Marriage is complicated.
Throw in a time limit, an international move, cultural differences, and sudden reality stardom, and you have a recipe for drama.
Sometimes, you have a recipe for disaster -- real world, scary disaster.
Leida Margaretha accused Eric Rosenbrook of abuse and the couple called the police.
Since then, we have learned a lot more about the alleged incident -- both sides have confirmed aspects of the story.
This is serious
On January 20, 2019, Leida and Eric were visited by police. It was very early Sunday morning, and the married 90 Day Fiance couple had just had a fight.
Leida accused Eric of domestic violence
In a series of "leaked" messages, Leida claimed that Eric had pulled her hair painfully -- and that wasn't the most upsetting part.
Read Leida's words for yourself
As you can see, she says that she had thratened suicide, but that Eric had taken the knife from her -- it was after this, Leida writes, that he abused her.
She says she doesn't want to live with him anymore
These text messages were "leaked" -- we'll get into that later.
Then Eric shared his side
Eric acknowledges much of what happened, saying that he was focused on saving her life, and essentially that he got carried away.
Abuse is never acceptable
Eric may have explained why he went too far and pulled her hair, but that is not an excuse. We hope that both he and Leida know this.
They called the police
The police arrived, and Leida was taken away to a hospital for evaluation. It appears that she did come back home to rejoin Eric.
But there's more
See, it was quickly reported that Leida and Eric's Instagram accounts were hacked. That can and does happen (well, not literally hacked, but yes, people can and do steal Instagram accounts, and it can take days or weeks to get them back).
Is that how those screenshots were shared?
Eric appears to believe so, but fans are not so sure.
Blogger John Yates shared a few screenshots, as we're showing you here, indicating that 90 Day Fiance fans believe that Leida leaked every single one of those messages and conversations herself.
If so, does Eric know?
Some fans believe that Eric is exactly as in the dark about how their private messages were exposed as everyone else. Others wonder if he's in on it.
What is the truth?
We believe that something terrible happened between Leida and Eric. We're just not convinced that cybersleuths are to blame for exposing Leida's DMs.
Unfortunately, Leida is no stranger to controversy
From the moment that TLC aired footage of Leida arriving at Eric's home, it was clear that there would be trouble. But no one guessed how much.
Leida had it out for Tasha from day one
Flying across the world to live with your fiance is a major change, and most people wouldn't recommend feuding with your new man's 19-year-old daughter.
They did not get along
Leida appeared to emotionally blackmail Eric into kicking his daughter out of her own apartment. We all saw on screen as Leida called Eric and threatened to leave him if he didn't take her side. Why? Because Tasha's room wasn't tidy.
Eric committed himself to his relationship with Leida
Tasha lost her relationship with her father as a result, to the horror of 90 Day Fiance fans and even Eric and Leida's castmates -- some of whom are parents themselves.
Leida appeared to take responsibility
Sometimes, seeing yourself on camera is the only way to accept how poorly people perceive you
And yet ...
Leida was extremely confrontational with Tasha. Was Tasha mature about it? No. But she's also 20 years old. Leida is a mother.
Leida was this season's most hated villain
The way that she seemed to attack Eric's relationships with ALL of his children did not go over well with viewers. Leida might not be a good person, but she was very entertaining on reality television.
But this abuse incident is real life
Leida is a real person and she's a mother. We hope that everyone in that family remains safe and we hope that Leida can overcome her apparent suicidal ideation.