Nicole Lamarche on Carrie Prejean: Gay Marriage Stance is Flawed

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While it's always nice - and entertaining - to hear the thoughts of various celebrities, Miley Cyrus, Heidi Montag and others that have confronted the issue of gay marriage over the last few days aren't exactly qualified to speak on the topic.

Then there's Nicole Lamarche.

Like Carrie Prejean, Lamarche was named Miss California in 2003. She's now an ordained minister at Cotuit Federated Church in Cotuit, MA.

Lamarche has released a statement that defends the rights of gay couples to marry. To sum up, she says:

  • Those - such as Prejean, who said her answer was "biblically correct" - that cite the Bible in their anti-gay marriage stance are simply picking and choosing a passage or two that appears to back up their beliefs.

However, the same Book (Leviticus) that claims "lying with men" is an "abomination," condemns the act of eating shrimp and lobster together, as well as wearing material woven of two kinds of material, in the same exact way.

  • Therefore, while it's impossible to interpret the Bible literally and live one's life according to every passage, it's quite possible - nay, encouraged - to live one's life according to what Christians believe God to represent: love, for all people, especially outcasts.

Makes perfect sense to us.


Lamarche writes:

"As a pastor and a former Miss California, I am often asked to interpret what the Word of God has to say on a particular subject. I am quite confident that God prefers that we human beings stick to speaking for ourselves. And yet there are occasions when God’s Word is used as a weapon, and I feel compelled to speak.

In the past few days, much has been made of the words of Miss California USA, Carrie Prejean. She stated that marriage is between a man and a woman. I write not in response to her opinion, but rather about her comments that followed: that the Bible condones her words. She said, 'It's not about being politically correct, it's about being biblically correct.' While this sentiment is shared by many who seek to condemn gay people and gay marriage, citing pieces of the Bible to further one’s own prejudice fails to meet the Bible on its own terms.

Most people seeking to condemn gay people point to the Book of Leviticus, where we read that men lying with men is an abomination. However, we rarely hear of other verses found in the book of Leviticus that are equally challenging. For example, Leviticus also tells us that eating shrimp and lobster is an abomination. And that a person should not wear material woven of two kinds of material—an impossible mandate for a pageant contestant!

In Paul’s letter to the community in Corinth we read, ‘For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church….’ And yet these words have not prevented Christian denominations from ordaining women, such as myself. Sadly, the Bible has been used to further prejudice throughout history. We have used it to permit ourselves to enslave people; to conquer and kill; and to denigrate the earth.

The truth is that it is difficult to know for sure the intentions of the biblical authors, but we do know something about God. Those of us who know God through Jesus of Nazareth know that he went to great lengths to express God’s love to people who were labeled as outcasts. He spent time with children, prostitutes, and lepers, all of whom were labeled as outside of the grasp of the Holy. As we continue to seek God’s vision for us as a nation grounded in a love for justice, I pray that we might move closer to the cause of grace.”


Steve: I hate to argue b/c it just goes round and round but the way I see it is that people that scream "Tolerance" from the mountain tops are the first to jump down someones throat if they disagree. How's that for tolerance?
Again, I am sorry if all Gays feel hated and I can not appoligize for that enough. A true Christain should not judge or hate we should follow Christs example. Jesus loved so that he could show us the right path. The only people he really got on were the Religous Leaders b/c of their hypocrisy. There is Right and Wrong people and like it or not the Bible is the truth and it will set you free.


ditto to bobwhite. I don't understand how people can read arguments such as white's and continue to accuse Christians of being judgemental, arrogant, and prejudiced. The issue at hand threatens to destroy the very foundation on which our church and community was created - the marriage between a man and a woman. As many have written, Lamarche basically took a few passages from the Bible out of context, and twisted them so that they apply to what she believes. By doing so, she only demeans her own reputation as a pastor. Perhaps she should take a few more theology classes before making her next sermon.


Wow Im reading posts by you so called Christians and basically you can easily say, based on your responses, that you have no tolerance for another perspective. I pray that you all see the light and learn what a true Christian is really all about.


Godless liberals always pull out the seafood passage, etc... in the OLD testament. Jesus came to replace the OLD with the NEW testament and his disciple Paul is clear on sexual immorality. You go Carrie!


Hilton asked a question as to the lady's opinion. she gave it, as she is entitled to under the laws of our Republic. Now the gay community jumps all over the poor soul. Get with it people, everyone is entitled to an opinion and if it doesn't agree with yours just don't get huffy. My personal opinion of the Gay/Lesbian community is , let them alone and when they find out that they can't procreate on their own it will be too late, just like the religious group in Pennsylvania years ago, they didn't believe in sex, marriage yes but sex NO. They died a very quiet death before they were even aware of the problem. Women can't procreate without a man and a man can't, without a woman, that is real life.


But Christ never condoned any such actions of us sinners. Never! It is interesting that Lamarche brings in specious arguments to butress her pro homosexual stance. What does eating shrimp have to do with homosexuality other than to confuse (or attempt to confuse) the issue.


The Bible is not a very trustworthy authority in moral matters, for it consistently offers contradictory views on any given subject. In other words, any position can be supported by scripture. Want to promote slavery? "Slaves, obey your masters." says the New Testament. Want to abolish slavery? Another New Testament gem: "In Christ there is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, there is neither male nor female." (The last category really frustrates biblical bigots.) Try this at home with any aspect of morality, and you'll find ways to support the view you already hold anyway. So let's stop trying to get God on our side--either side--and start trusting in our own experiences and convictions to determine right from wrong. By the way, I officiated at the wedding of Nicole and her (male) husband. You needn't be gay to be enlightened.


Ms. Lamarche, is Biblical not true. I emailed her to educate her on what the New Testament says about the matter. Romans 1:22-27 is pretty clear about whether or not God likes the gay lifestyle. The Whole Bible should be followed, but it must be presented in the proper context, ie. we don't live under Old Testament Law if it addressed in the New Testament. Unfortuneatly, Ms. Lamarche basically takes a few sound bites of the bible and twists them to make her point. Problem is if you read the entire text of the scriptures she gave, it shows her misrepresenting what the Bible says. I will pray God open her mind to his truth. There are millions of Ordained Ministers who would disagree with her view. My guess is, she is gay herself or she has many gays in her congregation and is she is trying to justify their lifestyle.


ditto to bobwhite.


Your entire point, "tony AhMU" and others that take this view, is that gays "pick and choose" to be gay. Why do you think gay people would choose that sexual preference? Did you ever choose to be straight? Given all the discrimination and obstacles against homosexuals, why on earth would anyone ever choose to be that way?
God created us in His image. There's no caveat to this that makes an exception for gay individuals. They are who they are. There is no choice involved.
Do you honestly believe God wants you to run through the Bible, line by line, determining on your own which rules to follow, as opposed to simply acting in a, overall loving, compassionate way toward those around you?


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Carrie Prejean Quotes

I think it's great that Americans are able to choose one or the other. We live in a land that you can choose same-sex marriage or opposite marriage and, you know what, in my country and my family I think that I believe that a marriage should be between a man and a woman. No offense to anyone out there but that's how I was raised and that's how I think it should be between a man and a woman.

Carrie Prejean

Marriage is good. There is something special about unions of husband and wife. Unless we bring men and women together, children will not have mothers and fathers.

Carrie Prejean