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July 5th, 2008 8:55 AM
I quoted the above from the story simply because there really isn't a way to know the true reaction of his fans because the fan boards, including Clay's Official Fan Club message board won't allow his fans to discuss this story. It is off limits. Period!!! It is true that neither Clay nor Jaymes have made a comment one way or the other so no one knows if this story is even true.
This media story from a trash/gossip tabloid was, however, posted at the Official Fan Club by an over zealous, got to be the first to post, post-whore who is a moderator and goes by the name butterflyshine. If you don't believe me go over and see how many threads are started by her. She needs to be fired!!!!! Some members there feel that if it were true then Clay should be the one to announce it not the media and certainly not a moderator who doesn't know if the story is true or not and who broke the rules of the board by posting a story that is "speculation" "gossip" and/or "personal". Shame on her for breaking the rules of the board that she has been chosen to enforce.
Some of his fans feel that by Clay not addressing it in some form or fashion is a poor, lame way to treat his devoted, extremely supportive fans. His career depends on fans and while he might feel that he doesn't owe his fans anything, if the story is true, this is big news and as a card carrying member of his fanclub (Yes! I am a Claymate), his fans do deserve some response to news like this either from him or from a reputable representative appointed by him.
If this story turns out to be true, I would just like to say that many of his fans are not happy about it and are feeling disgusted at the thoughts of it and lied to and betrayed by Clay. Disgusted at the thoughts of it in general and disgusted that he hasn't told us. Some feel betrayed and let down by a man who we have believed to be the epitome of wholesomeness and the values that he has espoused to. Just a thought to ponder.... having a baby outside of marriage doesn't sound much like "God's Will or God's Path" that he would want us to follow.
There are some fans who feel that this is just another media story that plays into the old and overdone adage that Clay's fans are all a bunch of old women who are gray haired and ready for the nursing homes. So since Clay don't have any young, attractive, healthy, vibrant fans he has taken an old one who is on the edge of menopause to have his baby. Maybe he hasn't heard and she didn't share the info on the possibilities of "birth defects, retardation and Downs Syndrome" with women bearing children in the menopausal age.
The other theory is that the media has come up with this story to in someway represent Clay's "coming out" and that Jaymes is merely a surrogate Mom for Clay and his lover. That is tired and overdone too. How many times and how many ways does one have to say that they are not gay!?!?!
Whenever this story reaches fruition, I just hope that Clay still has some fans. The outlandish story of the love struck gay marine who was theoretically used, abused and dumped at the (in his mind only) altar never made it past the first layer of "new" fans who didn't have a clue about Clay Aiken. The gay webcam stories bit the dust with a huge chuckle when the pictures surfaced without a head. (Hahahaha .... get real). And now this.
This story, however, seems plausible seeing how he wants children, and he and Jaymes are good freinds as well as co-workers but so is he and Quiana... wonder if her feelings are hurt that he didn't choose her? Or how about Jaime? Yeah it is rumored that she is his cousin but there really is no blood relations since she was related to his step-father and not really related to him at all. So Jaime could have antiseptically mothered a child for Clay by in vitro. How about his long lasting and much trusted friends Kristy or Amy? Or how about his beloved fan and concert side kick "Ethel"? She reported recently that she attended an after party at an event that Clay attended. So they must be very close... wink, wink. Jaymes, however, is new as fans or friends go and again because of her age and location, location, location, too bizarre for many of his fans to swallow.
Right now, as a long time fan, I just refuse to believe anything unless I hear it from Clay. That has been his instructions to us in the past so I am sitting still and waiting to hear from him. I do have an opinion, however, on the media story though and my opinion is "TOO BIZARRE" for this Claymate who knows or thinks that she knows THE MAN.
July 5th, 2008 9:19 AM
As I read your whole post "Using My Voice" I found it a bit contradictory. First, you say no one is allowed to discuss it on the mb's then you start talking about what "some" fans believe. Why don't you just say it is what YOU believe and is YOUR opinion?
