90 Day Fiance Happily Ever After: Angela Deem Calls Off the Wedding! Again!

Angela Deem and Michael Ilesanmi

Angela and Michael are on their way to the marriage registry to get legal approval for their wedding.

She has misgivings

Specifically, she insists that they do not need a “marriage counselor” because they “can’t even counsel themselves.” First of all, this is not a marriage counselor in that sense. Second of all, these two absolutely need a marriage counselor. Third of all? Literally the whole point of a standard marriage counselor is for couples who cannot counsel themselves.

Michael wants her on her best behavior

Angela is an incredibly poorly behaved person (we cannot emphasize enough that no one should for any reason be treated like she has treated Michael), so her husband-to-be has to remind her to act like a human being and not like an angry cartoon monster in front of professionals.

Angela shares her backstory

She was first married at 17, which very much matches the vibe that she gives off. She was divorced a few years later, and says that Michael is the love of her life. It’s unclear if the interviewers or the editors are the ones who skipped over other parts of her backstory, but whatever, let’s move on.

There are three types of marriage

Nigeria’s 1999 constitution “recommends” three classifications for marriage. The first is a traditional Nigerian marriage, which allows for polygamy. The second is a Muslim marriage, which in Nigeria allows for polygamy.

The third is a simple legal marriage

This is the monogamist marriage that Angela seeks. (Note, if you google “LGBTQ+ rights in Nigeria” or anything along those lines, you will get very upsetting results, so the “one man, one woman” phrasing is no surprise)

Angela clarifies that Michael cannot have any “side chicks”

This elicits a bit of a laugh from the registrars, one of whom then encourages Angela to, if she fears that Michael might stray, “satisfy him sexually.”

Among other things

Angela is told to make sure that his dinner is ready and that the bed is made neatly, which sounds like the job of a maid and not a spouse, followed by an assurance that this would lead to a husband never straying. (That’s not actually how adultery works, but that sure is how blaming the spouse works)

Total submission of the heart

Angela is encouraged to be submissive. She does her transparently fake smile through all of this.

Angela doesn’t like any of that

It’s understandable that Angela doesn’t like hearing this. The thing is that she’s not exactly a feminist icon — for one thing, her treatment of Michael is unspeakably vile. For another, she keeps insisting that she respects Michael’s culture … but won’t even accommodate Nigerian garb for their wedding, in Nigeria. Of course it wouldn’t make sense for her to be his servant instead of his spouse, but one begins to wonder when the “respect for Michael’s culture” will come into play.

Later, they meet up with Aunt Lydia

Michael’s aunt asks how things went with the registrar. Naturally, Angela brings up the “submission” guidelines.

Michael slips up

He tells Angela that Nigerian culture will be part of their daily life as a married couple. He does not specify how. He is clearly saying this in front of his aunt to reassure her, though it’s not working.

It backfires

Angela of course approaches this with nuance and a rational mindset. Just kidding! Angela demands that Michael tell her whether he is lying to her or to his family about their dynamic.

His aunt tries to contribute

She points out that Angela has known this time who Michael is and what his culture is. (Again, folks, it’s totally reasonable to say “I’m not doing X” from the get-go, but Angela is not being reasonable)

“I’m done”

Angela gets up and storms off, furious and barely coherent. This woman is a whirlwind of anger and cigarette smoke. After she leaves, Michael’s aunt pleads with him to recognize that Angela will not magically become nice to him in America, that if anything, she will become worse.

“F–k this s–t”

Angela has once again called off the wedding. What a chaotic nightmare of a human being.

Elizabeth Potthast and Andrei Castravet

Elizabeth and Andrei go on a walk outside after Andrei’s explosive and drunken misbehavior left Elizabeth feeling hurt and frustrated. Andrei and Charlie almost came to blows.

Andrei has apologized

Apologizing to Elizabeth, Andrei comes to realize, is only the first step in fixing things.

He blames alcohol

Alcohol lowers inhibitions; it doesn’t magically put words into your mouth. But Andrei’s regrets are fairly one-sided.

He regrets insulting Chuck

Elizabeth’s father — who has downright begged him to take a job with his company, who has given them a place to stay and given them rent money when they moved out because Andrei didn’t want to stay under Chuck’s roof, is now paying for Elizabeth and Andrei’s second wedding … and Andrei went and insulted the guy. He is experiencing regret.

But he’s ONLY sorry about Chuck

He’s not sorry for what he said to Charlie. He felt that Charlie asked too many questions and was being deliberately confrontational.

Even so

Andrei does want to talk to Charlie, too. To Andrei’s credit, he wants to make this right for Elizabeth.

Meanwhile

As we covered in our sneak peek last week, Elizabeth pops in to visit Chuck and Charlie at their swanky rental — a place where she can drink wine and her father and brother can marvel in surprise at such a nice place being available for rent in Moldova. She explains to them that she wants everyone to be at peace.

