90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? Season 6, Episode 14 showed ominous foreshadowing and some explosive fights.
Kalani was worried that things would go poorly when Asuelu’s family came to visit.
But she can’t have imagined how heated things would get – or that the fight would turn physical.
Meanwhile …
Michael goes to the clinic for a life-changing fertility evaluation, and Angela plans the next step.
Brandon and Julia’s apartment-warming party goes awry when Julia drops a bombshell.
Libby is thrilled that her dad is Team Andrei, but she knows that his big plan is going to be a disaster.
Jovi and Yara’s date night proves to be a trainwreck and has a catastrophic ending.
Mike and Natalie aren’t just separated, they’re on very different pages about whether to make things worse.
Mike’s mom does offer some advice, but he’s not ready to take it.
Tiffany and Ronald go to couples counseling … with a pastor who happens to be Ronald’s uncle.
Things do not go well.
Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa
With Lesina and Tammy in town, Kalani admits to the camera that she feels like “the devil” is at her doorstep. A flowering description of the tension, based upon bad experiences and violent threats from past interactions.
Tammy is still Tammy
Arriving at Kalani’s parents’ home, Tammy immediately begins discussing the house’s size and that of the yard, like an appraiser. It’s clear that she’s saying that Asuelu (who very notably did not purchase that house) has the money, directly or indirectly, to participate in the multigenerational pyramid scheme that Lesina has demanded of him in the past.
Things stay amicable for a bit
The families dine together in relative peace … until of course someone has to change that.
Lesina wants money
Asuelu’s mother tells him that she’s returning to Samoa the following month, and wants him to send her money while she’s there. As has been stated before, there are some customs of helping one’s family in Samoan culture, but Kalani’s dad is also Samoan and says that Lesina’s characterization is … a little self-serving. “Help” is not the same as “payments on demand.” There is also worry that Lesina will give away this support and ask for more money, as she has done in the past.
Asuelu decided to break the tension
He has them do a gift exchange, which leads to a lot of laughs until he gives Kalani a conversation-starter — a baby blanket. This was in poor taste (and may have been planned by production), but there’s no way that anyone involved realized how far this would go.
What do you mean you don’t want to have nine kids?
Lesina is seemingly baffled that Kalani isn’t eager to have a third child when they already have two young children. Asuelu has said that he would, ideally, have seven children, which seems farcical — not only in terms of childcare required, but because he and Kalani do not have anything close to the substantial source of income that this would require.
Lesina starts pushing scary tradwife ideas
She says that she grew up under a cultural expectation that she would abide by her husband’s wishes, which is why she had NINE children.
And what about it?
As Kolini points out, that’s Lesina’s choice (well, sort of), but that doesn’t have anything to do with Kalani or what she decides to do with her own uterus.
This is not what Asuelu wanted
As Tammy and Lesina grow hostile towards Kolini (apparently, they’re allowed to make demands of Kalani all that they want, but the minute that Kolini defends her sister, she’s overstepping?), Asuelu asks them to cool it.
Instead of cooling it, things become heated
Lesina starts pushing for Asuelu to find a new wife, one in Samoa who will obey him and encourage him to obey Lesina. Suddenly, everyone is standing and voices are raised. With Tammy’s multiple violent threats in mind, things are looking bad.
Asuelu to the rescue?
Seemingly without saying much of anything, he steps in front of his wife and herds (and half-tackles) his mother and his sister out.
BYE
There are probably more diplomatic ways to avert an incident of violence, but no one can question that this was effective.
Lesina is furious
While Tammy mostly looks shocked, Lesina screams “we don’t like you anymore” through the closed door behind them. Is she speaking to Kalani or to Asuelu?
Angela Deem and Michael Ilesanmi
Michael is nervously waiting at the fertility clinic to test his sperm.
This could be life-changing
Part of the issue is that Michael does not masturbate, at all, apparently on religious grounds. That’s his choice to make (yes, masturbation is good for you, but nobody has to do it), but it does mean that providing a semen sample will be a unique experience.
