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Michelle Duggar’s new "Marriage Advice For Newlyweds" blog post doesn’t call out Anna Duggar by name, but man alive, does it read like a cheap shot.

Michelle, Jim Bob, Josh and Anna Duggar
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In the post, which she penned Friday, Duggar matriarch Michelle urges newlywed and even pregnant wives to satisfy their man’s needs, ALL the time.

Sharing advice a friend once gave her about marriage, she writes: “Anyone can iron Jim Bob’s shirt … he can get his lunch somewhere else."

“But you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it. You’re the only one. So don’t forget that."

"He needs you. So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him."

"Because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together," she urges. "No one else in the world can meet that need."

Michelle notes that pregnancy does NOT exempt a wife from this, and that you had better not just go through the motions, either:

"Be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you.’ No matter what."

"Even though you may be exhausted, big and pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need.’"

"’Because I know it’s a need for you.’"

In fairness to Michelle, she goes on to say that by doing this for your husband, "he’ll lay down his life" for you and meet your "needs" 24/7 as well.

Whether that’s true or not, who knows, and clearly her views on gender roles are extremely dated, but she does (somehow) see it as a two-way street.

She also urges, separately, for couples to actively seek marriage counseling if they have problems and do handle their issues privately. Sage advice.

Still, the fact that she doled out that bit of sex advice on the heels of Josh Duggar’s sex scandal is amazing, and brazenly insensitive … at best.

Does Michelle believe, as the Duggar family pastor does, that Anna is to blame for Josh cheating on her by not "taking care of" his needs in bed?

Was Michelle’s commentary a thinly-veiled dig at her daughter-in-law for not living up to her end of the bargain? Or was Anna not even on her mind?

That we’ll never know.

But reading this after porn addict Josh cheated on her with Danica Dillon, a second porn star and who knows who else he met on Ashley Madison?!

You have to wonder what she’s implying, and you have to hope that Anna Duggar leaves Josh if this is the kind of "wisdom" his family still espouses.