Chuck and Charlie have their reservations

Chuck even makes it clear that he might not pay for the wedding (of course he will), while Charlie reaffirms his commitment to learning the truth about Andrei. But they’re still going to meet up with Andrei.

Andrei actually apologizes

It’s not the world’s best apology and the Potthast boys admittedly dragged it out further than they needed to. It’s a real shame that Charlie didn’t match Andrei’s apology. Andrei’s behavior has been inexcusable but Charlie being a messy bro who lives for drama was part of the problem.

As for Andrei

He makes it clear that this apology was really about Elizabeth. It’s nice to be reminded that he does, sometimes, admit to caring about his wife’s feelings.

Larissa Lima and Eric Nichols

Larissa has woken up the next day. She may be at Eric’s but that does not mean that things are resolved. They need to talk things out.

Eric makes breakfast

The sheer size of that carton of eggs … right, sorry, we need to focus. Anyway, they’re talking things out.

Why did he say those things?

Eric explains that he was venting and also saying whatever he could while looking for rebound hookups. Not an excuse, but definitely an explanation.

He should see Larissa’s inexperience as a perk

That’s an odd way of looking at things. Someone isn’t a “better” partner for having less experience with … dare we say it … weewees. But whatever.

GROWTH!

Larissa notes that, previously, Eric is not the sort of person to apologize in relationships.

But now …

Eric has apologized to Larissa, officially, which she sees as a positive sign that they are both maturing.

In light of that

Larissa confirms that she wants to stay with Eric, not just in a room in his house but as his girlfriend.

Awwww

She tells him that he’s the person she loves the most in the entire US.

That said …

David should not meddle in their problems. Eric agrees. Honestly? Editors including so much stuff about David makes us wonder if this is foreshadowing.

Larissa even jokes about her trauma

Larissa, who by her own admission is not unreasonably afraid of police, jokes that they SHOULD call the police … because Eric has stolen her heart. Deeply cheesy, but cute.

Speaking of her trauma

For the final hearing of her court case, Larissa didn’t even have to show up. Her hot lawyer handled it for her.

Closure!

Between this and her divorce, she has severed all ties with Colt and Debbie. (If only Jess were so lucky)

Colt fired three “bullets” at her

But Larissa is gleeful at having dodged all three. She is at peace.

Paul and Karine Staehle

Setting aside their very upsetting 2020 drama for a moment, the couple were having issues last year. Karine locked herself in the bathroom. Paul claims that she does this all of the time.

He wants sympathy

He feels like Karine is being unfair (and we will say that occupying a household’s only bathroom for hours is not great). But we also only hear his side of things. Generally, when someone locks themselves in a bathroom, they’re desperately trying to get a little peace or process intense emotions. We only have Paul’s word that this is “mood swings,” for whatever that’s worth.

Karine emerges

Paul wants to talk to her. He has also been knocking incessantly on the door while the cameras were rolling. It seems that Karine cannot get privacy or time to collect her thoughts in their tiny home.

Mary arrives

Paul’s mom shows up and she has brought them food, which was very nice of her. Karine quickly assures her that she is feeling bad, but that her current mood has nothing whatsoever to do with Mary.

Mary sympathizes

If anyone knows what a headache Paul can be, it’s his mom. But also, she says that she gets that Karine is alone in a totally different place — and Paul doesn’t have a job yet — and it has to be overwhelming. She worries that Karine might leave. Meanwhile, Paul complains to his mom, sharing his (and only his) side of things.

Mary stays with sleeping Pierre

In the mean time, Paul is going to go talk to Karine whether she likes it or not, so he begins to … we will very generously call it “run.”

We absolutely made a gif of it

As Karine has said accurately of her husband many times, “Paul is ridiculous.” We don’t fault him for running strangely — different people run in different ways. That he chose to do this on camera, getting tired seconds later and stopping while still on camera, was another example of the bizarre behavior that Paul has exhibited for years.

Poor Karine

Paul tries and fails to talk to her before declaring that it’s “too hot for this s–t.” Here’s some advice: if a loved one wants some alone time, give them the space that they need. Especially if it’s just for a few minutes.

Colt Johnson and Jess Caroline

Colt ended up getting a new room (by our count, that is three different hotel rooms in one trip to Brazil) after Jess’ shoe-yeeting reaction to learning that Colt has been lying to her this whole time about his continued friendship with Vanessa.

Jess admits that she tried to hurt his feelings

She did not actually go bone any of her exes or anyone else, she just said that because she was furious with Colt.

Colt had wronged her

And he attempts, in his super condescending tone, to twist that around, but Jess corrects him.

She mocks his claims of innocense

Honestly, “I good boy, I good person” is just a very funny way to characterize someone. It also reflects how Colt would like to be seen, despite his behavior.

He can’t admit that he did anything wrong

He tries to justify his lie to her. This is a pattern with him. Notably, this same episode, Larissa notes that Eric has improved on this front, and he’s nearly a decade Colt’s junior. Admit when you’re wrong, folks.

