Girl, 10, Forced to Wear Heinous Clothes as Bullying Punishment: Right or Wrong?

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A Utah woman is courting controversy by reprimanding 10-year-old for bullying - by giving her a taste of her own medicine, public humiliation style.

Ally Olsen, 41, discovered that her fiance’s 10-year-old daughter, Kaylee, had been bullying a classmate because of the way she dressed.

As a result, the victim no longer wanted to come to school. When Ally heard this, she was upset at Kaylee, and responded in unorthodox fashion.

Bullied Child Pic
Bullied Child Picture

"I confronted Kaylee who explained that she had called another girl ‘sleazy’ for wearing Daisy Duke shorts and a tank top," Olsen told Yahoo! Shine.

"We’ve taught Kaylee to dress conservatively but never to be judgmental.”

Olsen said Kaylee was unapologetic, so grounding her "wouldn’t resonate.” So she took action, and took her to the thrift shop. Macklemore would be proud.

As Kaylee deemed various articles of clothing “ugly” and “embarrassing,” Olsen had her try them on as a joke, then bought them for her as punishment.

“I wanted Kaylee to truly experience the embarrassing feelings she had evoked in someone else by wearing clothes she felt self-conscious in,” says Olsen.

“The goal wasn’t to select items that were cheap; it was to buy things Kaylee said she hated,” she adds, citing that as the reason for the items shown above.

Although Kaylee cried about it, the next day she did in fact go to school wearing one of the outfits under a coat that she had zipped up to her neck.

To solidify the punishment, Olsen snapped a photo of Kaylee wearing the outfit (her face was blurred to protect her identity) and posted it on Facebook.

Kaylee wore the clothes to school, where she was laughed at, and was also made to attend her father’s soccer game wearing the same clothing.

“We wanted adults to see the example we set," Ally said.

Pretty harsh and over the top, right? Depends on your point of view. Ally says Kaylee handled the ordeal with grace - and came away better for it.

Kaylee said the kids laughed at her ... and that she felt so bad that she pulled the bullied classmate aside and apologized for her previous behavior.

“What people don’t understand is that Kaylee genuinely learned from it. She actually thanked me for making her go through that,” said Olsen.

“I’m keeping the clothes, too, just in case we hear that she is mean to other kids again. Hopefully one day, we’ll be able to laugh about it.”

Shaming misbehaved children is hardly news, but where's the line between a parent setting an example and being inappropriate? You be the judge.

What do you think of this girl's punishment: Right or wrong?

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I GIVE HER 2 THUMBS UP AND A "G" FORMATION FOR GREAT!!!!!....Being that my son is NOW in psychiatric therapy for "bullying"...You can't imagine the hurt and worthlessness feeling we've had to endure because of "children" like that... So to "those" who comment..."She needs to be reported to CPS or bad parenting" needs to reevaluate their lives because either they were "bullies" themselves or have nannies raising their children and don't deal with issues themselves....People get judged and thrown into jail for spanking their kids but on the flip side they get judged and criticized for things like this...maybe if parent's disciplined even with reverse psychology...our prisons and reformatories wouldn't be so over populated...chew on this for a bit!

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@ Judy

This hands down has to be the stupidest thing I've ever heard, not to mention it doesn't even make any sense. If you're going to cite the Bible - make sure you understand the underlying message...this clearly is not it.

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This woman is actually not the mother and it sounds like to me that bullying is a learned behavior in this home! Allowing the child to be pubically riddiculed is assine who is the adult here? That woman should be forced by child services to attend parenting classes!!! Child psychology teaches us that this is an inappropriate manner to handle the situation at best at worst it's a form of psychological abuse what's next diaper discpline?!?

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@ ashley

USA places too much stress on psychology...the world got along fine without any psychologists. In fact with their emergence, people do not take responsibility and look for someone else to blame for their problems on.

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@ ashley

yeah child psychology teaches us nothing but try to be friends with our children the exact reason bullying is on the uprise cause you have these so called experts who know nothing telling us this is wrong an this is right . she learned from the ordeal an probably won't do it again. it is not abuse what was abuse is letting children get away with everything an try to reason with them by saying stuff such as think about the consequences really if there was never any consequences then what is there to think about .kids need parents not friends.

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@ ashley

Except that this method actually worked - the girl apologized for the bullying without prompting from her parents. Whereas child psychology methods rarely if ever provide positive results - except for making parents feel better about themselves and making child psychologists a little richer.

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The girl realized her mistake and apologized. Where's the wrong in that?

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I give this mom an A+! Wonderful job MOM!!

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AWSOME parenting! and a WONDERFUL idea for parents of bullies everywhere!!

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I don't understand why this article refers to Ally Olsen as Mom? She is the fiancé of the girl's dad. Not even a stepmom yet. Why wouldn't the girl's dad be the one to discipline?

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@ Ann

Ann...I agree. Ally is not Kaylee's stepmother...yet. Disciplining/punishing Kaylee should have been up to either Kaylee's mom or dad. Or both. And...for Ally to post Kaylee's punishment (or whatever) on Facebook is DUMB AS HELL!!!!! All of this makes me wonder if Ally has any kids of her own? Bottom Line here: Ally was WAY out of line!!!!!

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Um okay so the writer of this has asked in the title if this is "Right Or Wrong?" and then goes and writes a totally biased article?

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yes, way to go mom. The wtiter of this is wrong.Some child might have to wear this outfit because its all they have. A little girl in a dress is not heinous. The girl the story is about is a little snob.

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I think this was completely right thing to do. It made her apologize! There is different ways a kid can be bullied an dhow do you punish a kid for it? People say how do we stop the bullying, how can we get through to them? They want action well here it is. This was unharmful to the child no physical abuse, just a lesson learned for causing such a mental abuse on another child. Stopped the bullying before it escalated to high school. Good job. !

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I agree with u mom..you did the right thing