You don't want to dive head-first into anything, least of all marriage.
Scratch that -- especially marriage, least of all your fourth marriage.
It sounds like Jennifer Lopez is taking past lessons to heart as, according to a new report, she's getting cold feet about the prospect of marrying A-Rod. Even though the two of them seem to be in love to a nauseating degree.
According to Life & Style's source, Jennifer Lopez doesn't want Alexander Rodriguez to become her fourth ex-husband.
And, admittedly, four ex-spouses is kind of on the high side, even by Hollywood standards.
"Jennifer worries she's going to make another mistake," says the source.
But it sounds like A-Rod has really been pushing for them to make it official.
(Understandable, since J Lo is legendarily hot and it sounds like he's crazy about her)
Apparently, though, his eagerness is backfiring.
"She doesn't work well under pressure. A-Rod just has to back off."
We don't know that we'd say that she doesn't work well under pressure -- she's a performer.
But many people balk when they feel that they're being rushed to make major decisions.
You want to make sure that you're doing it right.
(The best time to start planning a simple vacation is a year in advance, after all)
J Lo, it seems, isn't quite ready to take her fourth plunge.
"Jennifer keeps telling Alex that she's 'just not there yet."
(Life & Style humorously asks "how many ex husbands are too many?" Our first thought was a veiled widow at the funeral of her seventh rich husband, checking her bank account on her phone and asking herself that very same question)
Jennifer Lopez has been married three times, and two of those marriages were almost astoundingly brief.
Let's take you through them:
-Fellow actor Ojani Noa from 1997 to 1998
-Backup dancer Cris Judd from 2001 to 2003
-Singer, songwriter, and producer Marc Anthony from 2004 to 2014
It was of course with Marc Anthony that J Lo had her twins, Emme Maribel Muñiz and Maximillian David Muñiz, born February 22nd, 2008.
Ojani Noa has said that he was looking forward to spending the rest of his life with J Lo.
He blames her for choosing her career over him.
(Honestly, considering her career ... it's really hard to fault her for that. You'd have to be some dumbass Disney character to choose love over that, right? ... No offense to Disney characters)
It's understandable that, just three years after ending her marriage to Marc Anthony, J Lo would be cautious about getting hitched again.
That wouldn't explain why she may still be texting Casper Smart.
But you want to explore all of your options before you tie the knot.
They haven't even been a couple for all that long.
Real life relationships shouldn't move at a soap opera pace.
(Or have as many evil twins)
We first told you that J Lo and A-Rod were dating back in March.
Four months later and some change ... is just not enough time to decide to get married, folks.
So J Lo is right to press on the brakes.
And once you've been through some marriages, it's easy to a wedding as just a prelude to a divorce.
We've all heard allegations that Jennifer Lopez isn't a reliably good tipper to her servers in some situations, but all in all, we still want her to be happy.
(Though please tip your servers, especially if you're mega-rich, but also if you're literally anyone)
We hope that she's having fun with A-Rod -- which she clearly is -- and that she'll continue to enjoy the relationship for as long as it lasts.
But if she's anxious and wanting to take her time with this relationship, we say to follow those instincts.