Rihanna on Chris Brown: If It's a Mistake, It's MY Mistake!

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Rihanna is opening up about getting back together with abusive ex-BF Chris Brown and the impact on her public image. Whatever happens, she seems okay with it.

"I decided it was more important for me to be happy," she tells Rolling Stone in a new interview. "I wasn't going to let anybody's opinion get in the way."

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"If it's a mistake, it's my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I'd rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it."

It was nearly four years ago that Brown attacked her before the 2009 Grammy Awards, pleaded guilty to felony assault and was sentenced to probation.

Rumors of them getting back together have come and gone ever since, but exploded last fall when he dumped Karrueche Tran because of his "friendship" with Rih.

Rihanna concedes that this is a complicated situation that others may not approve of:

"When you add up the pieces from the outside, it's not the cutest puzzle in the world."

"You see us walking, driving somewhere, in the studio, in the club, and you think you know. But it's different. We don't have those types of arguments anymore."

Adds the 24-year-old superstar or her relationship, "We talk about shit. We value each other. We know exactly what we have now, and we don't want to lose that."

Not that what happened between Rihanna and Chris Brown is lost on her, of course. If he were ever to display a hint of his past behavior, she says she's DONE.

"He doesn't have the luxury of fucking up again," she says. "That's just not an option."

"I can't say for certain that nothing else will ever go wrong between us. But I'm pretty solid in the knowing that he's disgusted by [what happened]."

"I wouldn't have gone this far if I ever thought that was a possibility."

Have you lost respect for Rihanna for taking Chris back?


I believe that it is good for Rihanna to reunite with her ex, Chris Brown. At least she can move forward, leave the past behind, heal, and be happy. She was with some other guy previously. But, I could tell that she did not really have anything in common with him. If Chris Brown is the only guy whom she can be herself totally, then she should be with him. No one else has a right to tell her and Chris Brown what to do because they are grown adults.

@ Ernest

You could tell that she had nothing in common with 'some other guy'? Did you seriously just say that? How could you tell she had nothing in common with this other guy? What is his name since you seem to know so much about the relationship? You don't know her personally so you could never know anything about what she did and didn't have in common with anyone. You don't even know what her and the douche bag Chris have in common for that matter. But you seem to think they belong together....what....so he can beat the living shit out of her again? Once a wife beater always a wife beater. He is playing her for a fool while he continues to date Karrueche Tran. If he loved her as much as you seem to think he does he wouldn't have beat her and he wouldn't keep her in a love triangle. She is young and foolish. They won't last. Just watch.

@ Kellie

I'm sorry but your comment is simply not factually correct. As a licensed therapist for over 22 years, it is simply not correct that if someone uses physical violence to deal with their feelings that they always will. I have worked with countless individuals who have learned how to communicate effectively after having been abusive in a relationship. Statistics show that somewhere between 26 to 30 percent of relationships have some form of intimate partner abuse during the course of the relationship. In other words, if you put 4 people in a room at least one of them is involved in some sort of abusive behavior. People who engage in intimate partner abuse are our neighbors, our family members and our friends. It crosses every ethnicity and socio-economic level. First time domestic violence offenders rarely spend time in prison or jail, which is the reason that diversion programs are common for first time offenders. Crimes of passion are very common in our society......much more common then random violence. Victims are most often known by their perpetrators. People can and do learn how to cope with aggressive feelings and go on to have healthy productive relationships. I understand that the common mythology about domestic violence suggests that people are abusive will always be, but this is simply not factual. Please do some research before you blog about things of which you have little understanding. With a problem as important as intimate partner abuse, society needs to be fully educated and people need to be helped, not vilified.


I am one of those people who has totally lost respect for Rihanna. I never like her to begin with, now all the more, I can't stand the bitch. First of all, when a man punches the living daylights out of you, that should be enough to end it PERIOD>>>>> What the hell is wrong with her?? I hope he beats the living crap out of her, & then she will look like the DUMBEST MORON on earth. Hate her & Hate him. UGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


She's an idiot for going back with him she's asking for everything he gives her. Going back is telling him it's OK to beat the life out of her. He didn't deserve probation he should have spent a very long time behind bars for it.

@ Ms Billie

Long time behind bars, you mean like Charlie Sheen and Mel Gibson. He was 19 when this happened, CS and MG are grown ass men and should know better!!


