Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin may be struggling to keep the embarrassing secrets of their divorce private, but their less famous friends are more than happy to share details of the couples' long-deteriorating marriage.
Anonymous sources close to the couple tell People magazine that Chris and Gwyneth's marriage was "falling apart" for years before they announced their split.
"They were physically separated and emotionally," says one insider. "They have been on and off for many years."
The source goes on to detail the ways in which personality and lifestyle differences influenced Chris and Gwyneth's decision "consciously uncouple."
Martin is described as "the kind of person who is always in a T-shirt," while Gwyneth unsurprisingly is "much more glam."
Naturally, of course, the couples' differences go deeper than wardrobe preferences and one insider details the ways in which the stresses of fame and parenting eventually drove Chris and Gwyneth apart:
"They seemed to have a pretty mature handle on that crazy rotation of being superstars and parents," says the source. "But that balance, given the time they had to spend apart, clearly couldn't sustain itself."
Chris and Gwyneth reportedly plan to evenly split custody of their two children, Apple and Moses.
I've learned more about myself being married than anything else. I hate to say, "We've got it worked out," because you never know what's going to happen, but we laugh, we're good friends, we like to do the same stuff.
It's hard being married. You go through great times, you go through terrible times. We're the same as any couple.
I definitely have to coax things out of him when we talk. You know, he's British, so it's a different lexicon totally. But you have to communicate. Otherwise there's no relationship.
We've gone through some terrible times where it's been really, really hard, but I've sort of come through those times with a much deeper understanding of myself. And we're still married. We worked through it. I think it's easier to get divorced. But I think the more you keep at it, the more you end up seeing the value in it. But man, sometimes it is not easy.
Sometimes it's hard being with someone for a long time. We go through periods that aren't all rosy. I always say, life is long and you never know what's going to happen.
I'm a very grounded, homey person and Chris is a very mad scientist, genius songwriter. So I never say, "Where are you? You should be home by now." I never place demands on him.
When two people throw in the towel at the same time, then you break up, but if one person's saying, 'come on, we can do this,' you carry on."