Clay is in no way obligated to talk about his personal life to anyone but his closest friends and family. On LKL he said he was taking back his life and since then has not shared personal things like he once did.
That said, it is only natural that many would like to know the facts in this "story". I suspect we will know those facts if and when Clay and/or Jaymes decide to share. For now everything is speculation no matter what side you are on.
As for Clay not being able to take care of himself--haha!! what a joke...I suppose you know him personally and see him regularly? How would anyone know such a thing? It appears to me that he is a man who makes his own decisions without regard to what either fans or haters think. I think it's great he doesn't let those people influence him and just goes about living his life.
July 5th, 2008 11:15 AM
In response to rs at 9:19 am
I never said that Clay can't take care of himself!!!
I don't think that you know what the word contradictory means. It is not contradictory to say that no one is allowed to discuss this subject on his fan message boards and then to relate what fans are thinking and saying outside these message boards. It is two totally different subjects but not contradictory. There are definitely other conversation mediums other than fan message boards. Have you ever heard of private blog sites, private fan clubs, private fan meetings, private emails, telephone, etc. where people are allowed to express their feelings? I doubt it because you are probably one of those who only hangs out and gets all your information at fan message boards where they don't really know anything.
You just sound like a fan who believes whatever you think that Clay would want to hear. As if you would know. Errrr that means that you have no opinion on the subject, you just argue with those who do. Boring!!!!!
I will go back to my original true meaning for posting (even though it goes over some people's heads) and that is that all fans are not thrilled at the prospects of Jaymes Foster, a 50 year old menopausal fan/friend/co-worker, having Clay's baby when there are many young healthy females around him who are sincerely trusted friends, co-workers, and fans and are people who he has known for many, many years.
July 5th, 2008 2:04 PM
Although some negative comments were posted about this on Clay Aiken's OH-ficial fan board, they were later deleted by the inimitable and over the top moderator/claymate, Butterflyshine.
And it is NOT Clay Aiken's private business. A baby is PUBLIC business when it is conveived in as weird and bizarre circumstances as this. Many fans DO NOT believe what he has allegedly done fits in at all with the personna he projects. God would NEVER lead anyone down the path of having an illigitimate child. The devel's handy work yes, but God's plan? Absolutely NOT.
I no longer trust Clay Aiken to be the personna he projects.
July 5th, 2008 3:59 PM
The comment on Clay not being able to take care of himself should have been directed to "she'snotasoldasyouthink,butstill", Sorry that wasn't made clear.
Although I believe it is Clay's private business I will say that I personally don't agree with all his choices either, but it is his life to live. Going one step further, Jaymes took full advantage of Clay to tie herself to him as the ultimate Claymate.
And I also agree about butterflyshine. It's time for her to retire as an OFC mod. She plays favorites and promotes her own agenda--anything but impartial.
And for Katicans--people change. Clay was 24 then, he's almost 30 now. People change a lot over a period of six years and especially with the crap that has been thrown at him. He hasn't projected that personna for a long time, the fans have put that on him. Don't be so judgmental.
July 5th, 2008 5:32 PM
I don't understand the title of this blog. So, any fan that is happy for Clay and Jaymes is labeled "insane?" We're only sane if we're NOT happy that a precious, very wanted child is about to enter the world? Strange reasoning, that.
July 5th, 2008 5:36 PM
[quote]God would NEVER lead anyone down the path of having an illigitimate child. The devel's handy work yes, but God's plan? Absolutely NOT.
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And Katicans - I wonder how one can be so versed in what the devil's handiwork is and not even be able to spell it.
You have no idea what God might have led Clay to do. You don't even know the relationship between Clay and Jaymes, only what the tabloids, whose sole agenda seems to make every move Clay makes into something gross and icky, had to say about it. They could be a married couple for all we know.
