90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? Season 6, Episode 3 showed Angela head to her surgery.
However, after brazenly breaking pre-operation rules, she seriously increased her risk of complications.
Julia and Brandon had an important appointment — a green card interview.
But one thing was missing from their documentation, and Brandon chose not to tell Julia.
Before Andrei can start working with Elizabeth’s family, he and Charlie need to make peace.
It’s not clear if that’s what either of them really want.
Jovi and Yara had their first episode of the season!
But Jovi clearly has a few things to learn, including what size diapers fit newborns.
Kolini arrives and sees the “new” Asuelu, but tells Kalani that she suspects a trick.
Tiffany updates her mom on things with Ronald, and her mom thinks she’ll be happier single.
Angela Deem and Michael Ilesanmi
Angela is almost painfully relatable as she miserably drinks soup. She is on a liquid diet before her surgery and, well, largely unflavored liquid soups like what she is drinking feel like you’re ladling despair directly into your soul.
She’s still processing some news
She explains to her friend, JoJo, that she’s going to have to have a breast reduction, explaining the necessity of it.
Angela never really changes
She holds up her carton of cigarettes, which — if she had ever honestly intended to not use — she should never have brought with her. Angela’s lack of impulse control results in more than just her screaming verbal abuse at Michael.
JoJo takes it in stride
JoJo is Angela’s friend, the one who was the American witness to her wedding in Nigeria. A friend who will fly to another continent just to watch you tie the knot is a good one to have. She says to the camera, almost fondly, that no one can control Angela.
Like a feral animal
Not only does Angela deliberately endanger her own life by smoking right before her surgery, but she does it in a hotel room — which is just not allowed in any hotel. She seems, time and time again, to be incapable of caring about other people, leaving many to wonder how she has managed to accumulate fans who find her likable.
Angela calls Michael
Michael is baffled that Angela’s prodigious breasts could be considered a problem, either personally or medically.
She also deliberately makes him jealous
Angela, who we have all seen SCREAM at Michael for literally just having a conversation with any woman for any reason, decides to taunt Michael by describing her handsome surgeon and how he touched her breasts. Why? To test and see if they still have that “connection,” which she notes that they do since Michael’s response is jealousy. That is toxic behavior.
Meanwhile, in Nigeria
Michael processes all of this by speaking to his brother, Yekini. He shares his insecurities about Angela’s new figure … apparently concerned that his GMILF will be turning heads left and right after her weight loss.
Also …
He’s not keen on the idea of Angela’s breast size changing.
Yekini understands
When he notes that other men may look at Angela, Michael repeatedly says that they should simply “shut their eyes.” But Yekini notes that if Michael cannot trust his wife, they should not be married.
Angela calls her psychic
Her psychic does a reading for her, predicting a successful outcome of the surgery, but also imploring Angela to not smoke. If neither medical advice nor basic human decency were enough, will a psychic’s advice tip the scales?
Angela makes another call
She tries to reach her family but is unsuccessful. She’s en route to the surgery at this point and clearly nervous, and she’s frustrated that she can’t reach them (hey, it happens).
Brandon Gibbs and Julia Trubkina
Brandon and Julia have returned from their trip to Vegas and are back in rural Virginia and on the Gibbs farm, where Julia is reminded of how miserable this middle-of-nowhere, labor-intensive existence is for her.
She’s not happy to be home at ALL?
As usual, Brandon is able to shrug off the drudgery of life on the farm, because he is accustomed to it. Julia tells him that she’ll be much happier coming back from vacations when they have their own home.
They’re gearing up for her green card interview
Brandon assures her that she’s totally prepared. Privately, however, he tells the camera that they’re missing a proof of residency (like a bill addressed to her) to prove that they live together because she doesn’t have any bills like that yet. He hasn’t told her because he doesn’t want her to freak out, which is … not a healthy dynamic.
Worst case scenario …
Julia asks Brandon if she gets denied and forced to leave, will he move to Russia with her? Brandon’s response doesn’t thrill her.
To clarify:
Brandon does make it clear that he would go to Russia with Julia, but he really doesn’t want to, so he hope that it never comes up. (That’s fair and, honestly, plenty of people who would move for love would not move to Russia for a number of very good reasons)
They have a binder full of documentation
Julia and Brandon do a Russian custom where they sit still in contemplation of what they’re about to do before they head off.
Julia explains her fears
There is a lot of political tension between the United States and Russia as the latter’s expansionist goals have been paired with cyberattacks and general misbehavior for years now. Julia fears that this will be held against her.
Awwww
These two aren’t always on the same page, but they really do love each other so much.
And the results?
They were told that they will need to wait another two weeks, either to be told that Julia is approved or to be asked for further documentation. They’re acting chill and nervous about it but, as with Rebecca on Season 8 of original recipe 90 Day Fiance, this is just dragging out the tension — this almost certainly means that they were approved.
