Duggar Family Dating Rules: NO TOUCHING (Except Side-Hugs)!

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Any guy out there looking to date one of the Duggar family girls may need to lower his expectations as far as physical contact and affection concerned.

To say there won't be much is an understatement.

On the season premiere of TLC's 19 Kids and Counting this week, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar laid out the rules of courtship for their 19 children.

With two of the older kids, 20-year-old Jessa (pictured) and 22-year-old Jill, starting relationships with prospective mates, there was no time like the present.

"As far as our kids dating, we believe a lot of times if you're alone with the person, it can create desires that can kind of get stirred up," Jim Bob said.

"You don't have any accountability, and [that] can kind of lead to some hanky panky," he feels, and suffice it to say, "hanky panky" is a big no-no.

"Courtship is really about getting to know each other for the purpose of possibly getting engaged and getting married," the Arkansas father of 19 said.

Jill, who is courting Derick Dillard, 25, says: "The main difference between courting and dating is setting boundaries for yourself so that you don't cross those."

For Jessa Duggar and beau Ben Seewald, 18, that means no holding hands, no kissing, and always having a chaperone (usually one of the Duggars' 10 sons).

So how do they show affection, an important part of courting?

With "side-hugs," obviously, whenever they say hello or goodbye. "Obviously we're saving our first kiss for marriage," Ben said. "It's pretty basic."

Michelle and Jim Bob, who are devout fundamentalist Independent Baptists, also require their daughters' suitors to include them on any text messages.

"It's neat to see their conversations," Jim Bob said, while Michelle adds, "The girls always said they would send any guy who was interested in them to Dad."

"That's a good thing ... that is such good protection for them."

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Duggar Family Quotes

When you've missed [sex] for seven days, you look forward to it even more! - Michelle Duggar

Anyone can fix him lunch, but only one person can meet that physical need of love that he has, and you always need to be available when he calls. - Michelle Duggar on saying yes (yes, and more yes) to sex