Angela is going along with all of this
She doesn’t want to have a baby — she wants to enjoy her new body instead of going through with a ridiculous plan to have a child who would be several years younger than its nieces and nephews. But she wants to keep Michael happy, and since yelling and screaming at him isn’t doing the trick, she’s going to try dishonesty instead.
Angela is her usual sensitive self
She laughs out loud while he meets at the clinic, even saying that there must be something wrong with him since he hasn’t had a wet dream (nocturnal ejaculation) in months.
Why did we have to see this part
Michael lets Angela and the rest of us know when he nuts, so now we have to live with that for the rest of our lives.
Angela remains Angela
Michael just had his first-ever self-induced orgasm but Angela sounds like she’s in the mood for one of her own. Thanks for the nightmare fuel.
Later, Angela goes clothes-shopping with her daughter
Angela and Skyla go to find clothes since Angela’s don’t fit anymore. She is down several sizes and nearly 100 pounds at this point. Since apparently she doesn’t know about purses, she’ll need new bras in which to store things, we guess.
She tries to bribe Skyla
Angela offers to buy Skyla an outfit if she’ll go with her to the fertility clinic, but she promises that it’s not that she’s trading a set of clothes for Skyla’s egg — instead, she hopes that the clinic will tell her that she cannot safely do a pregnancy at her age, giving her an excuse to give Michael a hard “no.”
Brandon Gibbs and Julia Trubkina
There’s something special about your first shopping trips for a new place, especially if you’ve just moved in together with a friend, a partner, multiple partners, or some combination. It’s like an oddly public intimacy. In Brandon and Julia’s case, the intimacy is even more public, because they’re shopping on camera as they get supplies for a small housewarming party.
AJ arrives first
AJ introduced Brandon and Julia, and greets them both with hugs. If we had to guess, we’d say that it’s probably been a while since they got to hang out at this point, given the pandemic.
Julia’s a big fan of AJ
She compares him to Cupid, though without knowing the Roman God of Love’s name off of the top of her head, she describes “flying” and then mimes shooting a bow and arrow. Adorable.
Melanie and TJ … have a more complicated history with Julia
While we’re sure that a lot of their conflict is played up for the camera, Julia has insecurities about Brandon’s past friendship with Melanie. Meanwhile, it’s a testament to how secure Brandon is about his marriage that he’s fine inviting total smokeshows like TJ to hang out around his wife, but that’s neither here nor there.
Julia is trying to take it in stride
In the past, she was embarrassingly jealous about Melanie, and Melanie also asked some unkind and intrusive (but also likely requested by producers) questions about Julia’s intentions.
Julia has plans for the apartment
They’ve just moved in and have a lot of unpacking to do, but Julia wants to buy a pole to practice dancing. That could be a great idea, though there are viral videos of poles that were not installed correctly, so … be careful, Julia.
She also wants a CRIB?!?!
Julia drops this bombshell and takes everyone off guard. 27 is barely at an age where it’s considered normal for Millennials to have kids, but it’s less about age and more about her and Brandon’s stage in life. They’ve escaped the nightmare farm for only like 40 hours and she’s talking about trying for a baby.
Julia gets this a lot
She characterizes people’s hostile reactions to her having a baby already. On the one hand, it’s understandable that she’s sick of people’s opinions. On the other … well, their opinions make sense. That said, this is solely up to Brandon and Julia.
Theirs are the only votes that count
However (and thankfully), Brandon is vetoing this. He unfortunately decides to joke about “checking the condoms” for holes. Sabotaging birth control would be reproductive coercion, which is a form of sexual assault. Joking that your wife would do something that evil to you is … not in great taste.
Julia excuses herself
She slips into the other room to watch TV, but encourages them (albeit unhappily) to continue their party. Awkward.
