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Mayim Bialik has stirred up some MAJOR controversy via an op-ed she wrote this weekend for The New York Times.

The inspiration behind it? Numerous allegations of rape and sexual misconduct against Harvey Weinstein.

Bialik’s apparent stance on this topic? It’s largely the fault of victims in these situations because they care too much about how they look.

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Wait… WHAT?!?

In a piece titled “Being a Feminist in Harvey Weinstein’s World,” The Big Bang Theory star wrote that she has “experienced the upside of not being a “perfect ten” and then went on to explain why.

“As a proud feminist with little desire to diet, get plastic surgery or hire a personal trainer, I have almost no personal experience with men asking me to meetings in their hotel rooms,” Bialik said, adding:

“Those of us in Hollywood who don’t represent an impossible standard of beauty have the ‘luxury’ of being overlooked and, in many cases, ignored by men in power unless we can make them money.”

Over the past several days, a multitude of actresses have come forward and said Weinstein either made an inappropriate pass at them…

Or, in the worst cases, the movie producer actually raped them.

Mayim Bialik Snapshot

“Women should be able to wear whatever they want,” Bialik continued.

“They should be able to flirt however they want with whomever they want. Why are we the ones who have to police our behavior?

In a perfect world, women should be free to act however they want. But our world isn’t perfect.

Nothing – absolutely nothing – excuses men for assaulting or abusing women. But we can’t be naïve about the culture we live in.”

This is the main part of her post about which so many people have taken issue.

She’s basically saying this is the way in which the world works – men are simply going to prey on attractive females – and it’s up to the women to accept it and adjust accordingly.

“I plan to continue to work hard to encourage young women to cultivate the parts of themselves that may not garner them money and fame,” the actress wrote.

“If you are beautiful and sexy, terrific. But having others celebrate your physical beauty is not the way to lead a meaningful life.

“And if – like me – you’re not a perfect 10, know that there are people out there who will find you stunning, irresistible and worthy of attention, respect and love.

“The best part is you don’t have to go to a hotel room or a casting couch to find them.”

This is all really horrible and ridiculous.

If Bialik’s only point is that superficial beauty shouldn’t be the most important thing in life… well, she’d be right and there would be little to quibble with.

Instead, however, she’s somehow making a connection between women wanting to look good and MEN SEXUALLY ASSAULTING THEM.

Qualify her point however she wants to try, this is 100% victim blaming.

And we obviously aren’t alone in thinking as much.

“@missmayim229 I have to say I was dressed non provocatively as a 12 year old when men on the street masturbated at me,” actress Patricia Arquette tweeted on Saturday in response.

“It’s not clothing.”

“It is also not outrageous for anyone to expected to be treated in a professional manner by anyone in a professional relationship,” Arquette added.

Said another well-informed and well-spoken Twitter user, quoting Bialik and then using her words against her: 

“I have decided that my sexual self is best reserved for private situations with those I am most intimate with. I dress modestly.”

This is disgusting. @missmayim is placing blame on victims and forgetting that rape and assault are about power, not about desire.


Bialik has not yet responded to the backlash.