In Verse: Tammy Lynn Michaels Laments Loss of Wife, Money

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Tammy Lynn Michaels says ex-wife Melissa Etheridge has screwed her and the couple's children out of money.

Etheridge, conversely, has seemingly proven in court that this isn't the case.

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THG is not here to take sides, at least not in this important matter. But we are here to give Michaels props for the most creative way to publicly air one's grievances. Tammy Lynn has taken to her blog to post the following poem:

"pays all the bills"
not entirely true

"pays all the bills she chooses to pay"
"pays all the bills her people thinks
are important enough to pay"
is more accurate

when i went to get cash
just last week
for the three of us to eat

today i was shopping for birthday decor
4th next sunday!
little cash for lunch?
nope- not enough funds
no food
"pays all her bills"
not entirely true

my medical bills?
yes- insurance covers it all
for a small monthly fee
the house? i didn't pick it out
they did
the kids' education?
she chose the private schooling
i'm fine if they're in public

using my kids as pawns? in boston?
i had a choice to come to LA
-see so many thing were bleeding
and i took the choice
her lawyer lies about
me using the kids as pawns -
he should have looked at the schedule
before we left LA- Boston was tentative-
and the silence from her regarding my actions
breaks me, as she lets the world think
(again) something else is true
than what is and was.

she plays the games with her lawyer now
by being quiet.

i sit here quietly watching her people
launch campaigns against me on the 'net
smudgin' and sludgin'
but they don't know nothin'
what i came into the relationship with
commercial cash and television stashes
working here and there in the marriage

and now some sit in tiny judgement
not knowing how much is fact
how far it goes back
how much is fiction
and how much is opinion.

but i can tell you i've turned from that machine hungry hungry too many times now– and i might never trust another soul again.

and i don't think i know what love is, or a promise. and romance? smoke and mirrors, ladies!!! smoke and mirrors! don't fall for it! it's all a line up for bull that'll leave you with saggy boobs and stretch marks in the end.

and to be honest?

what the fuck is marriage all about anyway? i thought i did everything i was supposed to do. support support support. love family, be there, love, right? all for naught or have i still everything to learn about love? and that was nothing? or the letting go of this is THEE LESSON of loving. argh.

someone told me that chemotherapy just messes with a brain chemistry, changes the brain, the person, and makes them just in general different. they might b meaner, or illogical, often imbalanced, or whatever. but they just don't come out the same. hardly ever, i am told. and they can't help it. it just is.

and i think about that alot too.
posted by Tammy, midwestern girl/Mom


I started listening to ME when I was 23 years old I'm 45 now! I was a fan for a long time however I grew up and got bored with the same old angst and search for endless, fearless, burning, tormented, drama filled LOVE Melissa sings about. I reckon Melissa would do well to hit the pause button on the endless Journey of HER and seriously think about the people like her ex wives and 4 kids who she has written songs about, proclaimed to adore on Oprah and then silenced and left. We are what we do Melissa, our behaviour says an awful lot about us and I don't care how you write it up on some future album what you say is stained more and more by the truth of what you actually DO. What a shame. Tammy I admire you for speaking your truth when you need to, but watch your back.


Marriages break up. No one is owed a lifestyle just because they were married for a short time. Child support is for the kids- not the spouse. Tammy was a cut-rate actress before they were together, she's still a cut-rate actress now. Go out and get a job if you are complaining about not having enough to eat. The kids are in school, you've got the time.


Note to Tammy:
I hope you know that you have many supporters out there who got to "know" you through following your ex-wife's career. We are rooting for you and have no doubt you speak the truth. We see the spin the other side shovels out to maintain the image. Anyone who has been part of or witness to an unjust divorce settlement process understands all too well what all those jerks out there criticizing you don't get. My sister gave up her career to raise her kids and when her wealthy husband blindsided her and walked out to be with someone else, she soon found herself in line at the grocery store with her daughter only to have her ATM and credit card rejected because he had emptied the cash flow and tied up all their credit. Doesn't matter than she had a "roof over her head" or the promise of child support, etc. She didn't have CASH to survive day-by-day. We get it Tammy. We don't get her anymore. Our hearts go out to you.


I feel terrible for Tammy. This is still pretty fresh, not even a year. Hard to turn the page before you've really even had a chance to read it. Stay strong Tammy and don't be bitter. Then you let her win. You deserve so much better.


It is obvious that Tammy Etheridge is hurting over the loss of her marriage. Equally obvious, too, is that if she channels her hurt into finding a job and contributes to the financial well-being of her children, she will be able to turn the page and move on.

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