Elizabeth Potthast and Andrei Castravet
Elizabeth asks Andrei to help with the dishes, which of course leads to him negging her about how she thought that she was an “independent” woman. Fun fact: a major relationship red flag is when a man weaponizes ideas like women’s empowerment in arguments, such as to get out of doing chores. But we guess that when you’re married and have a kid, you’ve ignored enough red flags that one more doesn’t make a difference. Yikes!
Anyway, Libby goes to meet her dad
Dining indoors at a restaurant is a baffling choice, especially considering how long ago (thoroughly pre-vax) this was filmed, but Chuck says that it just opened and is an “authentic” Italian restaurant. Those of us who have eaten in Italy know that this could be very good or very bad, but we’re impressed by the courage of any restaurant that opens DURING a pandemic.
Chuck is very much Team Andrei
He considers his foul-mannered son-in-law an asset to the family business, and feels that Becky, Jenn, and Charlie are JEALOUS — which is almost exactly what Andrei has been saying. So either Andrei’s right about all of this, or Libby’s siblings are right and Andrei is just really good at manipulating Chuck. Regardless, Libby is thrilled to hear it.
Chuck has a (horrible) idea
Remember how the disastrous yacht get-together went? How about the extremely hostile family reunion where everyone went home separately? Oh, how about the cake-splattering birthday party? Chuck is convinced that what the family needs is a cookout, where everyone will be in the right mood. Sure, Chuck.
Disaster
Libby says that things are so bad that she’ll fully understand if Andrei goes off on her siblings, and that this is going to be a fustercluck. She’s right.
Meanwhile …
Becky and Jenn compare notes and basically form an alliance against Andrei. Very healthy family dynamic.
Jovi Dufren and Yara Zaya
Still on their awkward Miami vacation, Jovi and Yara didn’t have a great night the previous evening as it went on too long and then Jovi got on Yara’s case when she wanted to check on their young daughter. Gwen, Jovi’s mom, told him that they need to get on the right track — try a nice dinner out at a restaurant.
Yara resented being called boring
She confronts Jovi about it as they lounge by the pool, noting that he hurt her feelings by complaining that she has altered her life to be a good parent to their baby.
Jovi insists that she’s changed
Yes, Yara used to go out and party … but she’s a mom now, so of course she doesn’t act like that anymore, and she’d be a bad parent if she tried to maintain the same lifestyle that she had when she was 24. She doesn’t understand why Jovi isn’t adopting similar changes, since he is also a parent now.
They go to dinner
The restaurant, Yara explains, is clearly designed by someone from Russia or Ukraine, and she finds it a little ostentatious in a culturally familiar way.
Jovi invites her to go with him to a strip club
Yara does not understand. He doesn’t go there to see these women and then leave and masturbate, so she doesn’t understand the function of why he goes. She also says that she has no desire to go to a male strip club either. (Gotta agree there — strippers are amazing people but I don’t really understand what the appeal in going is meant to be) Unfortunately, at times this discussion is unfair to strippers. We wish that Jovi and Yara would choose their words more carefully when discussing their marriage.
Yara AGREES??
Yara explains that, since Jovi accused her of no longer being fun, she wants to prove him wrong. That’s … a setup for disaster, honestly. She agrees to go, but she’ll want to head out when she’s ready, not stay for hours while Jovi enjoys himself.
At first, things are fun
This is a little outside of Yara’s wheelhouse, so she responds like most normal people would — impressed by the dancers, entertained by the show. At one point, she even “makes it rain,” clearly emulating what she’s seen in music videos and movies.
But all good things must come to an end
After a while, Yara is ready to go. This is, notably, around when the stripper removes her top. She repeatedly tells Jovi that it’s time to go. (We have to note that Yara has recently given birth and is nursing her baby … she may have insecurities about her body and her breasts that would make this less than fun)
Instead, Jovi doubles down
He blows a kiss at the stripper. Yara insults him, stands up, swats at his head, and storms out. We also want to note that under no circumstances was what Yara did appropriate. While we didn’t see her hand connect with his head, it sounds like she did. That’s just not okay, no matter what caused it.
