Ricky Martin Comes Out as "Fortunate" Gay Man
Ricky Martin, who has dodged questions of his sexuality for years now, officially revealed that he is a gay man in a statement on his website earlier today.
The Puerto Rican singer,, who is planning to write a memoir about his life, says the birth of his twin sons (via surrogate) led to his decision to come out.
Ricky's kids were born in August 2008, and similar to Clay Aiken, he says he did not want to live a lie while raising a child ... in Ricky's case two of them.
His coming out statement is well-written and at times poignant. You have to respect the honesty and emotion behind it, along with Martin's reasoning ...
"A few months ago I decided to write my memoirs, a project I knew was going to bring me closer to an amazing turning point in my life.
From the moment I wrote the first phrase I was sure the book was the tool that was going to help me free myself from things I was carrying within me for a long time. Things that were too heavy for me to keep inside.
Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth.
And this is something worth celebrating.
For many years, there has been only one place where I am in touch with my emotions fearlessly and that's the stage. Being on stage fills my soul in many ways, almost completely. It's my vice. The music, the lights and the roar of the audience are elements that make me feel capable of anything. This rush of adrenaline is incredibly addictive. I don't ever want to stop feeling these emotions. But it is serenity that brings me to where I'm at right now. An amazing emotional place of comprehension, reflection and enlightenment. At this moment I'm feeling the same freedom I usually feel only on stage, without a doubt, I need to share.
Many people told me: "Ricky it's not important", "it's not worth it", "all the years you've worked and everything you've built will collapse", "many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature". Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.
If someone asked me today, "Ricky, what are you afraid of?" I would answer "the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war... child slavery, terrorism... the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith." But fear of my truth? Not at all! On the contrary, It fills me with strength and courage. This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids where born with. Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment.
These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn't even know existed.
What will happen from now on? It doesn't matter. I can only focus on what's happening to me in this moment. The word "happiness" takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.
I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am. - RM
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March 1st, 2011 3:53 PM
senti la necesidad de escriibirte despues de leer tu libro pues no tenia el dinero para conprarlo pero mis hijos sabia que lo queria y mi hija mas pequena me lo regalo para navidad pues estaba recien operada del codo derecho bueno el punto es que eres de los pocos seres humanos tan maravilloso lo mas bello para mi es tu corazon por el corazon tan inmensoo que tienes es lo que se refleja en el exterior de ti si lelleses este comentario quisiera hacerte una pregunta ahora que eres padre que es lo mas bello que hay en el mundo para mi es el verdadero AMOR porque es incondicional yo tengo 3 hijos que son todo para mi tengo una situacion que no se que pensar ni que hacer pues yo me divorcie despues de 24 anos pues se fue con una conocida pero ese no es el punto el no ve a sus nietos oh una de sus hijas la mayor pues el quiere obligar a sus hijos que la hacepten a su esposa los ninos quieren compartir con su padre no con ella el les dijo si no la haceptan a ella no me veran sufro por mis hij
May 15th, 2010 12:37 PM
love is the thing that cont be controlled ricky is lucky that you could got it.and in case of his kids they will not have a mother but they are lucky to have such a most loving father.and it most be the important part of there life.
May 1st, 2010 4:35 PM
I find all these comments hilarious. So just because you want a child, sure, it does mean that you need a woman to do that, but does it mean you have to LOVE or even be attracted to that woman? No. Nothing of the sort. God hates no one. It's never been said in the bible that god hates anyone. God becomes disappointed, but homosexuality has never been taken any action by god, according to your bible. Next time you think that homosexuality is wrong, tell me why it isn't prohibited by the 10 Commandments or a part of the Deadly Sins?
April 10th, 2010 12:44 PM
I rele don't care abt the Bible...dats biblical days and this is modern time...we must cope with the fact that there is an increase in the gay population everyday. We must adapt to it solely and leave the gay ppl alone...ALL ALONE. Way 2 go Ricky!!! We with U!!
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April 8th, 2010 11:18 PM
Ricky martin I salute him because he is a good singer and a good as a person ever, and about to revealed his gender thats great he is true ti his self, Good luck man!
April 3rd, 2010 9:06 PM
Didn't he come out like 2 years ago? Maybe he did to me! Lol! I can't believe all the negative comments. All the crap about the bible. I dare any of you to say that you live a blameless life, attend church religiously(pun intended), follow the teachings of Jesus. All of you should be on your knees asking your God for forgiveness for your hatred & judgement of others. From what I know about Jesus & God, love your neighbor & no one can judge but God. I'm not even a christian & I know that. Shameful, all of you
April 3rd, 2010 8:17 PM
Ricky, YOU are the last to know. Not us. Trust.
WE knew and we loved ya anyway. Give us some credit.
April 1st, 2010 10:46 AM
I thinkk this is the sickes thing ever, why wouldd he have kidss? i know whyy to hide the real truth , THAT HES GAYY, hes a great singer thats rite but it doesnt justify that he's gay, i couldnt believe it i'am 14 yearss old and i have gay friends but not gayy friands that have babies!! Im just so disgusted.
April 1st, 2010 5:44 AM
To Ricky Martin and all the homosexuals around the world you might try to justfy what you are to us the humans but to God u are worse than dogs ,used to like u Ricky but from taday i am burning all your CDs.Why try and justify yourself logically without even bringing the bible into this a man and man having sex come on guys and the other thing why have children it goes to show that homosexuals are crazy you contradict yourselves by acknowledging that you need a woman to have a child thats the way God wanted it,hence he created Adam and Eve and not Adam and John.Eish wake up people you are the greatest sinners if your government supports it by giving you marriage rights it doesnt mean its right in the eyes of God.
April 1st, 2010 5:42 AM
To Ricky Martin and all the homosexuals around the world you might try to justfy what you to us the humans but God u are worse than dogs used to like u Ricky but from taday i am burning all your CDs.Why try and justify yourself logically without even bringing the bible into this a man and man having sex come on guys and the other thing being why have children it goes to show that homosexuals are crazy you contradict yourselves by acknowledging that you need a woman to have a child thats the way God wanted it,hence he created Adam and Eve and not Adam and John.Eish wake up people you are the greatest sinners if your government supports it by giving you marriage rights it doesnt mean its right in the eyes of God.