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The term “Bridezilla” is typically used to describe brides-to-be in wedding planning mode, but apparently this behavior can extend beyond the big day.

A wedding guest recently shared a Facebook message she got from the bride, not thanking her but calling her out for not giving more money. Seriously.

The guest, Tanya, and her date gave $100 to the newlyweds, which earned a stinging rebuke from the bride (not pictured below, but that’s how we envision her).

Tanya shared the story with The Huffington Post:

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“Last weekend I attended a wedding of a not-close friend with my boyfriend and as a gift we gave $100 cash. This was generous considering my financial situation.

I just finished university with $40,000 in student loans, and have only found part time (12-18 hrs per week) minimum wage work. I gave as much as I could and attended to show my support.

Today I received a rude, condescending message from the bride via Facebook messenger:


‘Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike’s and I wedding that both you and Phil gave $50 each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is $200 (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn’t expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you’ll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything. [all sic]’

It’s infuriating that she had the nerve to make assumptions about my finances, and assume that I or my boyfriend had an extra $400 lying around.

Those $100 were hard-earned and she didn’t show an ounce of gratitude for what she did receive. That money didn’t grow on a tree.

If she had a minimum gift requirement, she should have specified it… or asked everyone for income statements before inviting them.”

Yeah …

To call this “inappropriate” would be the understatement of all time. Thank goodness we weren’t invited to “Mike’s and I wedding,” are we right THGers?