July 5th, 2008 5:54 PM
I can spell. I just can't type very well. What's your excuse for misspelling music?
"They could be a married couple for all we know."
Quit kidding yourself. If they were married we would most certainly know about it. Of course, they could still get married. I would throw up but at least it would give this precious, innocent, unborn child the legitimacy he deserves.
I will say it again. Perhaps your 'god' might but the God I know and love would not lead anyone down the path Clay has taken! It would be like saying God would lead someone to steal. That's just crazy. God does not lead people into sin and shame on anyone who says He does!
July 5th, 2008 7:32 PM
I am a Clay Aiken fan. And, however this story turns out, I will still be a fan. At the moment, I really do not believe Clay is the father. I just don't think this is something Clay would do, unless he was in love with the person. And, well, yea, maybe he and Jaymes are secretly married. But, really, I don't think so. If by chance it is true. .it is veyr possible, Clay could have done it for Jaymes.. as in helping her out as a friend. Clay is very giving and generous. In that respect I could see him doing this for Jaymes. Not for himself. But. then in that same resepct.. unless, Clay were to walk away, and let Jaymes raise this baby 100% herself. It's the only way I could se Clay doing this. He would want to be apart of his child's life. Not just part time. Not just once in a while. All the time. Which this is why I think Clay did not do this. When asked not too long ago, if Clay would ever adopt a child from any of the countries, he's visited with UNICEF. He said, no, cause it wasn't the right time in his life for a child, cause he wouldn't have the time he would want to devot to a child. So.. then we're supposed to believe he would turn around a father a chlid, and let the chlid live for the majority of the time across the country from him, or in another country? (Jaymes resides in LA and in Vancouver.)
What I think is very sad, is all these no reputable rags, publish these kinds of stories, and the public is so quick to believe anything they read. And, then.. even faster to judge. Clay has alwaus said ,he does the best he can by his faith, but he said weather it be his faith or other aspects of his life, he is not perfect. And, he doesnt' pretend to be. Sure.. Clay has shared hiw faith with us, and uses many examples of how his faith guides his life. At the same time, this is why Clay is so very uncomfortable, with his fans sticking him up on a pedistal and pretending he never does anything wrong. And, then when he does make mistakes. ( not this baby rumor, but other minor things). Everyone is ready to jump up in arms, and tar and feather him for the slightest things that he does wrong. Clay is not perfect. Sometimes, his advisors around him are not perfect. No body is perfect. And, it's amazing how, Clay can do all of these wonderful things.. but, then if he chose something for him,that was right to him.. sure, not everyone is going to like his choice.. but, they are ready to just abandon him. Can the man not do anything that is just a little off? When was he made a saint. He's a human being. With a heart, and a brain, and feelings, and maybe doesn't always make the choices we like. But, he needs to please himself first. No matter what the outcome of this is.. if he is the baby's father. If they are married or not. Clay is still the best role model out there. I would love to see a celebrity who has more integrity and morals then Clay Aiken. When all is said and done, I wouls still want my children looking up to Clay, then anyone else out there today.
Clay will say whatever needs to be said, about this situation when he is ready. It is possible, he has been advised not to say anything yet. There could be many reasons for this. I just am so sad, that so many , are ready to jump and believe people like TMZ. .over Clay first.
July 5th, 2008 10:08 PM
Katican, I don't know what God you know, but my God sets the lonely in families, according to the Bible, and Clay has been set in a new little family with Jaymes and the baby. I love God's plans!
July 6th, 2008 1:15 AM
Oh my word, vtime. If you think an illegitimate child is a part of God's plan for Clay, you need to get re-read the scripture and grasp God's truth instead of twisting the meaning of the verses to acquit Clay. My Bible says God makes a home for the lonely (by providing him with a WIFE and children).
And why do you think Clay is so lonely? He has a family who loves him.
