Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber are doing so much together these days. Dates. Church. Vacations. Each other.
Selena’s mom head a breakdown and was hospitalized in reaction to Jelena rearing its ugly head.
And apparently Selena’s rekindled relationship with the Biebs is causing even more problems.
A few months ago, when Justin Bieber called Mandy Teefey and asked to be reconnected with Selena Gomez, if Mandy had known where it would lead, we imagine that she would have hung up.
(You can’t really slam down a phone to hang it up like you could in the olden days, but she’d sure have pushed that end button with a lot of vigor)
See, Justin Bieber’s mom loves Selena Gomez (because of course she does!).
But Selena’s mom is not so crazy about the singer she must remember as a poorly behaved boy with alleged substance abuse issues, anger problems, who has spent he last few years covering his once-beautiful body in some truly ugly tattoos.
Reportedly, it was only when Mandy learned that Selena and Justin were getting couples counseling to resolve the issues that had tripped them up in the past that it hit her:
Jelena 2.0 is for real.
We don’t know if she thought of it in those words (probably not), but to say that she was upset is an understatement.
So, Mandy Teefey had a breakdown and went to the hospital over it.
Note that she was there of her own free will — this was not an involuntary psych hold. We’re glad that she had the self-awareness to know that she needed some medical attention.
And yes, we know that “mom freaked out so much about daughter’s boyfriend she had a breakdown” sounds like the fakest story ever, but it comes from TMZ and they are very diligent about making sure that they can confirm whatever they report.
That her daughter was going to therapy with her ex meant that it was serious, that Selena’s revisiting past mistakes and that Mandy’s nightmare has returned.
And apparently Selena and her mom have had it out over their disagreement — both have reportedly unfollowed the other on Instagram, for the time being.
As unhappy as Mandy is, Selena isn’t exactly thrilled, either.
HollywoodLife reports that their source close to Selena says that Selena herself isn’t loving the conflict.
“Selena is heartbroken that her relationship with Justin is creating problems with her mother and the rest of her family.”
Remember, it’s not just Selena’s mom — Selena’s whole family hates Justin. They remember him as her crappy, less talented boyfriend who wasted years of her life.
“Selena feels like she is being forced to choose sides between pleasing her mother and following her heart.”
“Selena has loved Justin for years, despite everything, good and bad. They have been through so much together and she still loves him.”
Justin’s like a bad habit that Selena just can’t shake, and she’s off the wagon.
“Selena is struggling to get her mother to understand how much Justin has grown, matured and changed, but Mandy refuses to keep an open mind about Selena’s future with Justin.”
We’d argue that Mandy doesn’t need to keep an open mind — just to keep her thoughts to herself. We’ll explain in a moment.
“Selena feels like she is being forced to choose between being in love with Justin and making her family happy.”
Her family’s more concerned about Selena’s health and future and happiness than their own right now. But, wrapped up in the idea of Justin (but not the reality), perhaps Selena can’t see that.
“Selena knows that her mom is doing her best to protect her, but it still doesn’t feel good that Selena’s relationship with Justin is creating so much anxiety for her family.”
We’re not saying that, in general, people should let their parents dictate their romantic choices.
In this case, though, Selena’s mom might have it right. At least, Justin Bieber, “changed” or not, is bad news. Just because he has a nice butt doesn’t mean that Selena needs to repeat past emotional labors to turn him into the perfect boyfriend. He’ll never be that.
That said, we think that Mandy is clearly going about this wrong.
Unless your child’s dating an absolute monster, the best thing to do (and this works if your friend is dating or even your mother) is to gently state your reservations at the beginning, and then grin and bear it until they realize their mistake.
Selena is brilliant and beautiful but right now, she’s riding an emotional high. Anybody with an ex, especially an ex they had during a formative time in their lives, can tell you that rekindling things with them brings out a rush.
If Selena’s mom winding up in the hospital isn’t enough to break up Jelena, then, for the time being, nothing will.
But in a few weeks or months or years, Mandy can give Selena a shoulder to cry on. And perhaps a very gentle “I told you so.”