Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard: Did They Break Family Courtship Rules?

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19 Kids and Counting star Jill Duggar is speaking out on why she announced her pregnancy so early on and whether she really stuck to her family courtship rules.

Jill revealed last month that she's expecting her first child with husband Derick Dillard. The news came just 60 days after the couple's big wedding in Arkansas.

The news shocked even devoted Duggar family fans, because if you watch 19 Kids and Counting online, well, you followed Jill and Derick's courtship history. 

Duggar children are not allowed to hold hands, kiss or even hug from the front while dating. The duo shared their first kiss at the altar in June.

Critics naturally speculated that Jill and Derick broke the Duggar family dating rules prior to marriage, but Jill insists they were absolutely chaste.

Not sure why it's so unbelievable that they could figure out the rest on their wedding night and beyond, but she's been forced to answer this question.

"We prayed a lot, prepared and really didn't see any reason to have a long courtship and engagement," Jill explained of their dating process.

"Once we knew we wanted to get married, we didn't want to put off the wedding for a long time and provide a stumbling block for ourselves."

"We purposed to save ourselves physically for each other within marriage (even our first kiss for our wedding day!), so we had a short engagement period."

She also gave a word of advice to engaged couples:

Derick Dillard, Jill Duggar Picture
Jill Duggar and her husband Derick Dillard have some lunch at work. So cute.

"You may not wanna push the wedding date out too far, as those natural God-given desires with too much time between engagement and marriage can make it harder to remain pure."

"If you are financially ready, and things are in place (which should be at the time the question is popped), we believe an engagement should only be long enough to plan a wedding!"

Certainly she practices what she preaches.

As for why Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard not only got pregnant so quickly, but announced the pregnancy to the public almost as soon as it occurred?

"We knew that we weren’t going to prevent having children. So when we found out we were expecting within our first month of marriage we were thrilled!"

"Understanding that the majority of miscarriages happen within the first trimester, and believing that every life is precious no matter how young, we decided to share our joyful news as soon as we could."

With "Baby Dilly" due in March, the 23-year-old midwife-in-training added that her first child would hopefully not be her last. Oh, not even close.

"I have loved having lots of brothers and sisters growing up," she said, and with 18 of them, she's got more of a perspective on that than most people.

"Although Derick comes from a family with just one brother, both of us would love to have as many children as God will give us… We are also open to the possibility of adoption."

Their First Meeting (Sort Of)!
The Arkansas natives grew up within 45 minutes of each other, but didn't meet until late 2011. Jill recalled when Derick stopped by while caroling with a church group, and not long after, "Derick contacted my dad and asked if he would be a prayer partner during his two-year term in Nepal."

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Oh please the reason for her marriage was to get knocked up and breed! Stupid ignorant child doesn't know any better....

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It isn't unusual to get pregnant on a wedding night. It is a shame she feels a need to defend her quick conception. I agree with some of Jill's sentiments, but what constitutes being financially ready to this young couple? I wish them the best.

The Duggar Family Quotes

Be available. Anyone can fix him lunch, but only one person can meet that physical need of love that he has, and you always need to be available when he calls. - Michelle Duggar

When you've missed [sex] for seven days, you look forward to it even more! - Michelle Duggar