Girl, 10, Forced to Wear Heinous Clothes as Bullying Punishment: Right or Wrong?

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A Utah woman is courting controversy by reprimanding 10-year-old for bullying - by giving her a taste of her own medicine, public humiliation style.

Ally Olsen, 41, discovered that her fiance’s 10-year-old daughter, Kaylee, had been bullying a classmate because of the way she dressed.

As a result, the victim no longer wanted to come to school. When Ally heard this, she was upset at Kaylee, and responded in unorthodox fashion.

Bullied Child Pic
Bullied Child Picture

"I confronted Kaylee who explained that she had called another girl ‘sleazy’ for wearing Daisy Duke shorts and a tank top," Olsen told Yahoo! Shine.

"We’ve taught Kaylee to dress conservatively but never to be judgmental.”

Olsen said Kaylee was unapologetic, so grounding her "wouldn’t resonate.” So she took action, and took her to the thrift shop. Macklemore would be proud.

As Kaylee deemed various articles of clothing “ugly” and “embarrassing,” Olsen had her try them on as a joke, then bought them for her as punishment.

“I wanted Kaylee to truly experience the embarrassing feelings she had evoked in someone else by wearing clothes she felt self-conscious in,” says Olsen.

“The goal wasn’t to select items that were cheap; it was to buy things Kaylee said she hated,” she adds, citing that as the reason for the items shown above.

Although Kaylee cried about it, the next day she did in fact go to school wearing one of the outfits under a coat that she had zipped up to her neck.

To solidify the punishment, Olsen snapped a photo of Kaylee wearing the outfit (her face was blurred to protect her identity) and posted it on Facebook.

Kaylee wore the clothes to school, where she was laughed at, and was also made to attend her father’s soccer game wearing the same clothing.

“We wanted adults to see the example we set," Ally said.

Pretty harsh and over the top, right? Depends on your point of view. Ally says Kaylee handled the ordeal with grace - and came away better for it.

Kaylee said the kids laughed at her ... and that she felt so bad that she pulled the bullied classmate aside and apologized for her previous behavior.

“What people don’t understand is that Kaylee genuinely learned from it. She actually thanked me for making her go through that,” said Olsen.

“I’m keeping the clothes, too, just in case we hear that she is mean to other kids again. Hopefully one day, we’ll be able to laugh about it.”

Shaming misbehaved children is hardly news, but where's the line between a parent setting an example and being inappropriate? You be the judge.

What do you think of this girl's punishment: Right or wrong?

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It was the perfect punishment. I think it was %100 right to do to her because it even said she "wasn't even sorry" so she totally deserved this.

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She got what she had dished out. Perfect. Props to the step mom. What did the father think, I wonder.

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This was a PERFECT way to teach that little girl that what she did was wrong. Punishing and beating kids do not work these days. As long as she learned her lesson then I say it was a great idea.

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i had to skip the article because i was too busy looking for the "Heinous Clothes" the girl had on.

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This was great it was better then being aggressive , or etc. this child learn other have feeling and watch what u say and do. Because every working class lives from check to check . A well do job. I can't stand a bad kid it is ugly of the partner to have kids that don't mind or etc.

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There's nothing wrong with those dresses.I'd rather see a 10 year old girl wearing something like that then dressing like a little whooer!

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@ joenamherst

Wow dude. Are you serious? You're saying dressing conservatively is better than dressing like a "little whooer" (we are talking about 10-year olds here, let's remember), as you put it. This is exactly the rude and inappropriate attitude Kaylee had, and exactly the reason for her punishment. I find it odd that you agree with the parents method of punishment (as I do) and yet you LITERALLY missed the entire point of the punishment. Hilarious.

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First of all the problem here is, this young girl is not the woman's daughter. Secondly, this is wrong. Very wrong.

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@ critic

ok so she should just let her keep bullying the other girl with no punishment cause that is what you are suggesting .she did not hit her.she showed her how it felt .pretty sure if it was your daughter the girl was bullying you would change your tune.

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@ critic

What is so wrong about it? She didn't whip or hit her for acting as ass so she gave her a taste of her own medicine which she needed. This generation doesn't learn except by example and experience. I think this was the best lesson this girl could have gotten and it doesn't matter that it's not her biological daughter. If her father trusted this woman to be around and help raise her, she is entitled to act accordingly within reason. The father didn't object so therefore, it must be okay. What would you have done differently then?

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When the child who received the punishment actually THANKS you and says he / she learned a valuable lesson from it - then you know you did the right thing for sure.

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@ Sunday

Sorry Sunday, I meant to post this comment to critic and not you! Sorry.

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@ Sunday

What is so wrong about it? She didn't whip or hit her for acting as ass so she gave her a taste of her own medicine which she needed. This generation doesn't learn except by example and experience. I think this was the best lesson this girl could have gotten and it doesn't matter that it's not her biological daughter. If her father trusted this woman to be around and help raise her, she is entitled to act accordingly within reason. The father didn't object so therefore, it must be okay. What would you have done differently then?

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hi hru mi dear frnd

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Good job..
that is the only
way u learn ..
or think twice
off doing wrong