Drew Barrymore: Women Cannot Have It All

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Speaking to Us Weekly at a fashion conference on Thursday, Drew Barrymore made some comments that may land her in trouble with feminists around the country.

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Since giving birth to daughter Olive last September, the actress said she has had to give up "so much" in her professional life in order to be a mother.

"You know that you're going to miss out on your child’s upbringing or you realize that your relationship is going to suffer if you work night and day and weekends," Barrymore said.

Barrymore has no regrets about movies she's passed on or projects she cannot produce, saying one gets "instinctual" regarding the balance of one's career and one's family life.

But she disagrees with females who claim it's plausible to take good care of a child and succeed at the top of the business game.

"Unfortunately, I was raised in this like generation of like, 'Women can have it all,' and I don’t think you can. I think some things fall off the table."

"The good news is, what does stay on the table becomes much more important."

So don't look for Barrymore to get behind the camera as a director any time soon.

But do look for her to read to her daughter each and every night.


Drew you are Awesome!!! I think now 1000% more of you for making the Very Wise decision to stay home w/ your daughter!! I'm sure you've already heard they grow up too soon!! It is sooooo true!! My son is now 17 yrs old, my 2 daughters 14 & 12 & I can't believe my son is graduating from high school this May & going to college!! It feels like he was just born & toddling around saying Dada!!
This is The One thing You will Never Regret is staying home & spending time watching your daughter grow up!!! You will be very glad you did!!
I always liked you before this, have watched most of your movies, but I like you even more now that you have become a very Wise woman to make the decision to stay home & raise your daughter!! You are so right --the lie that women can have it all has made more women feeling like they have to be this super woman to the expense of running themselves ragged & never feeling truly fulfilled because of being pulled in so many different directions, & their children suffering as well by no time spent w/ them or attention the need given to them. This is I believe at the root of our society having so many problems w/ the way kids are raised--raising themselves!! I know some of your back round & I am very happy that you are choosing to follow a different path of raising your daughter!!!
Don't let Hollywood or any of the media make you question your decision!! I assure you, the relationship you have w/ your daughter as she grows up will be the reward for choosing to have her and spend the time being there for her as she is growing up! She will thank you one day for your very wise decision because she will grow up confident & feeling loved & ready to take on the world when she grows up because you gave her the love and attention she needed!!!


She is right.


There are plenty of parents who have been working at home earning a living for the past 15-20 years so as to not miss out on their children's milestones and many professions since off-shoring our jobs in the 1990s have forced some to work from home. Kudos to those parents too, trying to have it all


Good piece of unsolicited advice: People in life who are the happiest don't have the best of everything. They make the best of everything they have.


You Can have it all, just not all at the same time.


I thank Drew Barrymore for being so truthful. Women are not superwomen and they can not do it all. Thats the greatest lie the feminie league want women to believe, beside the lie we don't need a man. We can not be mommie, daddy, work 8.0 hrs. per week, take care of our baby or children, clean, perform household chores, cook daily meals, take our child(ren) to school, give them 100% attention or support needed. The truth the child(ren) suffer while the lie is hyped up. Thank you Drew.

Blesson george

just became a fan of drew


I applaud you Drew, putting your child and family first and foremost. I don't car how "advanced" these child care centers are, you're still paying someone else to raise your child. He/she will grow up with someone else's values. You will miss out on kissing boo boos, random hugs for no reason, and other seemingly trivial things. Things that in the great big picture are not trivial. They are moments that are lost and you can never get back. I tried having it all. I chose just as Drew did. I was working full time during the day, going to college full time during the night. I quit college and my job and devoted my time to raising my children. It will be a cold day in hell before someone else other than me raises them. I'm the mom who has warm cookies ready for them when they get off the school bus in the afternoon, the mom that sews them the new fleece pillow that they drag everywhere, the mom that constantly communicates with there teachers, the mom who never serves processed foods, only stuff made from scratch. My kids are my life. When they are grown adults then it's my time. You won't see this mom at a bar, but you will see her at the kitchen table having milk and cookies.


I agree with Drew! She appears to be a great mother!

Brenda bauder

I discovered this very same thing. I'm not saying you can't work, but your career takes a back seat to that child and if it doesn't, you should not become a mother. I think Drew is very level headed and I applaud her for choosing her child over herself.


Drew Barrymore Biography

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Culver City, California
Full Name
Drew Blyth Barrymore