I really feel for all of Clay's remaining fans. He isn't in chains and incommunicado yet he hasn't even blogged so much as a hello. The arrogance he is exhibiting is really mean and thoughtless. The fans who have stuck with him through thick and thin deserve better.
July 6th, 2008 4:35 AM
Katicans, you're an idiot. Noone has the right to expect anything. Its his life, his blog and you are a vicious busybody. Go back to your hater sites Kathy. You've succeeded in proving what a fool you are.
July 6th, 2008 4:53 AM
Clay will comment when he is ready. For many, reasons it is possible that he has been advised not to comment yet. Not commenting, is not arrogance. Clay is the least arrogant person there is. He is just accustomed to dealing with bullies. And, this is exactly what all this gossip is right now. Tabloids being bullies. What I feel even sorrier for, is the fans that walked away, without ever waiting to hear the truth. And, jumping immediatley to the conclusion that TMZ is so honest and forthright. A man who has just spent 5 days in Somalia.. I don't think that is a man who is arrogant.
There could be many reasons why Clay has not commented on this. The one of many, the story was told before Jaymes was ready to tell it. And, if Clay is not the father, then it's not Clay's story to tell. That is just one of many reasons, along with what I opened with.. there could be many reasons, that Clay has been advised to say nothing yet. There is always timing, and a reason for everything Clay does.
And, Clay is not a mean person, or thoughtless. Look at others out there. There you will see mean and thoughtless people. If not speaking to his fans on demand is mean and arrogant, and thoughtless.. then, I suggest people who go find an obedient celebrity to admire. And, then they can talk away about all of the drugs they do, and all the people they sleep with. And, they can explain, why it's all so good, to have lyrics in their songs, about rape, and killing, and other lewd things that children shouldn't be hearing.
I think people need to look at other celebrities out there, and before they cast stones, about morality and role models.. think about what is out there.. and then what Clay stands for. He still stands for everything he has always believed. Yes, he has grown up some. He has gotten more comfortable in this business. He's gotten more comfortable with his fans. He's loosened up a bit. As he says, he's not a saint. He is human. And, he has always claimed, he is not as inncoent, as we may all think. And. .he is a grown man. Still.. his lack of innocence, should be the worst that other celebrities, do out there. You take Clay. .and put him up against, about 90% of the celebrities out there. .and Clay still wins hands down when is comes to morals, and being a good role model.
And, these tabloids.. they need to be locked down for good. They have no business reporting other people's business. I do not care if they are a celebrity or not. YEs.. let them be at movie screenings.. or award shows.. maybe even once in awhlie around town. But, they have no business, poking into anyone's personal lives. And.. worst all reporting stories, that they do not have all of the facts, or have any kind of corraboration. And more then one back up souce. These are people's lives they are messing with. Why doens't anyone knock them off of their pedistal for lack of morality? People need to stop believing everything they hear, the minute they hear it. And. I think it's pretty sad to turn on someone, before knowing the facts. Or knowing the truth. And, then whatever the truth is.. not bothering to find out the circumstances. Clay does not deserev that from his fans. Yes, we've done a lot for him, but so has he done a lot for us. And, he shows us time time again, how much he appreciates us. I think.. it's too bad on the other side. people who just leave at the sign of a little trouble. without knowing what's going on. Whatever happened to loyalty/ Innocent until proven guilty? Whatever happened to giving someone a fair chance? What ever happened to accepting people's choices for their own lives? Even if you don't understand, and approve.. is one thing, enough to just throw someone away? If so. then there are going to be many people in this world who are alone. Cause if they expect so much perfection from the people in their lives.. they will push away everyone, eventually. Cause, everyone makes mistakes. Everyone makes a chioce from time to time,that others may not agree wtih. Does that mean we just cast everyone away? I hope not.
July 6th, 2008 6:04 AM
Well, Katicans, the Bible also says judge not, lest ye be judged. So, I'm not so concerned about 'twisting verses to aquit Clay' since you are not qualified to convict him. You are not in the middle of that faithful man's relationship with God.
