Mary Jo Eustace Pens Story of Dean McDermott Betrayal
Attention, Simon Monjack haters: perhaps it's time you spewed your venom at someone else deceitful.
Mary Jo Eustace will be glad to give you a candidate: Ex-husband Dean McDermott.
The pair were happily married - having recently pulled an Angelina Jolie and adopted a child - when the second rate actor left her last year for Tori Spelling. On Mary Jo's birthday, no less. She spoke to People magazine about the incident.
"I came home, and somebody called me and said there was going to be something in [New York Post gossip column] Page Six, and I didn't even know what Page Six was," Eustace said. "So it just kind of exploded. ... I was offered several publishing deals to do a book, and I turned them down."
But Eustace, who now lives in Canada with kids Jack and Lola did write "a comedy script loosely based on my situation," and it is being looked at as a possible series; perhaps one to compete with Tori and Dean's nauseating reality show, Inn Love.
In the meantime, she has also written an essay for a new anthology called The Other Woman, which features stories from 21 women about betrayal. Kim Kardashian can probably relate to it based on the Ray J sex tape leak. Here's an excerpt:
When The Other Woman Is Tori Spelling
When Dean called me from the set [of his TV movie], he told me how great he was getting along with his costar Tori Spelling. She was fun, caring and much hotter in real life. I assumed this was good. Before he left, jokes flew at the prospect of working with the daughter of a Hollywood mogul. I suggested he befriend her. "Who knows?" I laughed. It might be good for his career.
Now here he is, back. We're on vacation and I'm wearing my bikini with saggy faded bottoms. I know something is wrong. "Have you met someone?" I ask. He nods yes. "Is it Tori Spelling?" He nods. "We're soulmates," he says. "She loves me unconditionally."
"What conditions?" I scream. "You've only known each other three weeks." (The Hollywood Gossip finds this to be a better point than even the ones Simon Cowell just made about Britney Spears.)
I look down at my baby daughter. "We just adopted a baby." The phrase single mother pops up in my brain. I start to feel weightless as I cross the divide between together and alone.
"I'm not leaving the kids," he says. "I'm leaving you."
I begin to sob. I actually begin to worry that maybe it's all because I look fat. Maybe he was undecided, and this dreadful bikini sealed the deal.
Hey, Mary Jo, we doubt that's true. But you can talk to Janet Jackson if you wanna see how to lose weight.
August 22nd, 2007 3:02 PM
The fact is that both Tori and Dean were already married when they met. It's too bad they couldn't think of the feelings of their spouses and children. They had an affair anyway. Tori and Dean committed adultery, which is a big sin. It doesn't matter at all if they were already in unhappy marriages. Please do not try to justify what they did saying maybe they had unhappy marriages or that Mary Jo is "plain". None of that matters and it doesn't make it right what they did. It's not cool to be married already to someone else and make the decision to carry on an affair with someone else. Not cool at all. God created marriage between a man and a woman and intended it to be a lifetime commitment. It's too bad in our society that people like Tori and Dean are so looked up to by others, the institution of marriage (God created marriage to be between a man and a woman by the way), and God's commandments are held in so low self esteem and so disregarded. It's very sad. We must not continue to make excuses for such poor behavior and low morals including celebrities. We must pray for change and a conversion of hearts. We must pray for Tori and Dean and everyone involved. My heart especially goes out to Tori's ex and Mary Jo and their children. Dean and Tori should have at least thought of the implication of their actions especially on the two innocent children involved, but of course they didn't. That's Hollywood for you. In Hollywood (and many places in America) a lot of people just care about themselves it seems. It's so sad.
September 19th, 2007 10:29 AM
Mary Jo, the fact that your ex-husband would do what he did means that he (and incidentally his new wife) is an unethical creep. You on the other hand are a much more beautiful, loving and sophisticated soul. Just because the new Mrs. Whatever is younger than you, means nothing. Let the creep go... he did you a huge favour and you will see that soon, if you have not already.
