That's the question people have been asking ever since her ex-husband, the great Michael Jackson, passed away June 25 at the age of 50.
Rowe is mother to two of Michael Jackson's children, Prince and Paris, 12 and 11.
At the singer's memorial service, the children took the stage in one of the only public appearances they've ever made, bringing Rowe (watching at home) to tears. But her relationship with the two kids has barely existed.
In a 2003 interview, Rowe said: "Just because you give birth, because you impregnate someone, that does not automatically give you that title of mother or father."
"My kids don't call me Mom because I don't want them to."
Will the real Debbie Rowe please stand up?
So what does Debbie Rowe, who has said she will attend any custody hearing pertaining to the children (who were entrusted to Michael's mom Katherine Jackson in his last will) want in the wake of the star's tragic death?
"At the end of the day, Debbie just wants what's best for the children," Rowe's close friend and former business partner of Jackson, Marc Schaffel, says.
"Her interest is that the children are going to be taken care of."
Rowe has said since Jackson's death that she is considering asserting her legal, parental rights and filing for custody of the children – including Blanket, 7, who was born to an unnamed surrogate after she divorced Michael.
Living on her ranch in Palmdale, Calif., where she tends to her horses and dogs, Rowe does not seek attention and "is a very simple-living person," Schaffer says. "Does she want to live in a mansion in Beverly Hills? No."