You're also not involved in the fans' relationship with Clay, so you can relieve yourself of worry for them about how Clay 'should' do them better.
Have a nice day, full of life. Clay probably is!
July 6th, 2008 11:44 AM
I see the poison pen claymates have arrived. It doesn't take much to get them riled either. Ask any DJ from Maine to California.
They remind me of battered spouses defending the brute who just abused them.
And Vtime, you have just judged Clay Aiken yourself, as "faithful". So it is OK to judge him as 'faithful' but not unfaithful? I see.
And since when have some of Clay's fans had 'a relationship with Clay' other than in a delusional sense?
I never did put Clay on a pedestal like the claymates have but I did expect him to maintain a normal level of decent, moral Southern Baptist behavior. His role model crap now seems hypocritical to me. His deliberate fathering of a child outside the bounds of a legitimate marriage is neither decent or moral behavior in my Book.
And just for the record, I am judging the behavior of Clay Aiken not Clay Aiken. I try to leave things like that to God.
I asked a young Christian man last night if he thought having a child without benefit of marriage was a God plan or a man plan. His answer was "A man plan". I rest my case.
July 6th, 2008 12:07 PM
Faith is what sustains us. We don't put it on and take it off according to what feels comfortable and not is not. It doesn't matter that Clay is older. Your faith grows with age and maturity. So everyone can just drop the old "that was Clay then and this is Clay now" adage. He is the same person, who knows the same Lord and his faith has probably grown not diminished.
I agree with those who have said that fathering a child outside of marriage is not what God would want. So, how it is a good thing to try to go around God's plans for us? Clay needs a wife to have children. That was God's plan for mankind from the very beginning and when he is ready for Clay to be a father, there is no doubt that he will also send him a wife, not a surrogate. Likewise, if it is his will for Jaymes to become a mother, he will send her a husband. However, if Jaymes can't wait she could have gone through many agencies for in vitro rather than have someone that you work for and are friends with to donate sperm. I have a lot of very good, close friends who I love with all my heart but I would never have their babies. Just the thought of having a friends sperm placed inside of me is disgusting.
As I stated earlier, I am still waiting on Clay for the truth. In the meantime, I think that there are some mean, evil, jealous, people who would do anything to divide and conquer his fan base. In the end the truth will be known and if it is the truth then I will walk away even though I have been a devoted and enthusiastic fan from the beginning. There are just some things that turn people away and this would be it for me. I am not judging, but rather the Lord that I serve is. He is the judge and he has given me the instruction book to teach me how to know the difference between right and wrong.
July 6th, 2008 12:51 PM
For all his post-Idol years, Clay has talked about lots of things. Two of those comments have always been the same. It is very difficult to find anyone he could trust - anyone who would love him for his current job, the position and money, or love him for himself. Considering that he felt no one paid attention to him at all before Idol, his comment makes total sense. Also, we must notice that old friends may have elaborated on and reconstructed their knowledge of Clay just for the attention they gained by doing so.
Let's look at the Thank You Clay sent to Jaymes two years ago, in the album cover of A Thousand Different Ways:
"Jaymes Foster: how we ended up on the
same page in each other's lives at the same
time, I may never understand. What I do know
is that I am thankful daily that God saw fit to
introduce me to someone as talented, wise and
genuine as you. That you believed in me
enough to take on this project with me and
stick with it through so much has been one of
the biggest blessings I've been given. But not
as big as the blessing of having you as a
trusted and indispensable friend."
From true, deep friendship often comes real love.
I think it is understandable that these two real friends have enough love between them to joyfully raise a precious, loved and adored child.
Also, please remember that Clay, in November of '07, was about to embark on a new tour, and that there were serious, frightening threats made against him for his first show in Wichita. And they weren't the first nor the last.
