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The Bachelorette star Jillian Harris and Ed Swiderski would like to simply be celebrating their engagement, but he finds himself being hit with allegations that he was not faithful – and was in two (!) relationships while filming the show.

Lindsey Johnson and Bethany Steffen both claim that Ed, a Chicago computer software consultant, was stringing them along while he was wooing Jillian on TV.

And that he continued to do so even after he and Harris got engaged.

Some reports have claimed Jillian Harris feels “betrayed” by her final rose recipient and that her relationship with Ed Swiderski has been “destroyed.”

Not so, says the Canadian cutie.

“I am not destroyed!” Harris said in an interview. “There’s a little bit of anxiety that comes with this news, but I am absolutely not destroyed.”

Was – or is – Ed Swiderski two-timing Jillian Harris?

“What did he do wrong?” Jillian asks. “My big concern is with everything that happened after the day we got engaged, and after we got engaged he has been so open with me. He’s told me all of this, every text message and every phone call.”

“I use his computer. I know that any communication he had with these girls after [The Bachelorette] was strictly platonic. I’m not worried about it.”

Last month, Ed Swiderski talked about Lindsey Johnson: “When I left for this show we were not dating, but I certainly still had feelings for her.”

A forgiving Harris says she understands that with previous relationships “feelings and emotions are involved. I know what it feels like to fall in love with somebody and to be in love with somebody [while] they are in love with somebody else.”

“It’s very heartbreaking,” she says. “I feel so awful, but since we’ve been home and since we’ve been engaged we’ve been exclusive and he’s done nothing wrong.”

For her part, Jillian Harris says the shoe has been on the other foot, as she’s been in a similar situation with “exes that are still in love with me, they want to go to dinner and stuff and I’ve had to tell them I can’t do that stuff.”

A better example is what she was going through the days before The Bachelorette finale, when she chose Ed over Kiptyn Locke: “I was falling in love with two other guys two days before we got engaged. That’s a double standard.”

“If he had feelings for these two other girls, that’s normal.”

As for how she and Ed are getting through this time, she says, “Ed and I are trying to find humor in this – and there isn’t much – but it’s bringing us closer.”

The best solution, she says is for them to “get out of the limelight” and focus on their relationship. “I think he feels very bad that I’m getting dragged into this and he feels bad for the girls as well.”

Jillian Harris promises everything is “going strong in our relationship.”

The couple have a trip to Las Vegas planned later this week.

“We talked last night about how much fun we’re going to have in Vegas and he said to me ‘I can’t wait to get married to you. Our relationship is very legitimate and it’s only getting stronger. We’re a team and we’re going to get through this.”

Will Jillian and Ed last?