Last year was pretty rough for Catelynn Lowell and Tyler Baltierra.
Like, so rough that they very nearly got divorced.
But 2019 has been a whole new chapter for them — they’ve been working on their new house, they’re entering into their 10th year on Teen Mom, and of course they just welcomed their sweet little baby Vaeda a few months ago!
Things seem entirely different than they were back then.
Judging by this new statement from Cate … yeah, things don’t sound too great.
In discussing the problems between Catelynn and Tyler, where do we even begin?
A Look Back
After all, they’ve been together since they were 12 years old, they had a child together a few years after that that they placed for adoption because her mother and his father, who had married each other, were abusive, neglectful addicts.
Man Oh Man
Yeah, they’ve been through a lot, but they pushed through it, and in 2015, she got pregnant again with darling little Nova. It should have been a blissful, beautiful time for them, and we’re sure much of it was, but unfortunately, Catelynn developed severe postpartum depression.
She dealt with it on her own for over a year before heading out to spend a few weeks at a treatment center in Arizona — and even then, she still struggled with depression after coming home.
Tyler tried his best to be understanding and supportive, but as we saw on Teen Mom OG, after a while he began to feel like he was part of her problem. They really, really struggled for at least two years after Nova was born.
By the fall of 2017 though, they were in a better place, and they thought the time would be right to try for another baby. She did get pregnant quickly, but she suffered a miscarriage.
They were both heartbroken after that, but Catelynn went to an especially dark place — she began contemplating suicide. She made the decision to go back to that treatment center in Arizona, and Tyler fully supported her.
She spent six weeks there, then came home — and just a couple of weeks later, she told Tyler she wanted to go back for another six weeks so she could work on some of the trauma she’d experienced.
A lot of things happened after that, but the gist of it was that Tyler didn’t understand why Catelynn had to leave her family for six more weeks in another state when she could try therapy or even inpatient treatment in their area where they could visit her, and Catelynn was completely unwilling to discuss her choice — she was going back to Arizona, and that was that.
Tyler began getting extremely frustrated by everything, and that got even worse when Cate came back six weeks later and refused to go to therapy with him, or to even do exercises his personal therapist suggested to help them get back to a good place.
Too Little, Too Late?
Finally she tried to compromise by suggesting a marriage retreat in Arizona (for real), and he went, but it didn’t do much good. Just before they returned home, he told her he wanted a separation — just a month or so where they lived apart
Right around that time, she got pregnant.
After learning about the pregnancy, Tyler was clear that they definitely hadn’t been trying for another baby, and that it didn’t change anything. He still wanted to go through with the separation.
And they did — for several weeks at the end of last year, he stayed in their new home, working on it and making plans, while Catelynn and Nova stayed at the old house.
Somehow, it worked — they came back, seemingly happier than ever. They went back to gushing about each other on social media, and if that’s not proof of love, then what is?
Then in February, they welcomed another child, Vaeda Luma.
Since then, they’ve really been looking like an adorable, ridiculously happy family.
But soon, the new season of Teen Mom OG will begin airing.
And, as always, the truth will come out …
Us Weekly got an exclusive sneak peek for the upcoming season, and in the clip, we see Catelynn and Tyler talk about their separation.
A Good Thing
“Even though I was against the separation at first, I think it ended up being a good thing for me,” Catelynn begins.
“For me it just helped, like, steer me in the right course of trying to readjust after two years of craziness,” Tyler agrees.
Catelynn says that that’s fair, and that “you deserved time to just worry about yourself for once.”
There It Is
“I think it was good for me, looking back at it now, realizing if he ends up wanting to divorce me, I guess, whatever,” she continues. “I’ll be sad but I don’t f-cking need you. I can do this on my own.”
“If you were to leave, I could be a mom and be a badass mom and not even give a sh-t. I want you forever but I don’t need you.”
After that, Tyler just kind of looks down, and there’s an awkward silence, and that’s it. That’s the whole sneak peek.
It’s weird, because on paper, this sounds like a remarkably healthy outlook for Catelynn. She and Tyler have always been kind of codependent, so for her to say that she’s realized she doesn’t NEED Tyler to be a functioning human being, that sounds like progress.
But just the way she says it, it sounds really harsh. Like she’s trying to hurt Tyler after he went on for so long about the separation last year.
And that’s not exactly a healthy way to talk to your spouse, is it?
Are They OK?
We can’t tell much from this one clip, and we won’t even get a full picture from the whole season — we’ll obviously never understand all the ins and outs of their marriage just from watching them on the show.
Looking Forward to It!
But if this one clip is anything to go by … the drama isn’t over for the Baltierras. Not by a long shot.