Sometimes, your fave does something problematic. Defending them can get tiring. You start to question whether they're still a problematic fave or if you've stopped being a fan.
But as draining as that can be for fans, it has to be exhausting for friends and family. And it sure seems like Mandy Teefey is tired of going to bat for her daughter, Selena Gomez.
When fans asked Mandy on instagram about Selena's controversial involvement with acused child-molester Woody Allen, Mandy ... threw Selena under the bus.
Despite efforts by Selena and her mom to quash feud rumors, it's clear that there's been tension between the singer and her mother.
One major factor, of course, and probably the reason that we're all talking about this, is Justin Bieber.
See, Justin's not just content to ruin his body -- he and Selena are now back together. And her mother is ... not taking it well. Based on what a poorly behaved little trash boy Justin used to be, we get it.
While some of the rumors about their disagreements have been absurd, Mandy Teefey did wind up at the hospital because she got so upset about Jelena's revival.
They also have older conflicts. Reportedly, when Selena dropped her mom as her manager back in 2014, it created a serious rift, though Mandy denies that it's an issue.
Until now, though, we didn't realize that yet another point of disagreement between mother and daughter was over Woody Allen.
Recently, Ellen Pompeo ruthlessly slammed Woody Allen and the stars who work with him.
It's not difficult to figure out why.
Several years ago, Dylan Farrow revealed that Woody Allen had molested her as a child.
She describes a harrowing incident when she was 7 years old. Woody Allen has always denied the accusations, but they're pretty well-known.
Also he married a much younger woman whom he also raised for years. Many feel that he effectively married his daughter.
Despite that, inexcusably, multiple actors who should know better have worked with Woody Allen.
And, recently, Selena Gomez stuck a dagger in the collective hearts of her fans by becoming one of them.
Several fans wrote comments under Mandy Teefey's Instagram, imploring her to "make" Selena apologize for working with Woody Allen and/or sever all ties with the accused child-molester.
With these requests came a confession that a number of selenators are fatigued from having to defend Selena for something that they don't consider very defensible.
Sure, some assumed that maybe Selena wasn't fully aware of Woody Allen's reputation (celebrities exist in a bubble, after all)
A couple of fans wrote similar messages (managing to misspell Woody Allen's name in different ways, but frankly, that's the least of what he deserves).
And Mandy Teefey decided to reply.
Selena Gomez's mom wrote back:
"Sorry, No one can make Selena do anything she doesn’t want to."
In another context, that might have been intended as a compliment. In this case ... it was not.
"I had a long talk with her about not working with him and it didn’t click."
She also wanted to shut down accusations that Selena's PR team doesn't do her any good.
"Her team are amazing people. There is no fall person here."
One of the downsides of always being in charge is that the blame for your choices falls at your feet.
Mandy Teefey continues:
"No one controls her. She makes all her own decisions."
That's one of the pitfalls of being an adult. You make your own decisions -- and your own mistakes.
"No matter how hard you try to advise. It falls on deaf ears."
That is ... truly disappointing. You always want to believe that someone had just been misinformed.
Based upon this, it sounds like Selena cares more about her film career than she does about right and wrong.
A lot of selenators are crushed by this, but ... it's good to know.