Elizabeth Potthast and Andrei Castravet
Okay, make all of the jokes about this being what Andrei thinks that “house-flipping” entails now. Get it out of your system. What actually happened here was Andrei building a playhouse for their daughter, and Andrei also being super protective of his daughter, worried about her even handling a hammer when she picked one up to walk to him. I’m not necessarily Andrei’s biggest fan but I was of the same mind there.
So, what’s happening
After the Potthast family meeting went as well as could be expected (translation: it was a disaster), Libby is really hoping that Andrei can smooth things over with Charlie soon.
That won’t be easy
Charlie was a messy drunk at Andrei’s wedding in Moldova, giving an embarrassing toast at their second wedding.
But …
Now, with Andrei joining the family business, they have to put their differences aside in order to work together.
Andrei would rather just work with Chuck
Andrei had envisioned this as simply being him working for his father-in-law, but that’s not how it works. In fact, Charlie has been asked to show Andrei the ropes. (Also, what in the world is this shirt; it’s probably not deliberate but that shirt looks like what the flag would look like in a dystopia. Not saying anything about Andrei, but that shirt looks like it uses slurs)
Is this really the best venue?
If one party involved has problems with alcohol, maybe a brewery isn’t the best place to meet up. (Also it is baffling to see these couples just go to restaurants, indoors or outdoors, with or without masks, because this was all filmed long before widespread vaccine distribution, which is still an ongoing process)
It begins
Andrei explains how unhappy he is with Charlie over what went down in Moldova, while Charlie notes to the camera that they haven’t really spoken since the Tell All was filmed. Wow.
Charlie regrets it … sort of
He regrets the disrespect that he showed to his sister, but not to Andrei, who he feels continues to try to “take advantage” of Chuck’s generosity.
They will be working together
Andrei says that Charlie is expecting him to fail, and likely hoping to set him up for failure, but that Andrei is a superior human being to Charlie and will succeed instead.
Jovi Dufren and Yara Zaya
Jovi is out shopping, where his shopping basket looks … like the shopping basket of a single guy in his 20s and not like that of a new dad who is mostly there to get diapers.
Yes, diapers
Jovi doesn’t see the right size of diapers so he finds the next best thing … which are too big, as he’ll soon find out.
Jovi comes home
Yara accurately guesses that Jovi has bought a case of beer. Elsewhere in the episode, she admits that she’s not sure how much of Jovi staying with her instead of going to bars is a commitment to being more responsible and how much is bars being closed due to the pandemic.
We get a recap
Though this couple is very familiar, we get a recap of their history for anyone who missed Season 8. Yara then introduces their beautiful newborn, Mylah.
Jovi did not get fruits and vegetables
Instead, he got lemonade, which he compares to a fruit … which is EXACTLY my sense of humor and makes Yara crack up.
Jovi … Mylah is 4 days old
Mylah needs a diaper for newborns, which that store did not have. Yara notes that he’ll need to go out again to get newborn diapers, because that’s not optional and what he got are too big for Mylah.
There’s a lot of this
Here, we see Yara doing a great impression of me. But, in all seriousness, it looks like Jovi’s goofy but well-meaning cluelessness aside, they do need to work on getting onto the same page when it comes to parenting.
Gwen to the rescue!
Jovi’s mother Gwen, one of the most well-liked mother-in-laws in the history of this franchise, shows up with a lot of supplies.
Yara explains a recent source of stress
They took Mylah outside the day before, but she didn’t feel right, especially since someone nearby was screaming.
While Gwen brings in more supplies …
Yara expresses her concern to Jovi that, despite her very good relationship with Gwen, that she’s worried about being told what to do rather than just helping.
Jovi counters
Gwen and Yara have a good bond, so if Yara doesn’t like what Jovi’s mom is saying, she can tell her so. Ultimately, they’ll need to communicate honestly, because Jovi is going to be gone for weeks soon for work, and Yara will need to rely upon Gwen as she did during her pregnancy.
Yara is also getting used to nursing
She jokes about how her nipples now look like pepperoni.
Yara is not looking forward to Jovi leaving
Some 90 Day Fiance stars clearly wanted to live in the United States, either seeing it as a bonus to the marriage (for example, Julia) or at times seeming to care more about geography than their actual partner. Yara is not in either category. Living in the US with Jovi was a compromise … one that she made under different circumstances.
Then, the pandemic hit
She always imagined that she’d spend those weeks of Jovi’s international travel for work with some international travel of her own, to Ukraine, to be near her mom. With the COVID-19 pandemic, she has not been able to yet.
It’s a lot to process
She’s homesick, she’s sleep deprived (like all new parents), and under a lot of stress. Jovi gives her love and support. Sometimes, that’s the best that you can do.
Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa
At Kalani’s parents house, she has balloons for them to welcome Kolini. It’s kind of ridiculous to welcome someone to their parents’ house from an apartment where they were living, but whatever, they’re on camera, sometimes you make a big deal out of stuff for no reason.
Kolini is here!
In addition to being gorgeous, Kolini is a fan-favorite in part because she is totally unfazed by Asuelu’s BS and will directly say so.
In private …
Kolini is staying in a room full of many little cubbies for crafting supplies, but there’s a day bed so she can sleep there. She shares with Kalani that she suspects that Asuelu’s suspiciously good behavior is just a ploy.
Well, yeah
Kalani describes how positive and upbeat Asuelu was about the “new me” that he is presenting to the world. She hopes that it’s real.
Kolini isn’t looking for a fight …
… but she’ll finish one if it comes up. She doesn’t want to make trouble for her sister in her marriage, but she’s wary that it will happen anyway.
The next morning
Asuelu’s niceness act continues at breakfast, with Kolini looking on.
Kolini explains why she doesn’t buy it
Speaking to the camera, she says that Asuelu has pulled this act before, but eventually the facade cracks and the real Asuelu comes out again.
Asuelu shares his and Kalani’s tentative plans to move out
Asuelu thinks that everything in their marriage will be better if they’re no longer living with Kalani’s parents … which of course sets off alarm bells in everyone’s minds, as it should.
To the camera …
Asuelu notes that he’s been making a big effort, which SOUNDS good. At the same time … should it require effort to say nice things to your spouse or to do your job as a parent or to be respectful and courteous? Parenting is hard work, but being nice to people is free.
Kolini advices caution
As diplomatically as she humanly can, Kolini suggests that perhaps Kalani would be better off looking for a 6-month lease on a house to see if Asuelu can stick to his nice guy routine.
Asuelu makes his feelings clear
He complains about having “three womans” in the house with him, as if their gender is somehow what drives them to correct him when he misbehaves rather than the fact that they are human beings who know how to assert themselves.
As for Kalani and Kolini
Kalani admits that she has spoken to Asuelu multiple times about divorce, but that because he is from such a traditional Samoan culture, that doesn’t register to him as a real possibility. Kalani assures Kolini that it’s real to her, but to Asuelu, in his mind, once you marry, you’re together for life — even if you’re miserable. Kalani doesn’t want that for herself if he falls back on bad habits.
Tiffany Franco and Ronald Smith
Tiffany explains to the camera why things aren’t going so well with Ronald. It’s because she, for once, stood up for herself by not paying for everything herself. Specifically, she canceled her tickets to go see him because she can’t keep being the only one spending money on a relationship where kids are involved.
Tiffany visits her mom
Until fairly recently, she was living with Maggie — her mother, who looks too young to be a grandmother of even one grandchild, let alone two. She used the money from the canceled tickets to pay the deposit on her new apartment where she and the kids are living and she feels like this was a positive step.
Things needed to change
Tiffany affirms that she loves Ronald a lot, but that love by itself isn’t enough for a relationship to work — and he needs to make an effort.
Maggie has some thoughts
She notes that she feels like maybe Tiffany’s best path to happiness right now is as a single mother rather than as Ronald’s wife.
Next time …
On Season 6, Episode 4 of Happily Ever After? …
Julia gets jealous
Julia’s weird ideas about gender and friendships come up when Brandon suggests that they hang out with a friend of his who is (gasp) a girl. Julia’s ideas here aren’t just strange, they’re rooted in internalized misogyny. (They’re also intrinsically homophobic and biphobic but that’s a whole other thing)
Ronald gets toxic
He accuses Tiffany of canceling the tickets just for “spending money” for her new place. Which … should be fine, right? This is supposed to be his home, too, if he comes to the US to live.
Natalie drives back to Sequim
Natalie says that it was mean of Mike to leave her behind at the hotel in Seattle, asserts that she did nothing wrong, and drives to Sequim herself (also, she pronounces Sequim like “scream”). What will she and Mike say to each other?
Jovi wants a little more trust as a new parent
Yara makes it clear that she’s just unhappy with the current situation, as he’s preparing to leave for work.
Asuelu is back to being a huge jerk
Kalani expresses herself and asks Asuelu to respect that she’s upset, but while his wife cries, Asuelu says “what you cry about is so annoying.” It continues to be hard to understand why Kalani remains married to him.
Andrei starts work
But Becky shows up and realizes that she was not included in this … meaning that Andrei may be nudging her out of some profits. What?
Angela’s surgery concludes
As always, the show tries to drag out the “Angela, open your eyes” moment in a really gratuitous way. She wakes up. She lives. Nobody thinks that she dies.