Carolyn Moos, Jason Collins' Ex, "Deeply Hurt" By NBA Star Coming Out

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“He’s being hailed as a pioneer, but I believe true heroism is a result of being honest with yourself and with those you love.” - Carolyn Moos on Jason Collins.

In a melancholy yet pointed essay for Cosmopolitan, the former fiancee of the first openly gay NBA player speaks out and tells her side of the story.

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As has been previously reported and Carolyn Moos recalls again, the basketball star gave her no explanation when he called off their wedding in 2009.

In April 2013, he called her to explain that he’s gay before publicly coming out, but she says she’s frustrated he hasn’t discussed it further with her.

“I am sad that the media seems to be a higher priority," was one reaction.

The former WNBA player adds that she has finally moved on from Collins, including freezing her eggs, something she wishes she had done before.

She “had put it off because there was some seed of hope that Jason might come back to me," meaning that April phone call must have been very awkward.

Despite the pain she felt when she learned Jason Collins is gay, she empathizes, saying she "can't imagine what it's like to go through" what he has.

"I don't know what it's like to wear a mask for 34 years. It's sad that society puts that kind of pressure on a person. I also understand the macho stereotypes men face in the NBA."

"I ran up against a reverse stereotype in the WNBA."

"People said I was too 'feminine' to be a pro player. I quickly proved them wrong, showing that my nail polish and dresses had nothing to do with my ability to compete on the court."

"I empathize with Jason and support him. But at the same time, I remain deeply hurt by him. I wish he could have been honest with me years ago."

"I feel like there are two Jasons now," his ex-fiancee laments, introspectively, "the man I fell in love with and the man I'm trying so hard to understand."


She will find someone eventually.


Carolyn Moos needs to SHUT THE FUCK UP about it and find herself a new athlete to go out with (or whatever). End of story.


She needs to have some pride and shut up about this already...after all they'd not been a couple since 2009! Jeez.


I applaud his coming out, but using someone as arm candy or a "beard" is wrong.


She kind of needs to let go I think...maybe realize this NOT about her. When I was in college we called girls like this Klingons.




OMG!!! Honey, you are just upset that your gaydar was not functioning well! You thought you had obtained the million dollar paycheck, because YOU WERE IN DENIAL, thinking you had hit a biracial payday! What is the neccessity to continue commenting, this is NOT your chance to gain 5 more minutes of fame. You were trying to and continue to attempt to fit in a situation, you DO NOT BELONG IT!!! It is OVER, MOVE ON, ALREADY!!! You REALLT NEED TO ACCEPT THAT HE HAS MOVED ON!!! If you are SUCH A FRIEND, AS YOU CLAIM... Then these articles are not necessary... BECAUSE IT EVIDENT, THE ENTIRE RELATIONSHIP AND ENGAGEMENT WAS ALL ABOUT YOU... Maybe, if YOU, tone down, the ME, ME, ME EPISODES... YOU MIGHT FIND LOVE...Stop pressuring the MEN, CUZ, YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK AND YOUR MOMMA IS PRESSURING YOU... GROW UP AND BE STILL, YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE...

@ MamaJack824

But he was having sex with her, she had a right to know, not just be his candy. He should have had more respect for her as a woman not to hide his sexuality. I think i would be hurt too.

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