Nicole Nafziger: Romancing a Muslim Man is Challenging Because ...

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Nicole Nafziger quit 90 Day Fiance after having to constantly fend off rumors about her relationship coming to an end. People can be so negative.

But their lengthy long-distance romance wasn't the only thing that haters had to criticize, and Nicole is not the only one to face this kind of struggle.

The reality is that white American women dating Muslim men from other countries face unique challenges.

Below, you can see a post in Nicole's Instagram Stories on the subject, along with how fans responded.

Looking at all of this laid out back to back, you can really see why someone would step away from the show.

1. Nicole is telling it like it is

Nicole is telling it like it is
Not all relationships are the same, and there's more than Nicole's long-distance romance with Azan that makes it a particular challenge. This is a challenge faced by other 90 Day Fiance stars. First, a brief recap.

2. Nicole and Azan are still very much together!

Nicole and Azan are still very much together!
We know that rumors have circulated that, just because they don't have a wedding date, they have broken up, but it's not true. We'll present evidence of this in a moment so that you don't have to ask Nicole yourself.

3. She knows that it's been a while

She knows that it's been a while
Some engagements last longer than others, folks, especially when it comes to an international romance with limited financial means, cultural barriers, and political obstacles. (This will be very relevant)

4. Nicole has shot down rumor after rumor

Nicole has shot down rumor after rumor
Quite frankly, she's tired of people constantly trying to convince her that her engagement is a farce. Who wants to hear that kind of talk?

5. She appreciates the truth

She appreciates the truth
Here, she gave a boost to a recent post outlining that she's still very much in a relationship with Azan, and describes their bond as being "stronger than ever."

6. They still have plans

They still have plans
Nicole and Azan are excited to make a life for themselves here in the United States, even if it takes time and multiple steps before that happens.

7. Fans have asked a lot of questions

Fans have asked a lot of questions
Nicole didn't set out to date a Moroccan man, but she fell in love with Azan. That's how life works out sometimes.

8. Azan can't come to the US just yet

Azan can't come to the US just yet
His K-1 visa application was denied, a plight shared by many -- particularly brown-skinned Muslim men named Hassan who come from northern Africa. It is wildly unfair.

9. But that hasn't ended their plans

But that hasn't ended their plans
Nicole has learned a ot about Moroccan culture, even since she first appeared on the show, and she and Azan are further cementing their bond with regular long-distance communications.

10. The "advice" gets to her sometimes

The "advice" gets to her sometimes
It's part of why she quit 90 Day Fiance -- she's tired of the hate and discouragement with which she is bombarded by "fans" after they see her on screen.

11. Please chill

Please chill
Nicole would love to see the 90 Day Fiance fandom be a little less pushy.

12. For now, it's back to work

For now, it's back to work
In addition to hawking certain products on Instagram, Nicole is once again working at Starbucks to provide for herself and for her precious young daughter, May.

13. Just look at her!

Just look at her!
May is the absolute cutest and also started school this past August. She's growing up so quickly!

14. Nicole is also working on something else

Nicole is also working on something else
Though she's always been beautiful, Nicole has been undergoing a body transformation. Not easy to do for anyone, but especially not for a working mom.

15. She's been flaunting the results

She's been flaunting the results
Nicole has taken to social media to show off her figure, and we're always happy to see her hard work pay off.

16. Here's the best one

Here's the best one
Nicole absolutely stunned fans with how great she looks just days after Thanksgiving. Though, again, she's always been gorgeous.

17. All caught up to speed?

All caught up to speed?
Good. Because the latest bit of buzz about Nicole has to do with her relationship status and her fiance. it also touches on some deeply upsetting topics.

18. Nicole shared this to her Story

Nicole shared this to her Story
Note that the original message was written by a fan, who gave a shoutout to more than just Nicole.

19. It's a heartfelt post

It's a heartfelt post
"I have a special respect for all 90 Day Fiance women who are in [a] Muslim relationship," the message begins.

20. Their courage is applauded

Their courage is applauded
"These women have got major courage and BALLS to diss hatefulness towards Muslim people and countries that's happening in the United States," the post affirms.

21. This post is in everyone's corner

This post is in everyone's corner
"I root for you," the post proclaims, tagging Avery Mills, Rebecca Parrott, and Nicole Nafziger.

22. One couple was left out ...

One couple was left out ...
... And while fans noticed their absence from the list, we should remind everyone that Danielle Mullins and Mohamed Jbali are very much exes. We think that they would both agree that they are not the best example of an American woman dating a Muslim man from another country.

23. Look who else shared it

Look who else shared it
Avery Mills "liked" the post when 90 Day Fiance blogger John Yates shared a snap of it, and also shared it to her own Instagram Story. Like Nicole, Avery has faced a slew of vitriol about her relationship decisions, though some of the attacks against Avery have focused on different things. What these women have in common is the faith of their respective men.

24. Naturally, people were nasty to Nicole

Naturally, people were nasty to Nicole
A slew of comments poured in on Instagram claiming that Nicole is deluding herself by thinking that this relationship will work.

25. Others denied that there's any bigotry at all

Others denied that there's any bigotry at all
A quick reminder that one, just because you personally do not see or experience bigotry does not mean that it doesn't exist. And two, only a small fraction of bigoted comments spell out what people actually hate about someone. You know how stores can't refuse to hire black people for being black but will "conveniently" ban all natural hairstyles for black hair? It's like that.

26. For anyone who doubts that there's hate

For anyone who doubts that there's hate
This was just one of the comments that I very organically ran across in response to Nicole's Story. This kind of Islamophobic is hateful bigotry at its most dangerous, and it's the sort of thing that Nicole sees all of the time. (Yes, comments got even worse than this, too awful to share. When you see things like this, report them to Instagram)

27. But some fans chimed in to agree with Nicole

But some fans chimed in to agree with Nicole
Fans who've kept their eyes open and are active on social media have seen at least a fraction of what Nicole and Avery and Rebecca have received.

28. Some comments took a different angle

Some comments took a different angle
This one starts off by insulting Nicole before really laying in to Azan himself. Notably, this is not the first Moroccan who worries that his country and culture are being cast in a negative light.

29. A lot of that is unfair

A lot of that is unfair
Really hurtful to see people respond to a report about bigotry towards Muslims with further bigotry. You can really understand why Nicole got sick and tired of seeing those kinds of comments.

30. We just hope that May doesn't see it

We just hope that May doesn't see it
May may be young (and way too young for social media), but people have a way of talking about things and kids pick up on more than they let on. We hope that she has not been subjected to that kind of hate as people discuss her mother's love life.

31. Nicole's still looking forward, not back

Nicole's still looking forward, not back
She's eager to be united with Azan over more than just video chats, but she understands that it will take a while.

32. Maybe it won't be too long

Maybe it won't be too long
Regimes change, and the hope is that 2021 will see immigration policy influenced by common sense and decency rather than by prominent white nationalists like Stephen Miller. (On a final note, we have to wonder how fellow 90 Day Fiance star Deavan Clegg would respond to this Instagram Story if she sees it, given that she has insisted over Instagram that she has not witnessed much racism in the US and does not believe that white nationalists are influencing policy)

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