I read a couple books a few years back on verbal abuse. After listening to the tapes I broke out the books and dissected those tapes. Mel used 37 forms of verbal abuse repeatedly. These forms of verbal abuse are used on prisoners of war. The result being they become very quiet and reserved from the abuse. That was the reaction Oksana had from his abusing her. Her reaction was normal. Her life was in peril. He told her if you hang up on me I'll be over there. Would you have hung up. I don't think so. I also believe she's lived under this abusive behavior for a very long time. She sounds conditioned.

Mel's rants are music to my ears. I can't get enough of this. He's 100% correct and has the full force of righteousness on his side.

This is the saddest thing. He was something important and powerful. He represented family and somewhat good values, supposedly a Christian. Everyone messes up, but this guy really needs someone who loves him to step in and help him. My daughter was engaged to a man like this and one day he just snapped and became the complete opposite of everything that he had presented himself to be. She should run, and run fast!!! Money is nothing!! That baby would be better off with no father than one that is like this.

Yes, sociopathic [psychopathic] narcissism does seem to fit Mel's behavior profile. And yes, it takes strong proof to show abuse and you must build a case. You cannot just run, scream, call police, hang up the phone, push these people over the edge etc. If you want out, and to see them legally held accountable, you must remain calm, have a game plan, and follow it thru. Only way to hope for justice to somewhat be served and to get free. These people are insane, and they can/will drive you there with them. Be informed and learn about psychopathic behavior. For information on this type of behavior refer to Dr. Robert Hare's psychopathy checklist, which is widely used by many health professionals to help diagnose sociopathic personality disorder.

Mel is responsible for his behavior, bottom line. Regardless of her behavior or motives, it does not give him free reign to behave this way. Mel has openly shown himself, on other occasions, to be out of control. He needs to be held accountable and the law needs to see that he is, regardless of his status. But, as someone else has mentioned, look at OJ. As far as Oksana being calm during the taping, yes, I am certain taping had something to do with it, still it is common for the female to become calm during abuse, both verbal and physical. Disassociation and survival take over. Certainly Me's status, wealth and her lack thereof, make for a trapped situation. Both sides have victimized each other. Sure, it's all about $$, but isn't most everything?