A divorced man's simple but profound marriage advice has gone viral on Facebook. While that may sound counterintuitive, read it and you'll understand.
The man in question is newly divorced motivational speaker Gerald Rogers, who was reflecting on what he could have done differently in his marriage.
The heartfelt advice and self-effacing, real guy approach Rogers offered, posted as a public note, went on to be shared tens of thousands of times.
"Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert," Rogers begins. "But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective."
"After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years," he laments, "here’s some of the advice I wish I would have had...."
1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating.
NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it.
This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.
2. PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART.
Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance.
Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife.
Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
3. FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again.
You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today.
Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other every day.
SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back.
Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.
What do you think of his marriage advice? For men and women alike, these seem like lessons we all might learn from, or at least remember, don't they?