Julie Sondra Decker Discusses Being Asexual, Is Told She "Needs A Good Raping"

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Julie Sondra Decker, a 35 year old woman from Tampa, Florida, calls herself asexual. People tell her she just "needs a good raping" in order to find her missing libido.


Yeah. That's what we said, too.

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Miss Decker, who lives alone in her two-bedroom apartment, has no interest in dating, sex, or finding another asexual with whom to share her life.

Over the years she's had more offers of sex than she "wants to count" but feels that "without the feelings that usually go with that sort of thing, it's kind of gross."

Decker has known she was asexual since she was 15 years old. Her parents and family believed her to be a closeted lesbian and even went so far as to take her to doctors when she didn't show "normal" interest in either the same or opposite sex. 

Once given the all-clear from physicians, she went on to attend the University of Florida where she graduated in 2000 with degrees in Elementary Education and Psychology. 

Despite the fact that she lives an openly asexual life, friends, particularly male friends, still try to "fix" her by kissing her against her will and insisting that one day she will "wake up." Since opening up online about her asexual life, she's received death threats and multiple comments that what she really needs is a "good raping."

Miss Decker hopes to raise awareness about asexuality by being openly writing and speaking about her life. "I'm not damaged, lonely, or in need of conversion because I'm not interested [in sex]."

"As far as I can tell, I'll be happy being single my whole life," says Decker.

Who can argue with that?

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