Girl, 10, Forced to Wear Heinous Clothes as Bullying Punishment: Right or Wrong?

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A Utah woman is courting controversy by reprimanding 10-year-old for bullying - by giving her a taste of her own medicine, public humiliation style.

Ally Olsen, 41, discovered that her fiance’s 10-year-old daughter, Kaylee, had been bullying a classmate because of the way she dressed.

As a result, the victim no longer wanted to come to school. When Ally heard this, she was upset at Kaylee, and responded in unorthodox fashion.

  • Bullied Child Pic
  • Bullied Child Picture

"I confronted Kaylee who explained that she had called another girl ‘sleazy’ for wearing Daisy Duke shorts and a tank top," Olsen told Yahoo! Shine.

"We’ve taught Kaylee to dress conservatively but never to be judgmental.”

Olsen said Kaylee was unapologetic, so grounding her "wouldn’t resonate.” So she took action, and took her to the thrift shop. Macklemore would be proud.

As Kaylee deemed various articles of clothing “ugly” and “embarrassing,” Olsen had her try them on as a joke, then bought them for her as punishment.

“I wanted Kaylee to truly experience the embarrassing feelings she had evoked in someone else by wearing clothes she felt self-conscious in,” says Olsen.

“The goal wasn’t to select items that were cheap; it was to buy things Kaylee said she hated,” she adds, citing that as the reason for the items shown above.

Although Kaylee cried about it, the next day she did in fact go to school wearing one of the outfits under a coat that she had zipped up to her neck.

To solidify the punishment, Olsen snapped a photo of Kaylee wearing the outfit (her face was blurred to protect her identity) and posted it on Facebook.

Kaylee wore the clothes to school, where she was laughed at, and was also made to attend her father’s soccer game wearing the same clothing.

“We wanted adults to see the example we set," Ally said.

Pretty harsh and over the top, right? Depends on your point of view. Ally says Kaylee handled the ordeal with grace - and came away better for it.

Kaylee said the kids laughed at her ... and that she felt so bad that she pulled the bullied classmate aside and apologized for her previous behavior.

“What people don’t understand is that Kaylee genuinely learned from it. She actually thanked me for making her go through that,” said Olsen.

“I’m keeping the clothes, too, just in case we hear that she is mean to other kids again. Hopefully one day, we’ll be able to laugh about it.”

Shaming misbehaved children is hardly news, but where's the line between a parent setting an example and being inappropriate? You be the judge.

What do you think of this girl's punishment: Right or wrong?

 

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I think she did right. The children of today do not have no respect for anyone these days. I blame it on the parents for not wanting to take charge of their children, or, the time to discipline them when they do wrong.

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What she did to the girl proves problems and depression in her family that is just wrong she's only ten there's other punishments . Her family is not a right one for her

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@ Mary

seriously it was wrong to disipline her she did not hit her , it was a way of showing her how it felt for the other girl. it's people like you that make it ok for kids to bully .for real someone actually does something that did not cause physical harm which is what some of us would have gotten an you wanna say that crap .

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@ Mary

@Mary
"Her family is wrong" !!! Are you a psychologist looking to blame everyone except the bully ? This is why USA has "Victim Syndrome"

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@ Mary

So you think that is wrong? I mean that is actually nothing compared to what some other kids get. Some kids get beaten and that just causes more bullying what she did stop it. Kids who bully need to know how it feels to be bullied themselves. That woman did something most parents would do

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Gee, those look like dresses I used to wear! I don't think they're "heinous" at all. : )

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@ ems

I agree - I looked at those pics and thought, hmmm, where are the ones where she's wearing something heinous?

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Better than beating her which would only cause resentment and more bullying. Meting out same treatment makes the bully know how bd it is and in most cases, stops the bullying

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I would do the same if one of my kid is bulling someone else!!!

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While I think the methods are good, this isn't her child, it's her fiance's and he should be meting out the correction.

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What the fuck is wrong with you people she is a 10 year old girl. Girls bully other girls at that age. She shouldn't have been made to wear those clothes.

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@ Janine henry

And if not stopped, that 10yr old girl would have continued bullying as a teenager and adult too

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@ Janine henry

The effects of bullying lasts a lifetime - I should know, I'm nearly 62 and try as I might, I can't rid myself of what happened to me

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@ Estelle

You are right. But someday maybe you and I will run into our bullies and tell them off. I have in the past run into a few and when they tried to speak to me I just walked away. I also am a senior.

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@ Janine henry

that is an excuse that people use that do not want to do anything about it . sorry but she did need someone to step in an put an end to it. what would you do if it was your child she was bullying pretty sure the girls bully other girls at that age would not fix it for you so why should it for anyone else. an it is better the adult stepped in an put a stop to it early then wait til she gets in high school an does it so much the other girl a.kills herself or b. kills someone else because she felt like no one cared enough to step in. just saying . it is that attitude that makes it acceptable for bullies to do it.

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@ Janine henry

Just because some do it doesn't make it right. Bullying is NEVER right!!!

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@ Frogmore

it does not matter the age bullying should never be accepted an tolerated. that is what is wrong is people like you with that attitude .if caught early an corrected it will stop. but the kids will be kids excuse is just that an excuse for people who do not want to discipline their children.

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@ just+me

replied to wrong one sorry

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@ just+me

Excuse me but am pretty frogmore said he was against bullying

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Good for the lady who tried to show how it feels when you make fun of people. The problem is the parents of children who Do the bullying don't care, they should be made to answer for it.

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@ halloween

sorry replied to the wrong one

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Making a fool or a mockery of your child is not good parenting. In fact, it's nothing short of child abuse and probably the exact reason why the kid is going around bullying other kids in the first place. Stuff like this seriously makes me sick - children are a product of their environment and if your kid is bullying other people there is either a) some kind of underlying issues that needs to be addressed or b) they're seeing it happening between their parents or other family members.

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@ haas10

Child abuse is rarely why children bully other children. People bully because they find an easy target, and that's wrong. Easy targets should be supported, not bullied. What's wrong with this though, IMHO is, this isn't HER child. It's her fiance's child, and he should be meting out the correction, not her.

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@ Frogmore

Obviously they live together and planning to get married. Therefore the girl needs to know the stepmother will correct her when needed and he stands behind her decisions. I've been in that situation and if the father hadn't supported her the girl would also bully her stepmother. What she did didn't hurt anyone and it stopped the girl from bully others, she learned a very valuable lesson from this. One so many parents fail to teach their children these days...

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The Bible says to do unto others the way you want them to do unto you. She (the daughter) should have remembered that before she started bullying the other child.