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“Villains” are a staple of reality television, not just of 90 Day Fiance.

Some are good people in real life but antagonists when drinking on camera, others are terrible full time.

Some viewers feel that these villains are ruining 90 Day Fiance, a franchise that is supposed to be about love without borders.

Others point out that the show as it stands wouldn’t exist without these bad apples.

What defines a reality TV villain?

From The Bachelor franchise to Real Housewives to 90 Day Fiance, it’s someone who stirs up trouble.

To production and networks, these people are ratings gold — which makes them more like heroes.

When Brandon explains that part of it is the indignity of farm labor, which disgusts and terrifies Julia, and part is that maybe his parents demand more of his time than Julia would like, Betty begins to tear up. Whether it’s a manipulation tactic or she’s genuinely hurt, who can say? … It’s probably both.

Their castmates may feel differently.

So, too, do viewers.

These controversial reality TV fixtures have to evoke strong feelings from viewers.

He feels like Karine is being unfair (and we will say that occupying a household’s only bathroom for hours is not great). But we also only hear his side of things. Generally, when someone locks themselves in a bathroom, they’re desperately trying to get a little peace or process intense emotions. We only have Paul’s word that this is “mood swings,” for whatever that’s worth.

These larger-than-life personalities need to be over-the-top, but they can’t be universally hated.

In other words, these cast members have to court controversy, either intentionally or otherwise.

Their bad acts can only go so far, however. If they threaten to hurt the show’s bottom line, they’re no longer helpful.

Lisa Hamme: I Hope 90 Day Fiance Takes Me Back! I'd Be Great on Pillow Talk!

When it comes to 90 Day Fiance villains, there are different kinds.

Infamously, the fandom has a deep-seated misogyny problem, worse even than its issues with racism and xenophobia.

The show is aware of this, and casting and editing clearly keep this in mind while framing the season’s storylines.

Kobe Bliase chats while Emily Bieberly feeds Koban

A vocal chunk of viewers will despise any woman who’s either too young, not young enough, too pretty, not pretty enough.

But it takes more than that to be a true villain on the franchise.

So while some fans want to pelt Emily Bieberly with eggs for, let me check my notes, “breastfeeding” and “not letting Kobe drive her car,” let’s look at some bigger fish.

Angela Deem flashes the camera and screams

Angela Deem has such an over-the-top personality that it’s at times easy to forget that she is a real person.

This chain-smoking, ill-behaved grandmother often seems to forget that other people have rights and feelings.

Her favorite victim seems to be her on-again, off-again husband, Michael Ilesanmi.

90 Day Fiance: Angela Deem Screams LAND OF THE FREE at Michael Ilesanmi

The way that Angela verbally insults, intimidates, and belittled Michael is not actually funny.

What viewers have witnessed time and time again is nothing short of verbal and emotional abuse.

Every time that they break up, many of us breathe a sigh of relief.

90 Day Fiance: Angela Deem is So Done With Michael Ilesanmi!

No one deserves that treatment.

Angela’s inability to treat people like human beings has not alienated all viewers, however.

There are people who see Angela as entertaining — or, worse, as inspirational.

Angela Deem - this son of a bitch got nerve

Not all 90 Day Fiance villains scream, yell, or smoke indoors like it’s The Purge.

Bilal Hazziez is new to the franchise, having joined the Season 9 cast.

What he has been doing to Shaeeda Sween resembles the first act of a Lifetime movie.

Bilal has serious control issues.

He likes his house a certain way. Clearly, he wants his wife to be a certain way.

We all have quirks, but Bilal isn’t just a harmless neat freak.

Shaeeda and Bilal clean up the mess, but it really highlights — just as much as the hair-pins-in-the-couch incident, how differently they view the house. Shaeeda is messier than the average person (keep in mind that Bilal’s kitchen is very easy to clean), if only by a little. Bilal is tidy, to the point of being controlling.

Bilal has been lecturing Shaeeda since long before they began filming.

She had imagined that it might stop when she came to the US.

Sadly, she was mistaken.

Bilal seems fixated on winning every argument.

When asked to stop, he simply becomes defensive.

Bilal will play word games instead of consider how he is making his fiancee feel.