I find it a good thing that Clay and Jaymes were planning to keep the child a secret until after it was safely born. No pregnancy is without risk, and his one more than normal. I pray for a safe pregnancy, and a happy, healthy child, who will have been blessed beyond reason. God may very well want Clay or have children. Clay has found someone he loves AND trusts, and I am very happy for him. For Jaymes, always be as happy as this child makes you. You are a very lucky gal.
July 6th, 2008 1:37 PM
AGAIN! No one knows for sure if this baby is Clay's. How about having faith in the man, for his request, not to believe anything you hear until you hear it from him. Why would anyone believe anything that TMZ says on face value.
And. .not only now is Clay being judged, so are people writing here. Again. anyone who writes something here, is all of a sudden lumped into a group, of who you are assuming, somebody is. Remember what it is they say about when you assume something? Well, now here are two assupmtions being made.. that what TMZ says is truth.. and whoever writes something here in defense of Clay, is whatever horrible name you want to call them.
You dont know me. You don't know if I am a fan, or not. Or a Claymate or not. And, dont Claymates.. or whatever level of fan anyone consideres themselves, allowed to speak their opinion? Aren't they alowed to defend?
Someone can come out and trash, and belittle, and degrade Clay. They can spew out all of the lies they believe. And, we're supposed to believe these people are sane and normal? But, as soon as anyone on Clay's side defends him. they're crazy? Or, how was it put, 'a poisened penned' Claymate. So, only saying negative things makes you sane? Why is one side ok to talk about, and the other side is not? Talk about double standard. Talk about bashing people for doing exactly they same thing the others do.. except at least the fans of Clay are positive, and stand up for something, they believe in. The other side spends so much wasted time, talking about how much they hate someone, or don't like what they are doing etc, etc, etc. How sad so many spend so much of their time and energy on hate, and they waste so much of their precious time, on someone they do not like. At least the Claymates, are putting their energy into something positive.
I will never, ever, ever, understand.. why so many hateful people,spend their time and energy on someone they do not like. If you don't like, them, then so be it. Why not spend your time on who you do like. At least that would be more productive.
July 6th, 2008 1:42 PM
Hogwash Jo!
A good and trusted friend would never have put the other in jeopardy of losing a career and being made a laughing stock.
And to all of those who continue to fantasize about a Jaymes/Clay romance, keep dreaming. I have seen and heard plenty of evidence to the contrary. That doesn't mean I don't think they should legitimize this baby. They have made a mess of this unborn child's life. Now they need to clean up their mess. It won't stop the jokes but it will legitimize this child's life. In fact, I think they deserve each other. I can just see it now. Clay pushing Jaymes in a wheel chair to their son's graduation. How lovely.
The high opinion I have had of Clay Aiken's voice has been overridden by a now equally opposite opinion of the man. His behavior has really hurt many, many fans and that trumps the voice every time for me.
July 6th, 2008 3:47 PM
Still, jumping to conclusoins. We do not know the baby is Clay's. I don't know why people believe the tabloids and gossip. Clay's voice isn't only a singing one. He has a speaking voice too. And, his speaking voice tells of the humanitarian and good person he is. I love Clay for all that he does. Not just his singing.
July 6th, 2008 5:45 PM
Katicans is clearly not a former fan. She/he's one of the Clay-Haters who follow Clay articles around as though it were her/his job. Perhaps it is! Perhaps Katicans is being paid to besmirch Clay. That makes more sense to me than to think anyone would bother to be such an obnoxious beast about a perfectly fine young man if they were not getting paid. So, please, pay no attention to her/his rantings. They're simply the crap a creep comes up with. Clay has survived a lot worse than her/his ravings, and will continue to do so....with or without the support of the few soon-to-be former fans who think Clay should do things the way THEY think he should.
July 6th, 2008 8:11 PM
I am sick and tired of this Clay-hater business. For five years Claymates have harped that mantra when anyone didn't think Clay Aiken was perfect. I never HAVE thought he was perfect but I never in my wildest imagination, thought he was capable of this.