W H Y ???

Jess has decided to give Colt another chance, a choice that she will live to regret. (That’s not a prediction, it’s a fact)

Debbie is astonished

Colt tells his mom that he and Jess patched things up, and her face says it all.

In the car, Debbie tries to cause MORE problems on purpose

They are en route to the airport, but Debbie tries to grill Jess on her behavior the night before. She insists that maybe Colt simply omitted his friendship with Vanessa rather than lying. Jess corrects her — no, he lied outright. He even manufactured fake texts to prove to Jess that he and Vanessa weren’t friends.

Then, at the airport

Debbie was literally changing “don’t propose, don’t propose” not ten feet from where Colt and Jess were saying their goodbyes.

What a character

It’s unclear where Debbie got the idea into her head that Jess is trying to “use” Colt. Really, Debbie and Colt have an unhealthy bond that does a disservice to them both. And, of course, it prevents Debbie from seeing her son for who and what he is. Does she even know that Colt has slept with Vanessa? If so … she’s not done sabotaging this couple.

Syngin Colchester and Tania Maduro

Syngin is going solo this episode, hanging out with his buddies who are also his former roommates. And they do not particularly like Tania.

They look exactly like every sitcom character’s former roommates

One is hot, one looks eccentric, and they are needlessly wild and loud.

Syngin is ready to DRINK

Ignoring his wife’s concerns about his alcohol consumption and tendency to be self-destructive, Syngin is HYPED to drink “until dawn.” They also order jaeger shots which is … a choice. If you like licorice flavored jelly beans, you’ll love jaegermeister.

Everybody’s having fun

That said, his friends do admit to the camera that they didn’t particularly like Tania. He brought her home one day from work and they had a bit of culture shock. Our guess? Their home wasn’t particularly clean and they may have been loud and obnoxious.

Speaking of obnoxious

They give Syngin grief for having gained weight. We know that different places have different cultures but … wow. Anyway, they also laugh over Syngin being “a pounds guy” because her refers to his weight in pounds rather than kilos.

Syngin teases he may remain in South Africa forever

That’s … a very complicated statement to make for a married man. But it’s also the big question on their current arc.

Syngin admits that he married too soon, maybe

But that doesn’t mean that he has decided to peace out of his marriage to Tania, of course. He’s … deeply undecided.

Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa

Asuelu goes over to visit his mom and sisters and other family, delivering gifts to them. But not handing over $1,000 to his mom, which was her demand the previous night.

He wanted to talk to her alone

Without Kalani present, he wants to speak to his mom and sister. It’s not to go behind Kalani’s back — it’s because he doesn’t want to make his family look bad in Kalani’s eyes.

His money is Kalani’s money

Asuelu doesn’t exactly make a lot, but what he does make goes towards his family. He is a father of two. Samoan customs or not, his mom cannot bleed him dry of most of his monthly income. Also, economic realities in the US are different than in Samoa.

Asuelu’s sister has a theory

She thinks that Kalani is controlling Asuelu, which to her is a much simpler explanation than Asuelu realizing that he can’t be a responsible father AND engage in a generational pyramid scheme in which young people pay money to their elders for decades.

They talk about him like he’s not even there

They start to theorize that because Kalani is a few years older than Asuelu, she is dominating their marriage and making him be like this.

That’s enough

Asuelu gets up to go. He is upset, but he hugs everyone goodbye. He also acknowledges to the camera that his sister downright hates Kalani because she is not “letting” him pay exhorbitant tribute to his mom.

Later

They go to see some goats (not the first time that goats have shown up on this season), and Asuelu’s mom starts petting a goat and calling it baby … and then immediately asks if they can be eaten as food. The symbolism for how she sees her son is pretty apparent.

Kalani’s face is priceless

Kalani was not expecting the woman who was just petting a goat to ask that question. The answer, by the way, is yes, but apparently goat stinks while it’s being cooked? My late grandmother was born on a farm in 1930, so that’s my source on that. Like Kalani, I have never eaten goat.

Asuelu reiterates his priorities

For drama, he even points out a homeless camp that is visible from where they are standing, explaining that housing and food cost a lot more in the US than in Samoa (because our economy is broken) and emphasizing that his children must always come first.

Asuelu’s mom doubles down

She is VERY defensive of a tradition that would have Asuelu paying her whatever she wants for the next decade and a half.

Asuelu is upset

Whether he’s genuinely crying or trying to manipulate her, she seems unfazed by her son’s tears.

Kalani is baffled

She can’t understand how his mom just ignores his argument and his emotional state and continues to demand money from him. Clearly, his family thinks that Kalani’s parents should just give them whatever THEY need and Asuelu should work to support his own parents. That is a deeply absurd suggestion … and next week, the drama will only escalate.

These previews are bonkers, from Angela’s nasty tone of voice to Asuelu’s sister throwing hands at Kalani. Yikes!