Love,
Clara
September 29th, 2007 2:03 AM
Mary Jo, I have been the "other woman" & it took my being horribly betrayed myself for me to understand how truly shameful my actions had been. I tried to justify myself in the name of "love", but what I was doing was wallowing in self-indulgence. I only got a small portion of what I really deserved, in my mind. Please take heart in the fact that people who cheat never really win, no matter what it may look like, & the world admires a woman who can hold her head up & behave like a lady in the face of betrayal. Tori Spelling is no one's prize, & it may shock you to know that there are intelligent, articulate people in this world who have never watched an episode of 90210! I am one of them. When all is said & done, you are handling this betrayal with the grace of a woman, & not the grief of a child, as the poem says. You are a woman to be admired.
October 2nd, 2007 12:55 PM
I also had my husband cheat on me about 3 times that I know of. He passed away two years ago from leukemia which left me totally destroyed. I miss him terribly, but, sometimes I think of the betrayal and it makes me angry. He never admitted it to me. He always made me feel like I was the one who was crazy. But, all the signs were there and I always knew. But, I was not working and I held it together for security reasons because I wasn't self sufficient. Sometimes, I get angry at myself for being so forgiving. Mary Jo, this is Hollywood for you. Where people have no morals whatsoever. These celebrities change spouses like people change their underwear. Watch and see, this marriage to Tori will never be a lifelong commitment. It will only last until someone else comes along and sweeps one of them off their feet. If it did last, I would be totally surprised. But, in Hollywood marriages like that only exist in rare circumstances. Keep being a lady and always hold your head high. Believe me, he did you a favor. He was never worth having.
October 24th, 2007 7:59 PM
Mary Jo, You are the better woman! Its a terrible thing that SLIME Dean did to you, on your birthday!!!!!!! Obviously Miss Tori Spelling is a no good homewrecking TRAMP! Im a firm believer in what comes around goes around!! She is NOTHING like her character in 90210 Donna Martin. Donna had morals, something Tori was obviously never taught.
October 31st, 2007 1:37 PM
Dear Mary Jo,
Keep your head high girl! What goes around comes around and T&D will have their bad karma bite them in the butt eventually.
I absolutely loved you in the 'What's for Dinner' show. You are such a 'real' person and down to earth. I sincerly hope that you and JK do another show together as you guys were amazing together.
Good Luck in your future endeavors.
Your fan,
~Sue
November 8th, 2007 4:07 PM
To be honest its not you, your bottom or bikini, the fact is shit happens in life and that is that. You cant control people married or not, we are human after all. You have health, career and and your children that is more than most. Are you suffering hardship...no..move on with your life. I feel your loss but what will be will be.
November 9th, 2007 12:16 PM
My heart goes out to Mary Jo. The ultimate betayal.
I watched the view this morning and Tori was the guest host. She was clearly out of her league. The panel was talking about marriage and she AGAIN mentioned how she can't be apart from her husband for just a short time. They asked why? She said, I don't know I think I'd be jealous of what he was doing. Why, does he have a history? to which Tori answered "nooo... and the audience laughed.
Once the dust settles for Mary Jo and she has gone through the stages, she will come out of it seeing her ex for the limited human being he is. His marriage with Tori can't last and can he be considered a has been, when he wasn't ever a "been?"
I caught one episode of Inn Love. Are they kidding?! It was a show that kept my attention because it was pa-the-tic. "Hey Babe" , "Hey babe" and he clearly either likes to tilt the bottle, or maintains his high school opinion that drinking is cooo'el. Arraugh...he looked and acted like the infantile moron he is when he walked into the wine tasting wasil in their town, announcing their presence by saying "HEY, how are ya" No one...was impressed. They clearly deserve each other.
Keep focused Mary Jo, it WILL get better for you.
