Gary Shirley does not mince words.
When it comes to the personal life and decisions of Amber Portwood, his former fiancee, Gare-Bear is never going to bite his tongue.
They have a kid together, after all.
As the father of Amber's daughter Leah, and the one who had primary custody for much of her life, Gary certainly has reason to talk.
After the news that she's expecting a baby with Andrew Glennon, one could only imagine the thoughts running through Gary's head.
Well, imagine no longer.
Gary spoke to In Touch about her relationship, as well as her previous romance with Matt Baier, and tried to reserve judgment. Mostly ...
Portwood's baby news took a lot of people by surprise, as the two had just started dating. “I’m very excited for my future with Andrew and our little family we are starting together!” Amber said in announcing her surprise pregnancy this fall.
They Sure Are
Amber's impending child will leave Farrah Abraham as the only one of the four OGs with only the original child from their 16 & Pregnant days ... how does Portwood's ex, and her daughter's father, feel about it?
Thumbs Up From Gary
“I think she is less controlled now,” he told In Touch, comparing her relationship with Andrew Glennon to her previous onewith Matt Baier.
Still, Pretty Fast Though
“With Matt, I think she needed to take time to heal," he adds, noting just how strenuous her romance with Baier was, though he is careful to add that "it's her life, not mine.”
Hedging His Praise
Gary has no problem with the guy, but ... "I don’t know him [well] enough,” Shirley said of Glennon, adding, “I’m not saying she should’ve waited on him. I think she should’ve dated." But ... getting pregnant?
The Truth Comes Out
Gary said earlier this year, “I think the last time they talked ... I don’t know what they’re doing ... but I think he was trying to relocate or something. I think she should’ve stayed single longer."
Trouble With the Law
Gary can't be happy if he knows about Andrew’s brushes with the law - two arrests and one restraining order - but he was careful not to bring that up specifically.
You Gotta Do You
Especially after her romance with Baier, Shirley feels Portwood should have “really gotten to know herself and get over someone before getting with someone else because that’s how you do it, man. The correct way. You don’t need someone to make you feel like you’re living.” Good advice.
A Happy Blended Family
Any issues Gary might have are secondary to keeping things positive with their family. He's seen here on Halloween with Leah and his daughter from his current marriage to Kristina Anderson.
Amber is self-aware enough to note that she is moving on very, very fast. Amid questions of when they began dating, she claims it was three months after she Matt split up, though they met while she was filming Marriage Boot Camp in Los Angeles, and it's not clear when her breakup with Baier officially occurred.
Was There Overlap?
It was while filming Marriage Boot Camp - with Baier, who she was trying to work things out with supposedly - that the Teen Mom star met Andrew Glennon, who was working on the show as a crew member.
No Cheating! (She Swears!)
Sources close to Portwood admit that the two "grew close" on the set but insist that lines weren't crossed and that "nothing happened" between them until Amber returned home and had long broken up with Matt. "She didn't cheat," our insider says.
The Real Deal?
It really appears like it. They are inseparable. One source shares, "During filming, Andrew noticed Amber before she noticed him. He contacted her once filming ended. She and Matt were broken up and she invited him to come visit ... [a few weeks later] he's been with her ever since. It's been a longer stay than either of them expected."
Too Many Skeletons
Compared to Matt Baier, anyone is going to look good. Guy sets a low bar. But on the flip side, is Amber ignoring warning signs about Glennon for that reason? And even if she's found a man who's a much better fit for her - and much less controlling, as Gary said - is she moving too fast? Moreover, will Amber's own experience with Matt serve as baggage in its own right?
Protective Father ... and Former Partner
Some accused Gary of meddling, and grandstanding for the cameras instead of handling this in private, but if you learned that the mother of your child was dating a man with 7-9 secret kids, you would likely bring this to her attention too ...
Seemingly to underscore the argument that Amber and Matt Baier are more concerned with living the posh life than with raising Leah, MTV gave us many scenes in which the controversial couple was splurging on personal purchases or seemingly wrapped up in their celebrity status. Gary used this to frequently question her priorities regarding Leah.
Expect a Repeat of This ...
... if Andrew Glennon gets on Gary Shirley's bad side. With Matt, Gary was obviously concerned about his past and his influence on his daughter. As he put it on the reunion show, Baier's "life is trash." Yikes.
Despite what some fans might think, Gary likely is not motivated by jealousy or wanting Amber back. He and Kristina Anderson have been happily married for years and have a child of their own.
At the end of the day, the man has stepped up to take care of his daughter while her mom went to prison, and then helped her weather a very stormy relationship with Matt Baier and come out better on the other end. He's concerned, obviously, but for good reason - yet Gary doesn't make it entirely about him. It's all about Leah and their modern family. It feels kind of weird to say this given some of the things that went down in the past ... but Team Gary.