No I respect her more bcus love is something dat u can not fight be happy Riri


Even though I deep down know in my soul that this "man" hasn't changed a damn bit, I do however have mad respect for Robyn now that she's said this. Because at the end of it all, it is in fact HER life and she's going to have to learn and make mistakes in life just we all eventually will. And maybe she'll learn that she and Chris don't belong together. And maybe she just needs to get him out of her system by going back with him. Maybe some part of her thinks that she can save him from himself perhaps. Who knows and really who the hell cares ! I just wish for them both to be safe and careful. Young love can be a very volotile and unstable mix when under the spotlight of Hollywood and the audience abroad. Not to mention public opinion. So I wish she and Chris well for thier own sakes. But if Chris does step out of line, I hope that she's at least practiced krav maga!


She's an idiot, and he is a Neanderthal. I'll be interested to see the reaction of the public, of her, and the police the next time he beats her to a pulp. And we already know that will happen. I am ashamed of myself for buying some of Chris Brown's music.

@ Jimmy T

And you know that he is going to beat her again because you have a crystal ball and can see into the future!! Give me a break, why don't you talk about the other celebs for the last four years, Charlie Sheen, Mel Gibson, Emeneim and the list goes on and on. Did he hold a knife to her throat or knock any of her teeth out?

@ Just Saying

You keep bringing up Charlie Sheen, Eminem and Mel Gibson. Well, Charlie shot Kelly Preston in the foot years ago. She still with him? No! Eminem threatened his wife for years? Together? No! Mel Gibson...exactly. The public forgave Eminem because he showed he wanted to change and willing to. Mel is crazy and has lost status in Hollywood. And Charlie is just a joke and is ignored now. So, why bring them up? No one elevates them to a high status. When it is interview time, those incidences are mentioned. Chris is no different. He beat her in the face. He had a history of abusing her. He may kick her teeth or do something worse next time. He may not. The point is this young woman needs therapy and is in a toxic relationship. She also has fans who care. Oh, and I guess him cheating on her and fighting all over the place is okay too? Not vilifying the dude, but he has problems and no one is addressing it. HE is being made a victim and that will not help him get the help HE needs either.


Oh please, people fight. There is a difference in being in a fight and being abusive. I have always said Rihanna knows the truth and what she did and what Chris is all about. We all have been in some type of fight so that makes ALL of us abusive.

@ Terry

There is a big difference between a fight and abusive. To me a fight is with a total stranger and abusive is when u r in a relationship with that person. Don't confuse, I have never been in a fight with someone I am dating. Sounds childish.


You must remember, she come from a country where women are abuse, it's their culture, when you're growing up around abuse, then it seem to be a natural everyday occurrence's, no big thing, it a way of life, they don't know any better?

@ Steve

WOW! There is a difference between being in a fight and having your face bashed in by your boyfriend. You act like it was not big deal what happened between them. He kicked the crap out of her, and had her head outside of a moving car near the group...as in almost killed her. Yes we have all be in a fight with a SO....but I myself have never been hit by a guy, and I would never stay with or go back to a guy who did. How can you act like what he did to her in nothing? Go look at the pictures!

@ Stella

It was a big deal and very wrong what CB did to her, but it is her life to live and when you continue to hate that person holds power over you. I applaud her to be able to forgive and move on but why doesn't everyone talk about ALL the other celebs for four years who have been in worse situations ie. Charlie Sheen, Mel Gibson and so on, Why is it that the media continues to pick on Chris Brown all the time.


If she has such low self worth that she needs someone who has smashed her face in (and he will do it again) to make her feel whole, she should seek therapy. I was in an abusive relationship for 22 yrs so I know what I;m talking about. Once she's been beaten down to where she has no place to go but up, she may finally see she has to love herself and understand SHE is the only one who can make her feel whole. Once she loves and respects herself, then and only then will she start to meet decent men. The energy you send out, positive or negative, is what draws others to you. She will learn that lesson through Chris Brown after he abuses her again, sadly. I hope it doesn't take her as long as it took me to learn the truth about men who will abuse women. They never change, it only gets worse. Good Luck Rihanna.

@ Hannah

Oh, I totally agree with Hannah. Once an abuser always an abuser. Especially someone like Chris Brown. The man is ALWAYS getting into some kind of mess. Look what happened with Drake and now Frank Ocean. One day he is going to piss off the wrong person and he will be toast! Rihanna, for all her success is a sad girl, who does not value herself. To go back to a man who beat her senseless is a cry for help. But, hey, live your life, girlfriend, cause that which does not KILL YOU will only make you stronger!


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