Gwyneth Paltrow wants to put an end to the "mommy wars."
In a journal entry on her website Goop, the consciously uncoupled actress is clearing up and defending her recent comments about working women.
The mom of two stirred up some pretty significant outrage when she insinuated that raising her family in Hollywood was harder than for your average parent.
She explains her remarks, and the ensuing furor, as such:
"A few weeks ago during an interview, I was asked why I have only worked on one film a year since having children. My answer was this," Paltrow said.
"Film work takes one away from home and requires 12-14 hours a day, making it difficult to be the one to make the kids lunch, drive them to school, and put them to bed."
"So I have found it easier on my family life to make a film the exception, and my 9-5 job the rule. This somehow was taken to mean I had said a 9-5 job is easier."
"A lot of heat was thrown my way, especially by other working mothers who used my out-of-context quote as an opportunity to express feelings (perhaps projected) on the subject."
"As the mommy wars rage on," the 41-year-old added, "I am constantly perplexed and amazed by how little slack we cut each other as women."
Cough ... COUGH ... cough ... Alicia Silverstone.
I've learned more about myself being married than anything else. I hate to say, "We've got it worked out," because you never know what's going to happen, but we laugh, we're good friends, we like to do the same stuff.
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It's hard being married. You go through great times, you go through terrible times. We're the same as any couple.
I definitely have to coax things out of him when we talk. You know, he's British, so it's a different lexicon totally. But you have to communicate. Otherwise there's no relationship.
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We've gone through some terrible times where it's been really, really hard, but I've sort of come through those times with a much deeper understanding of myself. And we're still married. We worked through it. I think it's easier to get divorced. But I think the more you keep at it, the more you end up seeing the value in it. But man, sometimes it is not easy.
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Sometimes it's hard being with someone for a long time. We go through periods that aren't all rosy. I always say, life is long and you never know what's going to happen.
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I'm a very grounded, homey person and Chris is a very mad scientist, genius songwriter. So I never say, "Where are you? You should be home by now." I never place demands on him.
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"We see disapproval in the eyes of other mothers when we say how long we breastfed (Too long? Not long enough?), or whether we have decided to go back to work versus stay home."
"Is it not hard enough to attempt to raise children thoughtfully, while contributing something, or bringing home some (or more) of the bacon?"
"Why do we feel entitled to opine, often so negatively, on the choices of others? Perhaps because there is so much pressure to do it all, and do it all well all at the same time (impossible)."
"To every single mother out there, have a wonderful Mother's Day."
We share that sentiment, and this year, Paltrow will certainly need more good vibes than usual. Especially if Chris Martin and Alexa Chung are really an item.