On 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? Season 6, Episode 13, things for some couples went from bad to worse.
Mike and Natalie's chronic inability to communicate or get along was worse than ever.
This resulted in Mike standing up, revealing how bad things have really gotten for them, and storming off of the set where the confessionals were filmed.
Andrei has gotten in good with Chuck, but as Libby's siblings find out about it, Andrei ends up with a face full of cake.
(Yes, we made a GIF, and you're welcome)
Michael raises eyebrows with talk of nursing until he was nine, and Angela puts him on blast when he mentions an odd idea.
It's moving day for Brandon and Julia, but Betty and Gibbs are hoping that they -- and their descendants -- will never excape the farm.
Jovi and Yara head to Miami for a date, but they have different ideas about what their lives as parents should look like.
Asuelu visits his mother and sister to ask them to please not cause unnecessary drama with Kalani or her family, for once.
Mike Youngquist and Natalie Mordovtseva
Natalie notes that she and Mike are not getting along, which is a recurring problem that has defined their relationship even before they were married.
So Natalie is meeting up with her friend
According to Natalie, she has met up with her friend Juliana in Seattle. What is said later suggests that there's more to this, but we'll get to that in a moment. Juliana is her friend from Russia, so they share a language (despite being from different countries) and have bonded.
Natalie explains their latest beef
Mike resented that she totally ghosted him on the day of her surgery. He wanted to be there for her, but she didn't just decline -- she didn't even tell him that she was having the surgery without him, or why.
Juliana has some good advice
Communication has always been a huge problem for Mike and Natalie, and not only because of the language barrier. Sometimes, one of them will simply refuse to speak to the other, or to answer a question, changing a topic or flying off of the handle or just sitting there silently.
The language barrier is only part of it
But it does occur to Natalie that, without it, she could have an easier time explaining precisely how she's feeling and why.
She also feels like Mike manipulates her
Now, "gaslighting" comes up in this conversation, but what they're describing -- Mike denying that his mom ever called Natalie a "hooker" -- is not gaslighting. Mike doesn't believe that his mom said this. If Mike was there, heard his mom call her this derogatory term for a sex worker, and then pretended that he had not in order to make Natalie doubt her own memories, that would be gaslighting. But this particular argument, about what Trish did or did not call her, has not gone away.
Natalie makes a very odd elephant analogy
Speaking of some horrifying cruelty towards circus elephants, she basically says that Mike is still accustomed to listening to his mother even when he shouldn't.
He also just won't admit that there are real problems
After some good moments of the two walking downtown, Mike and Natalie discuss her concerns -- namely, that he will minimize and ignore their problems (at least, her concerns) as he has done in the past.
Yep, it comes up in the confessional
Natalie resents that no one (including the majority of fans) seems to believe her. It's true that she has a questionable track record with accusations (remember when she accused Mike of having an affair with his married friend, even though it didn't make sense?), but it still hurts.
An unhappy Mike stands up
Natalie is so unhappy that Mike doesn't believe her -- and honestly, if this were their only issue, we'd say that they should work through it and move on. But this is just one sticking point of so many.
Mike has an idea
Natalie hasn't actually spoken to Mike's mom, Trish, since they left Oklahoma. That was like a month and a half ago. Why doesn't she ask Trish directly what she said?
So Mike gets Natalie's phone
Natalie calls Trish, but she does not initially ask her directly about the alleged name-calling.
Trish does tell her why she doesn't like her
Trish finds how Natalie treats Mike to be appalling. Now, as with everything about these two, nobody's completely right or wrong -- because Trish then says that Natalie takes what Mike does for granted, but there are fair questions about what Mike does for Natalie (food and shelter are kind of the minimum for your spouse, you know?) but Trish's statement about how Natalie treats Mike is also pretty fair.
FINALLY, Natalie brings up the "hooker" thing
Trish categorically denies saying that or anything of the sort. Natalie has not once, on camera, described the alleged context of that ... unless she has, and it was edited out. You never can tell.
Trish has bigger concerns
She doesn't think that Natalie genuinely loves Mike, because she's not acting like it.
After the call, there's more
An increasingly agitated Mike discussed Christmas -- their first Christmas together as a couple. Mike gave her gifts, and Natalie went to her friend Juliana's house, stayed there, and gave her presents to that family. That sounds impossible ... but Natalie admits that it's true.
Mike says that no matter what language barriers or communication issues are at play, that's just not how a spouse behaves.
The big reveal
Mike shares that, in the three weeks since that big regifting, they have only spent one night together. Natalie has been basically living with her friend Juliana. So that "visit" with Juliana in Seattle was meant to make us think that things were more normal than they are.
Natalie tries to explain
But she also has "a room there," which is a huge thing for a married woman who has been spending the night away from home for three weeks.
So ... why are they still married?
Mike feels like Natalie has nothing nice to say about her. She can't explain why she loves him or why she married him, and he feels like he's the only one who took his marriage vows seriously.
Mike removes his mic and thanks production and leaves, having gotten very worked up after admitting on camera how far his marriage has fallen. We all knew that Natalie had left the house back in December, but until now, we didn't know this much.
If Natalie had much more to say after that, we won't know until next week, possibly until the Tell All or Bares All.
Elizabeth Potthast and Mike Youngquist
Libby explains how they were the only ones to use the RV to return home after the reunion -- everyone else opted to just fly home. You can't really blame them, right? An RV is a luxury compared to a tent or a small car but a cramped nightmare compared to a few hours of transit and then being in the comfort of your own home. Plus, you know, people weren't getting along, and without cameras filming them on the return trip, what's the point of fighting? Unmonetized fighting doesn't serve any of them.
But there's good news
Chuck has purchased a property that needs to be fixed up and sold, and the idea is that he'll use this as a teaching tool for Andrei since Andrei isn't working so well with the Potthast siblings.
Hey Andrei, could you summarize the Potthast family dynamic real quick?
All joking aside, the basic idea is that Chuck bought it (and will be a profit participant), Andrei will be in charge of actually flipping it.
Libby will be the designer
Andrei of course cannot resist saying that this is for some reason her job due to gender.
Elizabeth just makes a face
If Andrei is trying to make a joke, he should be reminded that jokes are supposed to be funny. If he's not joking, then he should stop being a misogynist. Libby needs to think about herself and their daughter and the absolute s--t that comes out of her husband's mouth.
Chuck is excited for this to happen
He feels like his relationship with Andrei has never been better, and he's so optimistic about this project. He seems to be hoping that the family spat will settle down once Andrei proves himself.
Libby shares the news with her sisters
Becky and Jenn are there, and all of their kids test out the bouncy castles for the upcoming birthday party. There, she shares the plan that Chuck has for Andrei and the new house.
Andrei vowed to be on his best behavior for the party
Of course, he for some reason starts cutting the cake way too early. It's unclear if it's a cultural misunderstanding (but surely he's been to birthday parties before) or what, but you don't cut the birthday cake before singing Happy Birthday at a children's party.
Andrei thinks that he's being bullied?
Reminding someone to not mutilate a cake before it's actually time to cut it isn't a power play.
Then, more conflict
Chuck defends Andrei but wants to hear what Jenn and Becky have to say
It's the same thing that they've been saying all along
They feel that Andrei is getting special treatment and taking money out of their pockets because they have very notably been cut out of this particular deal.
Andrei quickly rushes to "defend" Chuck
As usual, he is way too aggressive and has no diplomacy whatsoever.
But speaking of pie ...
Jenn throws her cake (close enough) at Andrei, splatting him in the shoulder and neck.
You KNOW we made a GIF
Here it is. Not the best moment, but worth seeing.