Now I understand the members of the Clackhouse. They are all about smut and must have recognized Clay for what he was all along.
I wish someone would pay me...back for all the money I have spent on Clay's CDs and concerts.
July 6th, 2008 8:53 PM
My husband is a Baptist minister. He has often used the passage in Matthew 7:1-5 as his sermon topic. This passage has also been used in Sunday School lessons and study sessions in many Christian churches. The first verse, "Judge not, lest ye be judged," is frequently quoted out of context. In fact, the rest of the passage teaches us that as believers who have examined our own lives and attempted to live according to God's instructions, we are indeed to judge the actions of others in order to help them grow. This verse is not speaking to not judging at all -- it is speaking to not judging unfairly or in any other cheap and selfish way. Jesus was talking to the multitudes who had gathered after hearing of His message and of His healings to ask them to not become like the Pharisees and hypocrites who thought they were above sin.
The passage continues as follows, with commentary in brackets. "For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged [if we judge with an evil heart or dark intent, His judgment of us will reflect it; if we judge nobly and honestly, His judgment of us will reflect that, too], and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you [if we use extremes or exaggerations or other unfair means, our judgment will reflect it]. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye [point out his sins, "minor" in Jesus' example here] and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye [our own sins, even -- and especially -- those we will not admit, magnified by our selective blindness]? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' [tell him of his "minor" sins] when all the time there is a plank in your own eye [that there are greater or the same sins in our own lives which we do nothing about or think we are above]? You hypocrite [pointing out the sins of others while by pretense we think of ourselves as above sin], first take the plank out of your own eye [sincerely ask the Lord for forgiveness and learn and live the Truth and Light by His Word], and then you will see clearly [be in a righteous position] to remove the speck from your brother's eye [to judge and to help him become a better person]."
I think it is important to not interpret scripture out of context and misinterpret its meaning.
I think Clay Aiken is a very good and faithful man. But if this story is true -- and we still have no confirmation -- I believe he was either misguided in his desire to help a friend or impatient in his desire to have a child. I think he probably did pray about the matter. But I don't think he took the time to listen for God's answer. If it is true, it won't be the first time a human has not waited for God's answer. I know that he will very much love any child that he may have, now or in the future, but I don't think having a child in this manner is a very good idea. I expect that there may be difficulties for all involved down the road, but I hope that they will find a way to do what is best for everyone concerned.
July 6th, 2008 9:02 PM
Geesh people, get a grip. Clay is not your brother, your father, your friend or even a familiar acquiantance to any of you. He's a singer, an entertainer. Fans and non-fans alike are way too invested in his personal life. Fans are at least obsessed in a positive way, but the haters are just obsessed in negative way. I can't see why anything Clay Aiken says or does should matter to people who don't like him. That borders on rediculousness. His choices as to the baby have nothing to do with his ability to sing or entertain. They also have nothing to do with his ability to work for charity--having a baby will just reinforce his desire to make a difference for children. I may not care for his choice of partner, but that is his choice and his life. For someone to base their fandom on that means they have been way too involved. Clay can't live the life you want him to live. He lives it his way just as no one can tell you how to live yours. There is way to much that is not known and the tabloids spin everything in a negative way.
July 6th, 2008 10:27 PM
"If it is true, it won't be the first time a human has not waited for God's answer."
I definitely believe Clay didn't wait to hear an answer or he didn't like the answer he heard. As I said, I also hope they find a way to do what is best for the child...which is to marry. I don't think this child deserves a lifetime of jokes being made about him.
I am very public in my disappointment because I have championed the person I thought was Clay to friends and family for a long time. I feel like a fool now and yes, I think I was over invested.
The one lesson I take from this is I will never again invest myself in the success of anyone and especially someone like the person I believed Clay Aiken to be, again.