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When Jill Duggar’s debut memoir hit bookstores last year, fans hoped for a candid account of her difficult upbringing. And that’s exactly what they got.

As expected, the former reality star did not portray her parents in a flattering light.

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar were quick to speak out against the book, but they didn’t find much sympathy online.

Jill has long enjoyed the support of a massive, loyal fan base, largely because of her willingness to speak truth to power and engage in difficult conversations.

Look out, Michelle and Jim Bob! Jill Duggar has come out with a book that exposes just how evil you truly are. (Photo Credit: Amazon)

Jim Bob and Michelle, however, have established themselves as pathological liars, so there’s really no question about which side is offering the more accurate account.

Jill Duggar Tells Her Tale

In one of the book’s most harrowing excerpts, Jessa described the confusing events that unfolded after her parents learned that Josh Duggar had molested four of his sisters.

“Mom and Pops gave us the bare details about Josh, and so all I really knew was that he’d been sent away to stay with some of their friends, that he would be working construction, and that hopefully it wouldn’t be long before he would return to us. That was all,” she recalled.

Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard film a confessional segment for TLC early in their marriage
Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard film a confessional segment for her family’s TLC reality show during the early days of their marriage. (Image Credit: TLC)

“I was happy to move on and put it all behind me.”

The scandal eventually came to the attention of community leaders in an unexpected way.

First, Josh confessed his crimes to a girl whom he’d been courting.

She then wrote him a letter about the situation, but she never sent it to him.

A despondent looking Anna Duggar on TLC.
In 2015, grim truths about Josh Duggar came to light in the wake of his cheating scandal. Long-suffering wife Anna Duggar could have ended the marriage then … but that is not how the cult does things. (Image Credit: TLC)

Instead, she stuffed the letter inside a book, which she later lent to a friend, and it was the stunned friend who alerted the church elders to Josh’s transgressions.

Jill’s Distress

Jill says she was horribly anxious when word got out. She feared that the authorities would declare her parents unfit and place their 19 children in orphanages.

In the book, Jill was “terrified” that “someone was going to take us away” from Jim Bob and Michelle.

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar pose with their many, many children. (Photo Credit: TLC)

That didn’t happen, of course — but perhaps it should have.

Though Josh was Jill’s primary tormenter, elsewhere in the book, she recalls psychological abuse that she endured at the hands of her father, Jim Bob.

In 2017, shortly after Jill welcomed her second son, Samuel, Jim Bob saw her nursing the infant while mostly covered up.

Jim Bob Duggar speaks at the Values Voter Summit in Washington, DC. (Getty Images)

Jim Bob Voices His Displeasure

Apparently, this was a moment of shocking depravity for Jim Bob, and he later confronted Jill and gave her a book about the importance of modesty.

“I cried when I got home. I felt embarrassed, humiliated, even though nobody else had been in the room with us,” Jill writes.

“Pops had told us ever since we were little that we needed to be able to stand up for our convictions, even if others disagreed,” she continues.

Jill Duggar tells her story during an appearance in a documentary about her family.
Jill Duggar tells her story during an appearance in a documentary about her family. (Photo Credit: Amazon Studios)

“Why couldn’t he see that by deciding to wear pants, I was doing exactly what he taught us? All my life I’d been trying to show respect to Pops, but when was he going to show the same to me?”

We now know, of course, that Jim Bob will never show Jill the respect that she deserves.

But we can only imagine how painful that realization must’ve been for a young mother who grew up idolizing her famous father.

Derick Dillard and Jill Duggar for Shiny Happy People.
On the “Shiny Happy People” documentary, Jill Duggar tried to convey the complex emotions that she still feels towards her horrible parents. Husband Derick Dillard was by her side. (Image Credit: Amazon Prime)

Despite the controversy surrounding her book, Jill Duggar is still on speaking terms with her family.

She attended Jana Duggar and Stephen Wissmann’s wedding in August. And she’s still quite close with Jnger Duggar, who also penned a memoir recently.

Of course, there have been rumors that Jill is currently writing a second book. If so, that could turn out to be the nail in the coffin of her relationship with her parents.

And that might not be such a bad thing.