Gwyneth Paltrow may be pretending for all the world like she's totally cool with "consciously uncoupling" from husband Chris Martin, but according to sources close to the couple, Paltrow wanted desperately to hide her marital troubles from the public.
According to the New York Post, Gwyneth had every intention of pretending she and Martin were happily married, even thought they both wanted to go their separate ways.
"It was [Martin's] idea to announce the split," says the anonymous insider. "They had drifted apart and there was no chance they'd get back together, so he felt it was wrong to go on pretending."
We hate to say this, but Gwyneth may have had the right idea about keeping things quiet.
Having been in the public eye for much longer than Martin, Paltrow likely realized that the couple would be torn apart by the tabloids and every detail of their messy split would become the stuff of headlines.
Due to the baffling opinions she frequently shares with the press (she should've kept her comments on working moms to herself) Gwyneth has become something of a controversial figure in recent years and she likely, rightly assumed she'd take the lion's share of the blame for the divorce, even though it seems both parties carried on affairs.
It's always sad when a married couple splits, especially when children are involved, but the real tragedy here is obvious: we were just forced to defend Gwyneth Paltrow.
I've learned more about myself being married than anything else. I hate to say, "We've got it worked out," because you never know what's going to happen, but we laugh, we're good friends, we like to do the same stuff.
It's hard being married. You go through great times, you go through terrible times. We're the same as any couple.
I definitely have to coax things out of him when we talk. You know, he's British, so it's a different lexicon totally. But you have to communicate. Otherwise there's no relationship.
We've gone through some terrible times where it's been really, really hard, but I've sort of come through those times with a much deeper understanding of myself. And we're still married. We worked through it. I think it's easier to get divorced. But I think the more you keep at it, the more you end up seeing the value in it. But man, sometimes it is not easy.
Sometimes it's hard being with someone for a long time. We go through periods that aren't all rosy. I always say, life is long and you never know what's going to happen.
I'm a very grounded, homey person and Chris is a very mad scientist, genius songwriter. So I never say, "Where are you? You should be home by now." I never place demands on him.
When two people throw in the towel at the same time, then you break up, but if one person's saying, 'come on, we can do this,' you carry on."