They hash it out in the parking lot
Jovi accuses her of ruining his night, while she accuses him of the same — why didn’t he just leave with her when she was ready? Jovi thinks that it would be “crazy” to leave the strip club prematurely. He says that they should have at least finished their drinks first. Why he didn’t explain this to Yara in the club is one question of many.
Mike Youngquist and Natalie Mordovtseva
Things are not good at all in their marriage. After Mike blew up at their last confessional filming the night before, he has not seen or spoken to Natalie … and not for lack of trying.
Mike tries to call Natalie
He leaves her some pretty nice-sounding messages, but gets no response.
So Mike calls his mom instead
Upon telling her that Natalie isn’t home and he doesn’t know when or if she’s coming back, Trish declares that Natalie does all of this on purpose.
“She’s a snake in the grass”
Trish accuses Natalie of having married Mike to come to America, and thinks that she engineers these fights just to have an excuse to leave.
Trish has one piece of advice
She wants her son to divorce Natalie and “send her back.” Mike isn’t quite ready for that.
In fact, he doesn’t agree
Mike is clearly hesitant to push back more than a little against what his mom has to say, but he’s on a different page.
Meanwhile, Natalie is at Juliana’s
Okay … we know that some people are going to take this to homophobic or biphobic places and that’s unfortunate, but we can acknowledge that there is a degree of touching happening in this scene between Juliana and Natalie that leads to viewers having serious questions about what’s going on.
Juliana has some … cuddle-questions?
She gets a summary from Natalie of her most recent fight with Mike, one that we saw on camera.
Natalie has had enough
Her marriage is toxic and isn’t showing real signs of improving, and she’s tried of fighting and tired of trying to fix what cannot be mended
She returns to Sequim … for the final time?
Natalie heads to Mike’s house to pack up the rest of her belongings and return them to her room at Juliana’s. Of course, Mike is inside. Their confrontation will play out next week.
Tiffany Franco and Ronald Smith
The recent revelation that Tiffany had lightly explored her options with a divorce attorney has made Ronald realize that he might actually have to do work to save his marriage beyond impulse-shopping and transparent manipulation tactics. So they’re going to a marriage counselor.
Their counselor is a pastor … who is also Ronald’s uncle
Far be it from us to question Pastor Paul’s professionalism, but these two might be better served by a counselor who is not a close relative. Surely Ronald would not want, say, Tiffany’s mom working as their arbiter and therapist.
Ronald’s unwillingness to step up is a big issue
He says that he has a “thing against” changing poop diapers, at which point Tiffany says what everyone has been thinking the entire time — EVERYONE has a thing against them. It’s not fun. No one changes diapers because it’s pleasant. You do it because the baby needs help.
Ronald has made SOME changes
Some viewers had their feathers ruffled when Tiffany said that she has been a “blessing” in Ronald’s life, though if you look at some of the progress that he’s made in terms of his gambling addiction, you can see that she has a point.
What in the world was this part
We have some questions about what kind of church Paul is a Pastor at, because soothing the ego of a manchild pissbaby doesn’t really sound the same as being a spouse in a healthy relationship.
Also, Ronald lacks healthy emotional expression
Ronald will express his emotions — by getting angrily and furiously hanging up, or going on social media rants, or being confrontational with Tiffany. But actually discussing his feelings like a human being? Tiffany at times feels alone in this.
Out in the parking lot, things already fall apart
Ronald tells Tiffany that he wishes that she wouldn’t criticize him, and she counters that saying that he doesn’t do enough isn’t a criticism, it’s a fact. It’s actually both — criticisms can be and often are true things.
It quickly devolves from there
Ronald apparently thinks that Tiffany doesn’t have a right to complain about his failings because she has her family to help her. That’s … not how that works, especially not when you’re her partner and co-parent.