Cynthia Nixon Labels Her Homosexuality a "Choice"

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Cynthia Nixon finds herself in a bit of trouble within the gay community.

The actress - best known for her role as Miranda on Sex and the City, and in a committed relationship with Christine Marinoni - is profiled this week in The New York Times and tells the newspaper:

“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice."

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Nixon made these comments around the same time Washington became the seventh state to legalize gay marriage, and she doesn't see her viewpoint as contrasting with the stance of many activists.

“A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out," the actress says. "I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.

"I am very annoyed about this issue. Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate."

What do you think of Nixon's comments?


If I feel like a burgler should I rob people
If I feel like a pediphile should I rape children
If I feel like a murderer should I kill people
If I feel like a homosexual should I act on!!!

T jones

Justin, you seem confused. Are you a bi?


Personally I would think that most people find sex desirable or offputting with one of the sexes. I know I do. It's easier for me to believe that most people really have no choice in what their inclination is, than the other way round. Sure, if Cynthia says so, I believe that for her it was a choice. But that really makes her a bisexual, and I'm sure for a lot of gay people there is really no choice. I find it amazing that people are so unwilling to accept that. Just think for yourself! Just the idea of having sex with another man for a straight man is so offputting. I believe it's the same for homosexual people, only reversed. Cynthia has every right to be the way she is and who's to judge, but I understand the other side as well.


Forget whether or not your belief that homosexuality is right or wrong (a simplistic contrast). The issue is whether or not being gay is by choice or genetically imposed upon you at birth. Cynthia Nixon has to be just one of MANY who have chosen homosexuality as a result of their exposure to that lifestyle, by result of their environment as a child, or whatever other non-genetic reasoning for "being gay". It is the position of the gay community that each and every one of them "had no choice". I can't buy that. One has no choice as to what race they are born to. That issue deserves special protection under the law. Gays seem to be trying to gain the same protections for something that they MAY have chosen.


Stupid fucks..showing the stupidity of our culture. Every person will have sex with who or what ever they want to have sex with! Its not you so get over it and let them fuck!! Dont argue why she shouldnt or how gay she "chooses" to be.


I think people really need to get off her case. If being gay for her was a choice, who is to say that its wrong? I do not believe in the lifestyle because of my own religious beliefs, but in the same token I do not believe in passing judgement and I have no problem with anyone who is gay. However, people need to stop lying to themselves about the BIBLE/CHRISTIANITY and HOMOSEXUALITY. It is clearly and repeatedly cited as a SIN just like lying, killing, fornicating, cheating and so forth. I don't understand why most of our society can accept that lying is a sin, that fornicating is a sin, that stealing is a sin but yet they try to justify homosexuality within the bible. It is clear and simple that it is a sin. Nonetheless, that same bible tells us to love our neighbours and not to judge our brother, so in that regard, a large portion of our society is also failing.

T jones

@Helen. Your two comments contradicts the other. Does that mean you are confused about your sexuality?....Bisexual, perhaps?! I find bisexuals to be most screwed up of all of the sexual orientations. At least with a homosexual, most people know where they pretty much stand with them. But you bisexual MF's are the worse! Make up your mind, damn!! Just pick one! No one as screwed up as you are born that way! Please stop insulting everyone's intelligence with your fetishes and denials!!


@ "God" So what you are saying is that the whole point of sex in general is to make babies. You even went so far as to say that you must have a penis with many sperm and a vagina with some eggs. And since homosexuals cannot make babies then they should not be participating in sexual acts. OK...well with that in mind are you trying to say that people who are steril for any reason shouldn't be having sex, even married couples who have tried for years to have children and find that they cannot? Should they be condemed to a life of abstinence, since our genitalia was made for making babies and is the only way it should be used? Please clarify this for me...


Ah, now possibly, I understand a wee bit more of why the gay community are unhappy; I stand by my original comment (below), however, after reading some of the posts on here, I see that those who are against homosexuality will use Cynthia's words as a boat to sail down the river on, waving a sail that sais "see? We told you it was a choice!". People who wave their religion as to why they are against human rights and jump on snippets of written information as 'truth' or 'proof' or 'evidence' are to be pitied. Forgive them, they know not what they do. Just because you don't want to believe that homosexuality isn't a choice doesn't make it any less so. Just because you provide dubious evidence doesn't make you any more prejudiced. As Mr T said "I pity the fool....". :O)


I don't understand why she should change her truth or lie for the sake of those who may not like her message. Any person with a brain in their head knows that homosexuality is not a choice for many but who they are: just because Cynthia has a anyone....doesn't mean that it diminishes those who don't. I think it's appalling that people who stand up for the rights of others want to shut this woman down for her truth. Shame on them.