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Emily Maynard said her breakup with Jef Holm was “difficult and heartbreaking” in a statement this week. Sources close to The Bachelorette star say it was anything but.

“Emily just decided she’d had enough,” a source said, adding that she “was extremely miserable, and at her breaking point” toward the end of the relationship.

“She was like ‘I’m dying here, I’m dying here’ … just over it. Enough was enough.”

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Emily had obvious chemistry with her other two finalists – including current Bachelor-in-waiting Sean Lowe – but opted for Jef with the bigger picture in mind.

Yet, a source close to Jef, who Emily Maynard chose over Lowe and Arie Luyendyk Jr., said his desire to be a father figure to her daughter Ricki deflated over time.

“He has no real connection to Ricki … he doesn’t feel close to her,” the source said, adding Jef thought Emily was an absentee parent, often calling her a “bad mom.”

In addition, Emily receiving filthy texts from NFL backup Matt Leinart further eroded their love, as did her behavior at an August 4 wedding for a Bachelor staff member.

“She was being very flirty,” a guest said, and Jef was “brooding.”

An insider said Emily Maynard‘s “goody-goody Southern Belle” demeanor is just for the cameras: “She flirts with other guys to help her ego. She gets off on it.”

Emily, meanwhile, felt Jef wasn’t mature enough to handle a relationship.

Whatever their reasons, Emily and Jef split up earlier this month, then gradually laid the foundation for the public announcement of the breakup and confirmed it Tuesday.