Mormon Couple Pushes LDS Church to Change Anti-Gay Stance After Son Comes Out

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Wendy and Tom Montgomery, devout Mormons, are pushing the church to reconsider its anti-gay stance now that their own teenage son has come out.

They had to do some rethinking of their own. As recently as 2008, they campaigned hard in their California neighborhood for anti-gay marriage proposition.

The Supreme Court threw out Prop 8 for good this year, upholding a lower court's ruling. Despite their prior efforts, the family now sides with the court.

They learned last year that their 15-year-old son is gay, a revelation that rocked their belief system and shifted their views, Wendy Montgomery admits.

Now, she is leading a growing movement among Mormons to push The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to teach that homosexuality isn't a sin.

Wendy and Tom set out on a grueling six-month spiritual journey as they reconciled their love for their son, Jordan, with the teachings of their lifelong faith.

They let family, friends and church mates know he was gay and established that they wouldn't tolerate any harsh treatment of their son for any reason.

They remain faithful Mormons, but admit they have switched congregations after enduring harsh ridicule from some friends and fellow church members.

One woman actually told Montgomery her children should be taken away from her and given to somebody who follows the teachings of the prophet.

Montgomery and her husband had to step down from their positions - he was the assistant bishop and she was a Sunday school teacher to teens.

The family's story is one of many featured in a compelling documentary made by the Family Acceptance Project at San Francisco State University.

The organization works with conservative religious families to help them navigate the doctrines of their faith while also accepting their gay children.

The Utah-based LDS church's stance on homosexuality hasn't softened dramatically since it was one of the leading forces behind California's Prop 8.

However, a new website launched this year encourages more compassion toward gays, implores them to stay in the faith and clarifies other positions.

For example, church leaders will no longer "necessarily advise" gays to marry people of the opposite sex in what used to be a widely routine practice.

Some gay Mormons who left or were forced out of the church say they are now being welcomed back, even though they remain in same-sex relationships.

Church leaders backed the Boy Scouts' policy allowing gays in the ranks.

It may seem like negligible progress to outsiders, but Mormon scholars say 2013 has been a landmark year for the religion on gay and lesbian issues.

The Montgomerys hope that trend continues in 2014 and beyond.

"It made me question everything," said Wendy, 37. "I'm looking at this 13-year-old boy who is totally innocent and pure and an amazing kid."

"I think, 'Either everything I know about homosexuality is wrong, or my son is not really gay. And, he's obviously gay.' I kind of had to unlearn everything I had learned."

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If "gay acceptance" is defined as loving all people, serving them, and looking past any personal characteristics to see a Child of God, then gay acceptance has been quietly and continuously happening for a very a long time in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (and countless other faith traditions) by individuals who strive to model their lives after the Savior.
If "gay acceptance" is defined as a change in doctrine that permits or promotes sexual intimacy between anyone other than a man and a woman, lawfully married as husband and wife, then gay acceptance will be forever elusive because the Lawgiver Himself will not allow His infinite love for his children to trump His Just and Eternal Laws that bless and empower the obedient.

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@ Scott M. Soulier

Extreme self-righteousness. "...who strive to model their lives after the Savior". "...because the Lawgiver Himself will not allow..."...empower the obedient". Do you consider yourself so imminently qualified? Problem is, your "Savior" is a myth. Your "Lawgiver" is a manmade figment of prejudice. Your "obedience" is to the whims of men. You think like the Taliban. You're prejudiced, proud,...and wrong.

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Feelings are not a sin. We can't always help what we feel. However, it IS a sin to act on these feelings in a manner that is not pleasing to God.
God loves all His children. But that does not mean He loves what they do.
We believe that, through the scriptures, and through living prophet and apostles of God, that God has told us that sexual activity is sanctified ONLY to be between a man and a woman who are legally and lawfully wed to each other.

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You guys are fucking disgusting. I hope your children and friends come out as gay and make you rethink how fucking terrible of a person you are.

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If they don't agree with the bible then they aren't Christians, Homosexual acts are a sin. They can change the words of their CHURCH all they want too, but nothing will change what God wrote in the bible.

George greer

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GOOD LUCK WITH THAT , HOMOS . MORALITY ORGANIZATIONS SOLEY EXIST AS DEFNEDERS OF THE MOST FUNDAMENTAL TRUTHS AND GOODNESSES !!!! SEXUAL PERVERT ARE LIKE WAY !!! OUT THERE ON THE SCALE OF EVIL !!!! AND WOULD NEVER BE CONSIDERED BY DECENT PEOPLE AS ANYTHING ELSE ... WHAT ??? ARE FUCKING SICK ANIMALS NUTS !!!!!

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Why should the church change their views because of this couple's son? That makes no sense. If they don't like the church, then leave. The church should never accept homosexuality though.