November 19th, 2007 1:02 PM
Mary Jo:
All the posts here are great, Mary Jo you are so much better off without that CREEP. He will get his own one day, as they say what goes around, comes around. There is someone out there that deserves a classy, wonderful LADY like you, and when he finds you he will be a lucky man. Guess Dean thought he was marrying into a very wealthy family - one joke on him right? Keep your chin up and good things WILL happen!
December 8th, 2007 2:04 PM
Hi Mary Jo,
I was watching "Whats for Dinner?" yesterday...I loved it then and I still love the re-runs now!!!
I just want you to know ...you are 10 times the woman Tori could ever be and at least you did it all on your own merits!! It must be nice for daddy "Aaron Spelling" to hand feed a TV show for his daughter. I loved 90210 in its hay-day, but honest to god...she was the worst actress on that show!
You just keep your head up high and know that everyone thinks if it wasn't for the fact that her last name is Spelling and Dean was an actor that I swear I'd never heard of...he would still be with you now!! I've seen "Inn Love" and trust me...he needed a big name to get him into lights!!
January 4th, 2008 9:29 PM
Mary Jo I relate to your story completely. I too moved the States from Canada (just outside Toronto). I thought we were happy and now four years down the road he wants to ship us back to Canada. He tells me that he wants to move his lady love of 8 years (yes 8 years--long before he dragged me here). He has allowed our children to get comfortable here, meet wonderful friends, get involved in sports and the community. I too have made some wonderful friends, and now my whole world as I know it will be changing. As hard as it was for you to hear Dean say those things to you, I wish mine would say something. He won't tell me anything and it is driving me crazy, I am obsessed about finding things out about her. I too, when alone for the first time, started to scream and cry uncontrollably and couldn't get up off the floor. I was totally unable to function, eat, sleep and then of course I had to tend to the kids. so I proved to myself I could do it. It was your choice to move back to Canada that was of the greatest interest to me. That is what we are looking at doing. I do worry about the kids and being away from their Father and the effect that is going to have on them. I wish I could find an update to see how you are doing, if you think it was the right choice for you. My children are 10 and 12. Oh yes I am 43 and have been with my husband for 25 years. So, definitely very angry and bitter that my whole adult life was based on a lie. I do hope you are doing well. Dean settled for second best. One day she too will feel your pain. All the best to you.
February 20th, 2008 6:48 PM
Mary Jo - You are a beautiful, vivacious and wonderful mother. Hold your head high girl as you have everything to be proud of! The only thing I can say about Dean and Tori is that I feel sorry for them. They are both very shallow people with no feelings for others. They seem to be self centered and have mistakingly been put under the impression that people actually enjoy their show and silly little antics. Yes, you must feel sorry for them as their true colours are now showing on national televsion and not just behind closed doors.
February 24th, 2008 9:41 AM
Mary Jo -
You rule! I still get a chuckle out of the What's For Dinner reruns on CBC. I hope we're going to be seeing a lot more of you! Keep your chin up!
Phil
March 15th, 2008 11:56 PM
Hey Mary Jo. I admire you. Tori is an idiot, so is Dean. You are so above them both. It's great that your kids have a wonderful, stable, loving mother like yourself. you think of your children first...not yourself...which is something your ex did not do. I too, am a single mom of an adopted daughter (from china) but single by choice....and this is THE reason why I'm happy I'm single. So you go ahead and date, do whatever..... but you don't need a husband to complete your family....you do that yourself. Men complicate things big time.... except for Ken of course.... unfortunately men like him are not the marrying kind....it's soooo cruel isn't it...because they do make the best mates. lol.
Take care and I'm a huge fan...always have been.
Karrie.