Shaeeda hilariously describes Bilal’s (fake) vehicle as a “Scooby-Doo van,” which is amazing. She thought that the somewhat more generic car (what was it, a Chevy? I don’t know anything about cars) beside it was his and did not imagine that this super sketchy van, loaded with stuff as if Bilal hadn’t even tried to tidy it up before she came.

Speaking of Bilal and “games,” he has an odd definition of “pranks.”

At the beginning of the season, he picked up Shaeeda in a crappy work van.

He drove her from the airport to a dilapidated house — his childhood home.

This is not what she signed up for
While Shaeeda of course was taking a risk by traveling to be with Bilal without seeing her home ahead of time, she has met him — she saw his nice luggage, and she knows that to do what he does for a living requires a decent amount of money.

Bilal grew up in poverty, and the house showed it.

There was a bicycle lock on the door to Shaeeda’s room. Pieces of the ceiling were peeling off.

He may have called it a “prank,” but this was a test — to set Shaeeda up to embarrass herself.

A lot of homes take damage from weather, animals, and the passage of time, while remaining pristine within. A ceiling that is visibly falling apart (and the creepy lock on the outside of the bedroom doors) is very different, because that is inside of the house.

While we look forward to watching a very faithful horror movie adaptation of Bilal and Shaeeda, there are other baddies.

Big Ed Brown is without a doubt the most widely memed 90 Day Fiance star on the show.

Between his stature and his goofy antics, he presented himself as a reality TV version of Danny DeVito.

Big Ed Brown Drinks in His Robe
90 Day Fiance: B90 Strikes Back star Big Ed Brown figured that people have already seen him “shower,” they might as well see his robe again.

Unfortunately, Ed’s behavior better resembles DeVito’s It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia character, Frank Reynolds.

Simply put, Ed chases after women who are decades younger than he is.

Some are less than half his age. Most are younger than his daughter.

Ed Brown cries with Tiffany Brown at the Tell All

He seems to particularly enjoy pursuing low-income single moms.

90 Day Fiance is no stranger to age gaps, with some fan-favorite couples with decades between them.

The way that Ed has treated these women, however, is what makes him stand out.

Big Ed Brown And Rosemarie "she's My Queen"

Viewers watched with horror as Ed repeatedly negged and insulted Rosemarie Vega.

He insulted her body-hair, falsely accused her of poor dental hygiene, and interrogated her about her sexual history.

Ed also lied to Rose for months, stringing her along on false pretenses.

Rosemarie Vega Sits While Big Ed Brown Walks Away Crying
90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days Season 4 villain Big Ed Brown abruptly gets up and walks off after hearing Rosemarie Vega tell him the consequences of his own actions.

When Ed finally told Rosemarie the truth about his final lie, she dumped him.

He had the gall to act brokenhearted over a situation that he created.

Back at home, he moved on to a new single mom, Liz Woods, to whom he is currently engaged.

Big Ed Brown and Liz Woods confirm engagement on the Tell All

Ed was cruel to Liz, breaking up with her numerous times via text message only to win her back.

Viewers didn’t need to hear about Ed being accused of sexual assault to know that he’s a creep.

Ed’s own castmates have chewed him out, and rightly so. He’s gross.

Mike gets more toxic
He cusses out Ximena and even some of her family in the process. For a guy who uses a translation app for almost everything, he sure says “hija de puta” like it’s a familiar phrase.

Some 90 Day Fiance villains start off with the sympathies of viewers.

At the beginning of his season of Before The 90 Days, Mike Berk presented himself as a sweet, awkward guy.

He had a good job. He was a volunteer firefighter. At 34, he hadn’t had a relationship since he was 14.

He felt a sense of disbelief when she “swiped right” and they have been in communication for about a year. He feels that he is in love with her — his first real love. They have spoken about getting married and having children.

Viewers were poised to see Ximena has a scheming user.

She didn’t make it difficult.

More than once, Ximena suggested that she was only after his money.

But Ximena says that she is not in love with him — very plainly, even now.

Ximena likely cheated on Mike. She certainly said very hurtful things to him.

But Mike’s response to all of this was what landed him squarely in the villains hall of fame.

Refusing to leave a woman’s house isn’t just a dick move — it’s scary.

Mike Berk Refuses to Leave After Ximena Dumps Him on 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days (Recap)

Maybe fans are right. Maybe these villains are “ruining” the franchise.

But … do people really watch the show only to see love stories?

If you want that, watch Loren & Alexei and David & Annie on After The 90 Days.