Maria Kang Accused of "Fit-Shaming" Women With Facebook Pic, Issues Non-Apology

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Maria Kang, a very fit mom of three, is accused of "fit-shaming" women in a Facebook photo she shared, and now refuses to apologize for.

The 32-year-old fitness enthusiast and former beauty queen shared this image of herself in a workout bra and short shorts, flaunting her toned body:

Maria Kang (Fit Mom) Photo

Alongside her? Kang's three sons, ages 3 years, 2 years, and 8 months, with the caption: "What's Your Excuse?" Just motivating others, right?

Depends who you ask. The picture sparked a comment war, with many of 12,000 (!) responses accusing her of fat-shaming, a charge Kang denies.

After she responded with what she calls a "non-apology," the debate escalated. How did she address some of the criticism she received? Read on ...

"I'm sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way," she wrote.

"I won't go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two businesses, have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer."

"What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It's yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head."

"I didn't create them. You created them. So if you want to continue 'hating' this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life."

Kang's point is that mom who don't work out are lazy and fat, but that you can and should make fitness a part of your life even when you're a busy mom.

If you saw that photo of her and felt bad about yourself, too bad.

One can understand, up to a point, why someone who doesn't look like Maria would react in an intense, even negative way to the image she posted.

Perspectives are skewed by own unique challenges, and enhanced by our own insecurities. Maybe some felt she was bragging or showing off, too.

It doesn't mean she was "shaming" anyone else here, however. Nor was she going on other people's Facebook pages and writing hateful comments.

Perhaps Kang's approach was the issue, not her intent.

What if she wrote "What's your motivation?" Instead of "What's your excuse?" Or been more sympathetic and less defensive in her reply? Would it be different?

Share your comments on this interesting debate with us below.

Is Maria Kang fat-shaming women with this photo?


It's guilt. They feel like crap bc someone else takes care of themselves. I've been heavy and I've been thin. If I hated that pic its cuz I was 200lbs n jealous. I look at it now n think "I wish I looked like THAT!" BUT I work out as often as I can w 2 kids n eat right. I'm not celebrity fit but for me?.. I look Damn good. no one can take that away. It's a choice. Everyone makes their own. I don't make people feel bad for being heavy so don't make me feel bad cuz you have a problem with how YOU look.


I just had my baby! It's nice to know that you aren't doomed to be a blob after becoming a mother. We ALL have a choice. Do some have to work harder than others to obtain it? ABSolutely!! It's all about your work ethic and how bad you want it! Pick up a dumbbell or pick up a cheeseburger. Healthy is ALWAYS positive. She is motivation for sure!


What's wrong with fat shaming? It's more than just how someone looks, objectification of women's bodies, it's your fucking HEALTH. Why are women encouraged to be obese and then called "brave" for being comfortable with themselves sitting around lazily all the way to heart problems or worse?


It's not solely a weight issue, though. I carried right out front for both of my pregnancies BUT only from 30+ weeks- this resulted in heaps of tummy stretch marks. My boobs increased in size by four cup sizes then decreased back by two to three once I stopped breastfeeding... I am never going to look like this. Ever. 'What's my excuse?'. Ah, genetics. The positions of my babies late in pregnancy. That there are far more important things for me to be modelling to my kids than how I/they/others look.

@ MM

I am riddled with stretch marks! Can I still have abs??? YES! Can I still be healthy??? YES! Do you have to show your stomach bare for people to KNOW that you are healthy, take care of your body, and are in AWESOME SHAPE??? NO! Now hop on the treadmill and fix the things YOU CAN CONTROL! FIT with stretch marks is better than fat with stretch marks. Period.

@ Vanessa

Ewwww. Stretch marks are nasty and never ever sexy. Never. Sexy. Ever.


I am not offended by her picture because she is probably one of those women who are genetically skinny and she just exercises to tone it all up. I am however offended by her " Whats your excuse?" I'm a full time single mother, I own my own business, and go to college, I'm chunky and I don't have the time to work out all day, nor do I want to take the time out of spending time with my child to work out when I'm happy with how I am. I'm with the majority of women on here, its not the picture that is offensive because good for her, I'm offended by her words.

@ Heather

Time spent with your children is probably a much, much better investment of your time than going to the gym and working out.


"If you saw that photo of her and felt bad about yourself, too bad"...LOL, we think a little too highly of themselves aren't they! what a ignorant bitch!


I am a bbw and I did not get offended by this. I'm happy with who I am. I have the greatest son in the world who thinks I'm beautiful the way I am. I say if you're unhappy with how big you are then exercise diet and workout all dang day I'd you want. Just because your unhappy with how "fat" you were doesn't mean everyone who's a little chunky is. It's sad tho that this is what society wants girls to look like to get a man or feel loved, when in fact if they don't love you the way you F-THEM!


Also, many people could care about the picture or how fit she is. The problem is the tone of the message...."Whats your excuse?" Its pretty much pooling ALL women who are chubby and beyond or have body issues and saying they have an excuse for it? She doesn't word it in a motivational way or helpful way...she just sounds like all the bully kids on the playground. She has no idea about different situations for women being chubby. Diseases, depression, sickness, birth control, metabolism, thyroid....


I think she looks amazing, and kudos to her! That being said, however, I do take issue with the caption on her photo. That's what bothers me the most. If the caption had read "You Can Do It Too" or something more encouraging and less accusatory, then I doubt she would have received so many negative responses to her picture. I am a mother of 6, and even in my pre-child days, I never looked like her. But I am comfortable with who I am, and I think that it is great that she is comfortable with who she is too. It just felt like the way she presented this was not very nice--even if she didn't mean it that way.


Yay for you being fit? Um. Anyways, Why in the world do you act like losing weight is easy? I have been on a strict diet, I exercise every single day and that's been going on for a year. I have barely lost weight. You can't judge fat people like that. It's just rude. You have no idea how our bodies work. Just because you shed fat fast doesn't give you the right to hate on people that don't. I agree with everyone calling this fat shaming, it's what it is.

@ Ema Polverck

I used to be able to lose weight and get in shape quickly. It got a lot harder after I turned 50. After 60, became really, really tough.

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