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There’s V-Day, and then there’s D-Day, when breakups happen with surprising frequency and divorce attorneys’ phones start ringing off the hook.

This is because Valentine’s Day, along with New Year’s Eve, is an “expectation holiday” that often precedes relationship problems, according to experts.

“There’s an uptick around dates like that,” Michelle Smith, a Manhattan-based divorce financial analyst, tells the New York Daily News of the trend.

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“It can even happen on Valentine’s Day, when people are like, ‘I’ve had it.’”


Some disgruntled lovers set a breakup date, wanting to wait until holidays, anniversaries or birthdays are over. For others, Valentine’s Day itself can be the trigger.

“It can be a letdown,” Smith explained.

Her observations are backed up by research commissioned by the international dating website AnastasiaDate, which surveyed more than 2,000 Americans.

One in ten admitted mulling a breakup, and Valentine’s Day is often “the straw that breaks the camel’s back,” said chief communications officer Lawrence Cervantes.

“It’s been in their head for a while, and something snaps on that day.”

Breakups are also common after New Year’s and going into summer.

“It can often be on the New Year’s resolution list,” Smith said. “You think, ‘What do I want from my life this year? I don’t want to be unhappy anymore.’”