March 16th, 2008 2:19 AM
Our stories are very similar in that we both adopted children, and then our husbands left us for younger women to have babies for them. That is what is sickening, more than anything else to me: the message it sends to our children, that they aren't worthy because they aren't biological. Yes, he did leave the kids, and subjected them to a broken home they don't deserve. I think that Tori getting pregnant again so quickly points to the dissatisfaction they already have. I read somewhere that she is "desperate" to have a girl. Sounds like she's rushing to fill a void that can't be met by this creep. They rushed to get married to find happiness, and now they are rushing to make babies to rekindle that happiness. It just doesn't work that way. It also sounds like she is merely a baby machine to him. She can only be a substitute. She cannot replace you, his long-time companion, no matter how many kiddos she desperately pops out. Poor kids, and so sad they are being used. At any rate, wanted to tell you that you are an inspiration to me for your continued success, and for not letting this define you. You are helping other women by speaking out -- don't let accept anyone calling you bitter for not laying down and letting those adulterers walk all over you and your kids.
March 20th, 2008 8:07 PM
I'd never heard of Dean McDermott until I read that he left you for Tori Spelling and she left her husband after less than a year of marriage in a million dollar wedding her father paid for. They were recently on Larry King and he made comments about the book she wrote. She said they had sex the first day they met. To me, that's the same as picking up a hooker. There was no consideration they had spouses at home and he had a son and in the middle of adopting a baby. Married people can feel attraction for someone they are not married to, but to act on it, especially the first day they meet, is so low class and trashy. He also said he arranged a meeting between you and Tori. I bet you handled it with charm and grace. Much more than either one of them deserve. You are a beautiful woman and will someday meet the man who will treasure you as you should be.
March 25th, 2008 12:51 PM
If you were my girlfriend I would have told you to leave that loser years ago. He oozes creepiness and really seems to have no vitality of his own. Which is why he sucked the life from your radiance until he could find another, not prettier or interesting or sexier just RICHER source to suck. This "betrayal" is the universes way of giving you a truly honest opportunity to be happy!
Lucky Lucky you.....
April 13th, 2008 5:20 PM
I truly believe that adultry in a marriage is totally & completely immoral. I do feel for you when I hear what happened and the situation you were put in.....and with a 3 1/2 week old....blah! That must have been the hardest thing for you to deal with. And I commend you for inviting Tori to meet you and discuss parental opinions....I don;t think I could have ever done something like that.
On the other hand, I read Tori's book and truly know what its like to just "know" when you meet your soul mate--its the feeling I had when I met my husband. 3 weeks or 3 years...if you know, you know. I'm not trying to condone the circumstances, however, true love is what it is. It's just unfortunate that they couldn't control themselves before ended their first marriages.
It sounds like you're a strong woman that has really put her kids before this situation. Kudos to you:) Have you found your soul mate yet??
April 13th, 2008 5:33 PM
I cannot believe how many people feel the need to bash others to make themselves, or Mary Jo, look good. Mary Jo looks good by herself, without the nasty comments made about Tori and Dean. You dont bring others up by putting people down. Man, and you are all saying Tori has no morals. No, I absolutely don't agree with the route Tori and Dean took, but that doesn't mean that calling her a hooker will make Mary Jo look better. I just cannot believe some of the words used to describe Tori & Dean....it's disgraceful---not to say their actions wern't, but Gosh, have you any respect? I'm sure it doesn't feel good to Mary Jo when you call her ex husband down. And before you trash Tori, maybe find out her circumstances. No, she wasn't richer and not all that younger either. Just b/c she's a SPELLING does not mean $$. And her emotional family upbringing....not what you'd quite expect. How would you feel if your mom told you you'd only be pretty when you got that nose job. Do your homework people before you bad mouth others. Ya, they made a terrible choice, but they are the ones who have to live with it--and now all you Tori and Dean bashers are the ones who have to live with the hurtful words you say utter.....
May 2nd, 2008 12:59 PM
My ex-husband cheated on me and left me for a slightly younger and fatter woman. Don't let it get you down Mary Jo. He didn't deserve you just like mine didn't deserve me. I know have a new husband who is more caring and loving and you will too.
