabel PosadaIn Florida, Gabe sits down with his sister, Monica, and his mother, Marie. Marie is on the left, by the way, which is something that we have to point out because these two incredibly gorgeous women look like they could be sisters. 24Anyway, Gabe proposed to Isabel!His mother and sister did not know about the engagement. And Gabe has been back in Florida for a while at this point. He has just felt nervous about telling them. 25Monica is SO directGabe’s mom also expresses her surprise, but she’s also seemingly happier for her son. Monica is sort of … tentatively happy for Gabe, but she also worries that he is impulsive. They both wish that Gabe had told them, though Gabe says that he got his tendency to keep things private from his mom. 26This is called being supportive but honest at the same timeAs Gabe is well aware, Monica has spotted major red flags with some of Gabe’s ex-girlfriends. She is protective of her big brother, and she has not met Isabel, so she is just sort of wondering what she’ll be like. 27The wedding date is … next monthIsabel is doing the wedding planning. Like, all by herself. This is really late to tell your family about a wedding, especially if Monica will be part of the wedding party, and especially when it’s in another country. Meanwhile, Gabe also gives them good news about how Isabel’s parents responded pretty well to learning that he is transgender. 28There are a few bumps in the conversationGabe notes that Isabel has a similar assertiveness to Monica, so he wonders if they will clash or get along. Meanwhile, he also admits that he’s not doing a prenup. He feels that this would be setting things up for failure. That is … not what prenups are. Buying insurance doesn’t mean that you’re setting yourself up for a house fire or whatever, just that you’re prepared. 29Fast forward and it’s two weeks before the weddingGabe is headed to the airport, and Monica is driving him. 30Monica still has concernsShe wishes that her brother would get a prenup. She straight up tells him that it’s “stupid” not to. She’s not necessarily wrong, and that has nothing to do with Isabel. She also doesn’t know what Isabel is like, just that her brother’s exes have not always been good for him. Meanwhile, Gabe worries that Monica and Isabel will butt heads when Monica comes to Colombia for the wedding. 31But they love each otherBrother and sister hug each other goodbye at the airport. This is a huge deal for them, especially since Gabe will be moving to live with Isabel permanently.