May 31st, 2008 12:59 PM
I had never heard of Dean McDermott and with no disrespect whatsoever, I had not heard of Mary Jo Eustace. I too, watched the sickening Larry King show when the two 'love birds' were on - I wanted to throw up. All I could think of was "where is his ex-wife and how in the world is she handling this?". Mary Jo, you obviously are handing your situation a lot better than I am handling mine - yes, I too was traded for a younger model after a 24 year marriage. I found out soon after the divorce was final (they really start crawling out of the woodwork then!) that the ex had been with so many women, including my twin sister and his own brother's wife. I did not work, stayed at home and took care of my two children and took care of him so he could have his life of luxury. And because I believed him when he left me and told me there was no one else, I did not get an attorney so I was literally screwed financially. He owns his own business and makes six digit salary (and probably more) and he promised me 'he would take care of me' Now here I am three years later, a 48 year old woman in college trying to get an education with the hopes of obtaining a decent paying job. There is no excuse for what these people have done - I don't care if they do think they are 'soul mates'. I understand that people are just human and attractions are always going to be tempting, but there just comes a time when you have to say no to temptation and do not cross that line. Mary Jo, you are absolutely gorgeous and successful and I have been told this by so many people and I will tell you now, but you probably already know this because of the classy, intelligent woman you are: we do not NEED a man to make us complete. I admit I am lonely and would like companionship with a decent, honest person, but I am better off by myself than to have to go back to what I had. Mary Jo, at least you can lay your head down at night and sleep. I don't know how people like my ex, Dean McDermott and Tori Spelling can - oh, wait a minute, yes I do know!! They, like the Bible says, are people with a seared conscious. Obviously, they stop at nothing to satisfy their selfish, lust-filled lives. God help them.
June 7th, 2008 9:56 PM
Mary Jo, I always loved watching you and Ken on What's for Dinner. This is my first time writing onto any blog, but feel that I just must say:
1. you are the celeb, babe! I didn't even know who Dean Mcwhat's-his-name was before the reality tv show!
2. Whenever I hear about Dean & Tori's babies, I yell, HE ALREADY HAS TWO CHILDREN!!! How can he feel like a man pandering to the camera, making money on reality tv over the births of his 3rd and 4th children, acting like it's the first time?
3. I hope you're getting a very generous cut from all of this business, and I would love to see you in front of the camera again!
June 10th, 2008 7:48 AM
Dear Mary jo first i would like to say to you i seen a picture of you and i thought you are a verry beutiful woman and i think dean traded down. tori is rediculasly ugly and the only reason she got an acting job on 90210 was her father was producing and creating it. not becouse of her acting ability.and i like the fact that her father had disowned her for marrying dean. so all i am saying is that you are a verry atractive person and that there are more better men out there, keep looking youll, see. i dont think dean is as happy as he lets on and he will regret the betrayal of his family for personal satisfaction.his non comitment as a father and a husband to you and your children says he will do it again.so dont think it was your fault this happend . if you realy try hard to remember there were sighns of him with other co stars being ramanticly invalved you just never read anything in to it. people dont just wake up one day and say im leaving my family for this. they feel comfortable becouse they have done this before with somone else as a practice run if you will.but he will leave his new family the same way he left you.watch and see.
June 28th, 2008 10:30 AM
Mary jo, release the loser to his kind. Believe me, when the dust settles he will have many regrets. Men like him always do. They are not worth the love, energy and commitment of real women. They are too shallow to accept and appreciate it. Let us real women save that love and energy for men deserving of it - men who are faithful, trustworthy and committed to their women and families; men who are able to deal with finding other women attractive while still commited to someone else. To rekindle the love, such men would have quit their job once they would have realized the attraction, sought counselling, and speny more quality, romantic time with their wives. They would not have solved the problem by creating a huger one. Thank that shallow man for not wasting 12 more years of your life.
June 29th, 2008 10:25 AM
Hello,
Just remember you are one in a million, where Tori is one of a million, what goes around comes around. I saw the last episode of Tori and Dean in Hollywood and the insecurities are showing, Dean has a wandering eye and Tori will get what's coming.